Winky25 Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 I am getting married next year and I felt like I have no help from my friends or family. I feel really upset. I do want a wedding and everything that a brides should have Bridal Shower, Engagement Party and Bachelorette Party... Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Joolie Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 Poor you! But don't feel that way. Really, all you have to do is get people involved. My SO had his 40th birthday party this January. For months he talked about what he wanted to do, yet he never actually started planning anything. Finally, two weeks out, he looked at a few places where he could have his party. One week out, he FINALLY let me in on his plans. You can guarantee I did my part, and recruited family and friends to help make it a great party for him. Ugh. Please don't do what he did. haha You decide how you want your parties to go. Get excited about it! Work with professionals or close friends on how you want it to look, OR (like my SO) map it all out yourself. THEN you begin getting people involved. Talk to them about it, ask their help. They KNOW this is a big thing for you. They won't mind getting involved, they will WANT to help you. Sometimes it just takes asking the right people, but they are out there. Link to post Share on other sites
SuburbanOblivion Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 And who exactly says brides 'should' have those things? Wedding magazines? Please. I don't mean this to be rude, although it will probably sound it, but you do realize you are basically complaining because you feel your friends and family won't be giving you things you feel you are *entitled* to have(the parties, the gifts, etc)? They have a word for that- bridezilla. Quit worrying about the *wedding* and be concerned with what really matters- the *marriage*. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 you can recruit the help you need if you just ask for help from friends and family. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 Oh it wont be too hard to get people involved. Just don't start barking orders and freaking out. That will make people scurry like cockroaches! I had no idea that my bridesmaids were planning a Bridal Shower until one of my maids of honor called me the other night and told me that my party was on June 6th. And then she starts mass texting the girls we work with(who are my closest friends), and I'm not allowed to see!!! I'm really getting curious/scared of what's in store, LOL. If you want these things, say so. Or if you're shy you could ask one of your bridesmaids(if you have any), when they think a good time would be for you to have your bridal shower. This works really well if the girl is married or has been to/in a lot of weddings. This way you can come off like you're just curious AND clue them in that you are interested in having one. Link to post Share on other sites
ruthlessflower Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 To be honest, isn't the wedding about getting married and sharing that special moment with your partner and friends/family? If you want their help, ask them. They might be assuming you don't want all the extras or even know what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
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