Not the love ace Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 So, I am curious to how important friends are to you personally? In my opinion friends are probably one of the most important people you can have in your life. I love my family to death and they will always come first but sometimes I love being around a good friend who understands me and someone whom I have a lot more in common than my family (in my personal life anyway). I always make time for my family and definitely hangout with them. However, my personal life is something my family sometimes doesn't understand and/or get and something my close friends do. I used to be a bit of a loner (and still can be but a lot less nowadays) and didn't care much for friends because I thought as long as I have my family and some sort of company around me that I'll survive through life. Over the recent years however, I've been making a lot more friends whom I have been fond of and that I've come to appreciate and its open my eyes again to how important it is to have friends. Even if its just a few good friends, thats all that matters. What is your opinion on having friends? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 I love my family dearly, and feel blessed to have been born into that particular clan. but my friends ... ah, these are the folks that I've hand-picked as family members, and so they are very, very dear to me. They know me better than I know myself at times, and they love me unconditionally. They know how to say things that I need to know in a way that I don't feel like I'm being bossed around or talked down to (youngest of six kids, and still feel like my sibs like nothing better than bossing me around!). and they know just what to say and when to say it, especially when I need their support the most. In fact, my two closest friends (one's a guy, the other's a girl) are who I consider my soulmates, because I think they complete me as a person ... my best friend from college and his wife have been to both my parents' funerals and the memorial service we held back home for my nephew who was killed in Iraq; he lives about 2 hours away from my hometown, and thought nothing of making the drive. his dad died last week, so I made the 9 hour drive across state to be with HIM, and he kept telling me I didn't have to be there. But my thought is that when your friend shows just how much he/she loves you by being there in your darkest hour, you do the same for that person. I cannot imagine NOT being there for him when his dad died. Or a few years earlier, when he got married. friends are like that secret ingredient in certain recipe: It works without that ingredient, but when it's added to the dish ... it's turns into something else that's just incredible Link to post Share on other sites
Author Not the love ace Posted February 26, 2010 Author Share Posted February 26, 2010 friends are like that secret ingredient in certain recipe: It works without that ingredient, but when it's added to the dish ... it's turns into something else that's just incredible That's a great analogy right there. Heehee. I'm really happy that you have the friends you have. I must admit that I've been stupid and blown off some friends because I thought that I didn't need them and can be better off alone. It was mainly during my teenage years and I was going through the angst stage of my life thinking I am some bad ass. So I went through the "Who needs friends?" stage of my life. Now, I have to admit I am a little clingy even though it doesn't show but I let my friends know I care for them. Of course I am certain they are good people whom I do want in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 I value my close friends like gold, since most have been friends for over a decade, some two decades. They, family and husband, stated in no particular order, make life worth living. I cannot live without love, both giving and receiving. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 I have two very strong friendships ... With the first one.. we've been friends for over 55 years.. and the other for over 45... They are priceless.. after my kids.. they are the most important people.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 It's not the quantity... it's the quality of the friendship... I have many many friends... but it's nothing to compare with those two REAL friendships... True friendships.. IMO.. never ever die... they last a lifetime.. through good and bad times.. it's like a child.. unconditional love.. in my case it is.. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 It's not the quantity... it's the quality of the friendship... Well said. I very much agree. As for me a couple close true friends make me very content. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 I have some casual friends and I do enjoy spending time with them, but the most important ones to me are the few I call Brothers and Sisters. These people know there is nothing I won't do for them, and vice versa. I really do love them. Link to post Share on other sites
bluewolf17 Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I can't put a stronger value of friendships. They are so important. And it's not just how many, but how strong. Those friends who care about you and are there for you and vice versa. It's just beautiful! You pick these people. It's not family where you kind of have to love them (even though you would have anyways). You pick the friends you want around. I have even dropped "friends" who truly aren't. So appreciated those that love you for you! And make time for them! Link to post Share on other sites
LynnM28 Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 "Friends are the family we choose for ourselves" ...or..."Friends are Gods apology for our relatives" :-) ...true friendships are priceless...and I believe family can be friends, and friends can be family...if you have both, you are extra blessed! Link to post Share on other sites
Shyguy23 Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 Friends are very important to me. With me though, I am finding I perhaps fnd them too important and need to find happiness within myself. Trying to find that balance. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 Very important. Link to post Share on other sites
Micki Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 (edited) Friends are very important, in my opinion. True friends last forever, and always have each other's back. Friends are the family that God forgot to give us. Friends are not family by blood or DNA, but by our hearts and emotions. Friends are good for our health, and enhance our lives. Friends are the family that we get to choose, which is a good thing. Friends (and family) who sincerely care about you........priceless. Edited March 27, 2010 by Micki Link to post Share on other sites
FreddieJones Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 Friends are not important at all, I have personally experienced that it doesn't matter if you have them or not. I am whole life i never found a friend and this is not because of my attitude or something else but its hard to find one. Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 I have a different view to most. I do have some good friends and value them, but they can leave you at the drop of a hat, whereas family have always been there for me. So I place a higher value on family. However I do spend a lot of time in the friendship section of LS, but maybe that is just because of my bad experiences with ex friends (of which I seem to have quite a lot ) Link to post Share on other sites
katanne Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 friends are very important for me! specially if your family or other relatives are not with you always, friends are the that you can rely on..=) Link to post Share on other sites
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