dont know what to think

[hew]

Im really hurting right now. My boyfriend wouldnt talk to me almost all last week and i had no idea why but i knew something wasnt going right.. He finally said he didnt want to talk to me because he needed time to think. He said he doesnt know what to do because everyone around us annoying and giving us a hard time. Its because his freinds dont like me. and it hurts my feelings so much because they dont even know me. And i have been nothing but nice to them.. I ended up at the doctors yesterday because i almost killed myself, i went cold turkey off my anti depressants and now its because worse than before. I need some advice on what to do about my boyfriend, i know you might say its not worth it if he cant decide what to do because of his pathetic friends, but its so hard for me to let go of someone, especially when we were really close and i really like him. I just want to know if anyone has ever had to deal with something like this and what did you do? Thanks so much!

[counterman]

I am sorry to hear that you are hurting. It must be really tough to go through this right now. It is very unfair that his friends would think that way about you without even knowing you.

 

From my experience, before I even got together with my ex-girlfriend, some of her friends were against me asking her out. Some even asked me not to ask her out. It was sad. I mean, why should they tell me what I can or cannot do? At the time, we both didn't care about what her friends did and we ended up together. However, it was getting really difficult to hang out with her when her friends were around because they weren't always friendly with me and would intentionally shut me down to make me look stupid in front of her. I kept that all out but eventually things didn't work out. Hard to say what I would have done knowing that the way it was going to end but I always believed that if she was that easily convinced by her friends, then she probably did not love me enough.

 

As for him, it should not matter that his friends are annoying him or making it hard for the two of you. It might be extremely difficult though and maybe that is what he is considering, for the sake of himself and you.. Remember, his friends don't know you, so their opinions mean nothing and count for nothing. You know yourself better than anyone, so trust yourself.

 

If she says he needs time to think, then give him that time and see what his response is. And, if it is recommended by yourself healthcare professional/doctor to take those anti-depressants, do so. Take care of yourself first and foremost.