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ok i love my boyfriend so much .We have been 2 years and planned to meet this summer.However we are still students and no money for tickets.

I asked my mum for help .She agreed but his parents against me ,told him that i might be murderer or wanted their money.

 

My boyfriend's parents against our relationship and doesnt let him to come here this summer.He told me he will tell lies to them and come here secretly.But i wondered and worried so much.How can this work?

could anybody tell me what should i do now?:(

 

Thank you so much!!

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No romance without finance hun ; )

 

Lol, sorry but in LDRs nowomanocry has a point.

 

Now why can't you go get a job and start saving some money to go see him (or for him to come see you) or why can't he do the same? When I was in my last LDR my boyfriend and I both worked our butts off to see each other (although my parents were very against it). Just a suggestion.

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I don't see this working out in the long run. LDR's are very stressful and there is no way that he's going to hide you forever. I mean, how exactly do you see this working? Will you move there and then let him introduce you to his parents as if you're a girl that's lived there? That's a lie, and relationships built on lies are like a house of cards.

 

Also, if you've got no money there's no trip. LDR's require finances. If you've known about this trip why have you not gotten a job? The student excuse isn't a very good one, by the way, if that's what you're going to say. I've been working since I was 15 years old, all the way through highschool. Now I'm a full time college student and STILL working a full time job. My fiance does the same. Even if you're a student with a crazy schedule there are jobs that will accommodate that.

 

The sooner you start relying on yourselves instead of your parents the better off you'll be. There's going to come a point where mommy and daddy are going to have to stop footing your bills.

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Lol, sorry but in LDRs nowomanocry has a point.

 

Now why can't you go get a job and start saving some money to go see him (or for him to come see you) or why can't he do the same? When I was in my last LDR my boyfriend and I both worked our butts off to see each other (although my parents were very against it). Just a suggestion.

 

Other suggestion might be robbing a bank or summink ... lol nah jokin'

 

I strongly recommend you stay away from a LDR hun. Find someone with less probs and baggage. Don't make your life complicated. I just broke up from my LDR and believe me really had a shiat time. Still strugglin' but standing on me two feet heads up

 

If you still are insisting on torturing yourself and making life a hell, then my most important advice would be don't fall into him to much (don't expect too much) and make sure you are equally contributing to make the relationship work

 

Have a great weekend

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Aerogurl87:

yes i have considered it before but we cant do it right now.I will have to face my public exam very soon and he is uni student and if he couldnt pass he couldnt come here as well...last month i had a job interview to be a part time piano teacher but failed to be...

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I don't see this working out in the long run. LDR's are very stressful and there is no way that he's going to hide you forever. I mean, how exactly do you see this working? Will you move there and then let him introduce you to his parents as if you're a girl that's lived there? That's a lie, and relationships built on lies are like a house of cards.

 

Also, if you've got no money there's no trip. LDR's require finances. If you've known about this trip why have you not gotten a job? The student excuse isn't a very good one, by the way, if that's what you're going to say. I've been working since I was 15 years old, all the way through highschool. Now I'm a full time college student and STILL working a full time job. My fiance does the same. Even if you're a student with a crazy schedule there are jobs that will accommodate that.

 

The sooner you start relying on yourselves instead of your parents the better off you'll be. There's going to come a point where mommy and daddy are going to have to stop footing your bills.

 

 

Yes we discussed about it last night .He is trying to think of how to persuade his parents .I think the most important at this moment is to let them know i am not a bad girl.....have you even heard the term' social psychology '? his parents think that i am dangerous person and a traid member after they watched tv....so i am thinking a way to change their perspective.do you have any suggestion?thanks

 

* yes i am a student with a crazy schedule ,nearly 1 test every day and will soon face public exam

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Other suggestion might be robbing a bank or summink ... lol nah jokin'

 

I strongly recommend you stay away from a LDR hun. Find someone with less probs and baggage. Don't make your life complicated. I just broke up from my LDR and believe me really had a shiat time. Still strugglin' but standing on me two feet heads up

 

If you still are insisting on torturing yourself and making life a hell, then my most important advice would be don't fall into him to much (don't expect too much) and make sure you are equally contributing to make the relationship work

 

Have a great weekend

 

hey are u living in turkey? i feel surprised he lives there too;)

I wonder something .his parents think that i am a bad girl.what's the reason behind that?how can i make them trust me? i think you are right that i shouldnt fall for him that much .But he is just special .I think i need your advice about your country i want to know how people think there...tesekkurler

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Yes we discussed about it last night .He is trying to think of how to persuade his parents .I think the most important at this moment is to let them know i am not a bad girl.....have you even heard the term' social psychology '? his parents think that i am dangerous person and a traid member after they watched tv....so i am thinking a way to change their perspective.do you have any suggestion?thanks

 

* yes i am a student with a crazy schedule ,nearly 1 test every day and will soon face public exam

 

 

I still really don't see that as a good excuse. My fiance is in a very tough engineering school in Canada. He has SO many tests, projects, and classes to attend, yet he STILL works at a job where he's receiving top recognition for his work at the company. And yet, he just left me tuesday after a blissful week long visit. Where theres a will, there's a way, and you have no will it seems like to me.

 

You're broke, but yet want to pursue an LDR where his parents don't approve. You've asked your mother for money for the trip, but where will you stay? Will she be footing the bill for that too?

 

And most importantly, how many more times can you expect her to do this for you??

 

I don't mean to sound like a total bitch about this whole thing, but you have totally unrealistic expectations. If you've been with this guy for 2 years already and his parents still don't approve, they're never going to approve. You can bet on that.

 

Have you ever met this boy at all? Have you ever spoken to the parents to know that they don't approve, or is it all just based upon things he's told you?

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hey are u living in turkey? i feel surprised he lives there too;)

I wonder something .his parents think that i am a bad girl.what's the reason behind that?how can i make them trust me? i think you are right that i shouldnt fall for him that much .But he is just special .I think i need your advice about your country i want to know how people think there...tesekkurler

 

Hello lol

 

Yes I do live in Istanbul

 

Turkey is quite a cosmopolitan country to live , to be honest you really never know whos who -

 

I have got to have more information about him, such as age ,where he lives(must), school he studies, hometown(must), where family lives (actual neighbourhood) (must), etc. If you provide these in private I can tell you (with 99%) of accuracy wot you should do - never fails. After you provide that I will tell you either to runaway and never look back or go for it it's safe ; )

 

Cheers hun

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Hello lol

 

Yes I do live in Istanbul

 

Turkey is quite a cosmopolitan country to live , to be honest you really never know whos who -

 

I have got to have more information about him, such as age ,where he lives(must), school he studies, hometown(must), where family lives (actual neighbourhood) (must), etc. If you provide these in private I can tell you (with 99%) of accuracy wot you should do - never fails. After you provide that I will tell you either to runaway and never look back or go for it it's safe ; )

 

Cheers hun

 

too bad i cant send private messages to you because i am a new member:(

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too bad i cant send private messages to you because i am a new member:(

 

my handle nowomanocry is also @ a very hot system of mailing but com lmao

 

; ) ; )

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I still really don't see that as a good excuse. My fiance is in a very tough engineering school in Canada. He has SO many tests, projects, and classes to attend, yet he STILL works at a job where he's receiving top recognition for his work at the company. And yet, he just left me tuesday after a blissful week long visit. Where theres a will, there's a way, and you have no will it seems like to me.

 

You're broke, but yet want to pursue an LDR where his parents don't approve. You've asked your mother for money for the trip, but where will you stay? Will she be footing the bill for that too?

 

And most importantly, how many more times can you expect her to do this for you??

 

I don't mean to sound like a total bitch about this whole thing, but you have totally unrealistic expectations. If you've been with this guy for 2 years already and his parents still don't approve, they're never going to approve. You can bet on that.

 

Have you ever met this boy at all? Have you ever spoken to the parents to know that they don't approve, or is it all just based upon things he's told you?

 

yes i admit i am very unrealistic.we have been known each other for 2 years but we told about this to our parents recently only.

 

yes u are right that we should find some jobs and never think of parents' help.i guess i should get respectation from his parents first otherwise there will be no future.thank you for ur good advice:lmao:

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allrighty then ; ) ; )

 

i have no idea the service always send me error report

 

could u please send to me for approval

 

greenfairyelf add yahoo dot com

 

thanks

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