Did I do the right thing?

[Princess1985]

Please Read and respond back,..I need some help!

To make a long story short,.. I'm 24 and my brother Tony is 29. We both are living in our parents house. I have strong reasons to believe that Tony molest children. I have caught him in suspicious situations more than once with my nieces and nephews. The last time, he tried to spend the night with my nephew and I stopped it and he called me a bitch and punched me in the face. A couple weeks after this incident, he randomly told me that he was smoking weed with my brother John, and he told me that "Supposedly" John told him while he was high that he likes to think about kids while jacking off. Tony also told another person in my family the same thing. I think tony just made that up so people won't think he molest kids and tried to put the blame on someone else.

There is a court date for my parents to get custody of 2 of my nieces tomorrow morning. Tonys bedroom is right next door from the room where the girls will be sleeping at.

I finally after years and years of catching him in suspicious situations, made a report and they said that they will anonymously take care of everything and they are going to say that its not safe for the kids to live here. They said I did the right thing. I feel like I did the right thing too, but I don't know what exactly is going to happen. Is everyone going to know I made the report? If so, how do I respond? What do you all think??? Help!!! Thanks.

Edited February 23, 2010 by Princess1985

[fennel6]

Please Read and respond back,..I need some help!

To make a long story short,.. I'm 24 and my brother Tony is 29. We both are living in our parents house. I have strong reasons to believe that Tony molest children. I have caught him in suspicious situations more than once with my nieces and nephews. The last time, he tried to spend the night with my nephew and I stopped it and he called me a bitch and punched me in the face. A couple weeks after this incident, he randomly told me that he was smoking weed with my brother John, and he told me that "Supposedly" John told him while he was high that he likes to think about kids while jacking off. Tony also told another person in my family the same thing. I think tony just made that up so people won't think he molest kids and tried to put the blame on someone else.

There is a court date for my parents to get custody of 2 of my nieces tomorrow morning. Tonys bedroom is right next door from the room where the girls will be sleeping at.

I finally after years and years of catching him in suspicious situations, made a report and they said that they will anonymously take care of everything and they are going to say that its not safe for the kids to live here. They said I did the right thing. I feel like I did the right thing too, but I don't know what exactly is going to happen. Is everyone going to know I made the report? If so, how do I respond? What do you all think??? Help!!! Thanks.

 

I have no idea what sort of suspicious situations you've found Tony in, but yes- you've absolutely done the right thing. Since you thwarted his sleep-over with one of your nephews, and he's mentioned to you about the other family members masturbatory fantasies, I suspect that Tony will figure it's you who said something. The important thing is that he not be near kids.

[Princess1985]

Thanks Fennel6 for your reply!

The suspicious situations I have caught him in is one time when my 6 year old niece was a baby, I caught him one night in the dark on the floor under a blanket with my niece in her diaper. It was about 3 in the morning, so everyone was sleeping. I took the baby from him, and I asked him where are her clothes, ...and he handed them to me. (They were under his pillow). Tony always buys them toys and candy, and the other day the social worker came to our house to check all the bedrooms because my parents are trying to get custody of my nieces, ...So Tony decided to tape pictures of all my nieces and nephews on the out side of his bedroom door, making it look like he cares about them a lot. ..But that's obviously a front? Right???

Right now everyone is at the court house and my brother Eric(the father of the girls) just text me and said that his lawyer said he might get custody of his little girls, But they haven't gone in yet, and they were suppose to be there at 8:00 am. and it is now 3:54 PM. I know Erics plan was to get custody and then just let them stay at my parents house.

I'm wondering if they haven't gone in the court room because they are investigating the report I made or something. I don't know. What do You, and everyone else think???? Thanks.

[fennel6]

I don't know much about how the courts work, so I'm of no help there.

 

That story about Tony and your infant niece is absolutely repellant- can you talk with Eric and let him know your concerns? And yes, the whole "pictures of the kids" thing on his door is a big crock. The guy is seriously weird. Does he have a job? What else is going on with him? Does he have developmental issues? I'm asking because it's so weird that he would tell you about other family members allegedly fantasizing about children sexually. It's almost like he's checking to see if it's o.k, or like he wants to be found out.

 

Please keep us posted...good luck!

[LynnM28]

Yes, I think you did the right thing...better to err on the side of caution in such a volatile and harmful situation...I am not sure from your post if you have told your parents? Is your relationship such that you can talk to them without a huge family blow up? Or if not, could you somehow let them know anonymously of your suspicions, so they were at least paying attention to what is happening? I'm sorry you are dealing with this, it is a scary and upsetting situation to be in :-(

[Princess1985]

Hey fennel6, Yes! He does have some problems with his mind. I'm glad you were able to pick that up. When he was in high school he was in the special class for slower learners. He does not have a Job, and he has been going to school to try and be a pharmacy tech, but he has been caught cheating so the school is trying to catch him again to kick him out. When people meet him, there first impression is that he may be gay, because he acts feminine and emotional. He gets angry very easily and fast. I told Eric everything, and he acted like he believed me, but he hasn't done anything. I think that maby he doesn't want to believe it or he doesn't know what to do. I'm not sure yet. When everyone got back from court the other day, the word was out that someone made a anonymous call, but none of them knew that I made the call. They are thinking that my nieces mother made the call. Tony is denying everything and he hasn't said one word to me at all. Tony seems nervous that someone made the call. One of my nieces is getting talked to by a psychologist because they believe that something is unusual about her personality. The good news in this Crazy situation is that they are not going to live in my parents house with tony here, and the word is out about the report made and my nieces are being questioned. My nieces are in foster care until the next court date on March 21. If my nieces admit anything that alarms the psychologist, then Tony of course, will be arrested. I'll keep you updated on what happens. Thanks fennel6 for replying back. ...and also to everyone else. I really appreciate that!

Edited February 28, 2010 by Princess1985

[fennel6]

It's good to hear that your complaint has been taken seriously. There's no way Tony should be near any kids. I'm sure he's very nervous right now! I'll keep checking back for updates, princess1985.