Colt2187 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Well let's just say it didn't go out as well as I thought. Here's the conversation: Me: Hi ******. How are you doing? I haven't talked to you in a long time. Girl: Doing good, you? Me: I'm fine (1 min later) Me: Are you in a sport? Girl: No Me: Oh, I thought you were in swimming...... Girl: Nope Well I talked to my friend (talks to her all the time and is trying to hook me up w/ her b/c they go to the same school and he might be giving her and some other friends of his a ride home) about what happened and he said "that sucks" He said that she's shy and doesn't talk a lot unless she knows that person. She didn't start talking to him until this year. I also noticed that she isn't very talkative. Maybe I just need to break some ice b/c I haven't talked to this girl since 4th grade. Well I was making eye contact w/ her while talking to her and I would look away if I didn't have anything to say. From my perspective she had a neutral expression, like wasn't completely into the conversation and didn't want me to go away and she kept eye contact w/ me. Whenever I would look away (this is coming from my peripheral vision) and look at my friend or something in her general direction I noticed her head move down very fast. I was in the seat in front of her. I don't get it.... did I let this girl slip right through my hands or do I still have a chance. Something tells me to talk to her more and another thing tells me to just try w/ someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Why would you want a girl who can't have a conversation with you? If she has no personality, then you are only attracted to her physically and you can find LOTS of girls you can be attracted to physically who aren't too shy to talk to you. When this gal gets lonely enough, she'll start having conversations with people. That may be years down the road. Meanwhile, don't try to change her. Just change the direction of your eyes and you'll be very happy you did. Why should you spend months and months in embarassing silence trying to get her to open up to you when you may not even like her once she starts talking? Who knows, maybe if you move on she may decide she better start giving you some conversation or she'll lose you for good...that is, if she's interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted January 7, 2004 Author Share Posted January 7, 2004 I'm not just attracted to her physically, I want to get to know her. She's been giving me sign that she likes me since last summer and didn't realize until october. And she still does give me signs, but not as much as she used to. I mean, I can understand her not being talkative b/c I'm shy too and I get the same way w/ a new person or a person I haven't talked to in a while. And I'm pretty sure she has a personality, I've seen it and again I can relate to her b/c I hide my true self from people I don't know. in my experiences so far people can't just be themselves around new people or people they haven't talked w/ in a while. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 Oh I remember you, you were the mathematical one with the crush on the girl on the bus, I wish you the best of luck, and look forward to updates. You should get a few things to talk about, and remember them. Say, four open ended (non yes or no) questions that you can talk with her about. Nothing volatile, nothing that could bring up anything bad. When you're done talking to her (don't do it on the bus, it's awkward to leave the conversation), leave the conversation. You'll have that sort of mystery attached to you, but if you just say nothing and stare at her, then it's awkward. Don't just "Gotta Go!" her, Tell her goodbye, you need to get going, and that it was nice talking to her, then smile. If she smiles back, that's good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted January 8, 2004 Author Share Posted January 8, 2004 LOL, that math thing must've really stuck. You're right I completely forgot what to say to her, I should write this stuff down so I know what to say. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 You're probably joking, but don't bring cue cards to the conversation, it decreases your chances by 81%. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted January 8, 2004 Author Share Posted January 8, 2004 hey at least I was accurate Link to post Share on other sites
Author Colt2187 Posted January 10, 2004 Author Share Posted January 10, 2004 I just found out from my friend that this girl that I like most likely has a boyfriend and she was talking to her friend about our conversation. She told her friend that I came out of nowhere and caught her by surprise (haven't talked to her in 7yrs). My friend said that she didn't say it in a hateful or irritated way. He said she said it like a regular conversation and then she turned her voice down low and my friend couldn't hear what she else was saying. Did I make a good impression? I don't know if she has a boyfriend, I'll ask her when I get the chance but do you think I should at least talk to her more so she can get the chance to me and vice versa? Link to post Share on other sites
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