Complicated situation, GF lost phone

[aerogurl87]

She's 21?!?!?!?!?! I thought this girl was 16, haha. Ummm wow... yeah OP I'm with rollercoasterr, has she done anything to verify her age? I mean when I was younger I used to lie about my age to people I talked to online, but then again I didn't use text speak in my conversations so more people thought I actually was older than I was. With that said, I'm starting to question the validity of her "lost my phone" excuse and her age.

[BettyBoop]

9:20 AM 3/2 my wrst wrst nite mare came trueee ufff

9:20 AM 3/2 plzzz calm dwn

9:20 AM 3/2 i dnt no wat 2 tell uuuu

 

My first b/f had a brother who texted short versions like "plz" etc but he would never add the extra "ee" etc...and he was 16 and had dyslexia.

 

Alongside with the others I highly doubt that she is 21. I would not even say 16. I would say 12... :S

[BettyBoop]

I never hung out, don't have friends, my life revolved around internet, so I really have nothing to fall back on unlike most people.

 

Then it is about time to get out there and find hobbies, interests and classmates to make friends with!

[WantToGetExBack]

Then it is about time to get out there and find hobbies, interests and classmates to make friends with!

 

I agree, but this is like the hardest time to do that right now. If anything motivated me to get on with life and do different things, it was when things were working out between us.

[WantToGetExBack]

lol well I'm surprised too that she types like that, but she is 22 now. She was going to college like last year, and although she hasn't graduated, but she's been assigned like a student-teacher thing at some kids school (I don't think she makes any money yet). We often talked when she was at school, and I heard kids in the background and bugging her quiet a lot etc. Right now where she can't go is for this student teacher position.

[Rollercoasterr]

lol well I'm surprised too that she types like that, but she is 22 now. She was going to college like last year, and although she hasn't graduated, but she's been assigned like a student-teacher thing at some kids school (I don't think she makes any money yet). We often talked when she was at school, and I heard kids in the background and bugging her quiet a lot etc. Right now where she can't go is for this student teacher position.

 

Sorry, but this girl and her stories just irk me. Every teaching student I've ever met(and there's been a lot since I'm in school) would DIE before they would miss student teaching. That's where you get your chances at landing a job. If you do well at it, you may get a job at that school. But even if you don't get a job at that school prospective schools will look at your evaluations very very closely. Missing all this student teaching time is not only going to delay her being able to find a job, but will impact her negatively in an extreme way.

 

Since you've never met her, what REAL proof do you have that she is who she says she is? Have you seen her on webcam? Do you know FIRSTHAND(has he taken the phone from her and threatened you, have you heard him talking in the background, I don't mean via IM or text) that her brother is that protective? Other than the things she says. Disregard any of that and tell us what you know for a FACT.

[WantToGetExBack]

Hey, well yeah but at the same time I don't think it's a good idea for her to go against her brother. She can't really do much if he is staying home himself and told her she can't go to her school either. I honestly don't feel she would want to break up with me this way. I've not seen her on webcam but she's shown me a lot of pictures with friends and family. As for her brother threats, well she left me these offlines few hours ago. I don't like wana copy paste again since she sounds like 12 lol, but it's just as hard trying to translate them exactly. Anyhow this is what she said.

 

i cnt give u any # any thing spec after hw things have turned out btw me n my bro( I had asked her to give me some number of some her friend or her sister in Canada) goshhh i lost total trust dat he had in meee n dats da last thing i want 2 happen uff

buh im missing u soo mch 4 da 1st time i feel very lonely even wit da fam around hm

n plzz plzz plzz calm dwn nw if never b4....goshh ur nt helping uff kashii ufff

my pone will gt turned on n off he miteb on it or doing smthing buh my # kalls u plzz pik upp even if its nt me

culd b bro or babi..telling u 2 gt away frm me..coz he sed who da hell iz he 2 tlk 2 u lyke dat...u have such poor taste dis n dat goshhh i dnt even nooo ufff...

buh jus tlk n say wat u want nothing stupid tell dem ur willing 2 wait or wat ever i dk

N HE TLD MY BRO IN CANADA HE SED SHE MITE CME 2 LIVE IN CANADA 4 GUD OR SMTHING COZ HE FAILED 2 TKE CARE OV ME

N U NO KASHII ITS NT HIM WHO FAILED ITS MEEE WHO MESSED IT ALL UP BIG BIG TIMEEE...SO I DNT NO MY FUTURE N FATE IZ IN DERE HANDS UFF

ILL TLK 2 U LATER...PLZZ EAT N RELAX..EVERY TIME I TRY 2 EAY I TKE COUPLE OV BITES N I JUS LOSE IT N I HAVE 2 PUT MY FOOD AWAY THINGS R JUS AZ BAD AZ IT CN GT FR NWWW

ALL MY FAULT ONLY IF I HAD DNE THINGS DA RITE WAYYY HMM

RELAX OK??? EVEN THO DATS WAT U WULD B TELLING ME BUH IM TELLING UUU UFF UFF LYFE IZ PAIN,,,,,

I MISS U

MISS U VOICE

MISS UR FACE

: MISS UR CARE

MISS DOES TIMES

BUH I GUESS IT HAS 2 HAPPEND ONLY GOD NOSE ,,,,,

TC OK??? IM GNA GO COZ DA LAP TOP IS ALL WATERY COZ OV MY STUPID....NOTHING BI

[carvidep]

I don't know dude, she sounds super fishy to me. Especially if you haven't web-cammed or met her in person. If she isn't 12 years old, she might be someone making up their own text-lingo and creating a dramatic story just to pass the time and feel appreciated by someone they don't actually know. The way she types does not reflect the mental image of a 22 year old girl who goes to college.

 

And all of that extra frilly drama -

 

-plzz plzz plzz calm dwn nw if never b4....goshh ur nt helping uff kashii ufff"

 

-"SO I DNT NO MY FUTURE N FATE IZ IN DERE HANDS UFF" (why is it in anybody's hands but hers? is her brother strictly religious and machist?"

 

-"IM GNA GO COZ DA LAP TOP IS ALL WATERY COZ OV MY STUPID....NOTHING BI" (hmm... she better be careful crying over that lap top or it might short out!)

 

I'm sorry but I don't know how you can take her seriously. Is English her second language? That might explain some of her word choices and mis-spellings.

 

As for the extra drama, I think she gets a kick out of emphasizing it, whether her situation is real or not. It entertains her and she knows what kind of power it has over you.

 

Be careful. Everything you've posted in this thread sounds too weird to me.

 

About getting out and doing things with other people... it only sounds difficult because you're not trying it. Try going to just ONE group meeting about something you're interested in. I think you'll like it a lot more than you think.

 

It's important, helpful, and fun to have a network where you live.

Edited March 3, 2010 by carvidep

[BettyBoop]

I've not seen her on webcam but she's shown me a lot of pictures with friends and family.

 

That is super fishy. She could be sending you photos of anybody's family photos she found on the net or a relative or similar.

 

I'm starting to believe it more and more she is at least 5 years younger than she claims to be.

[Rollercoasterr]

That's not a 22 year old girl. At all. Believe what you want, and delude yourself but there is no 22 year old girl that writes that way and is doing her student teaching. They have to write so many papers and reports and lesson plans that proper english is necessary. Maybe not the best, but you don't type like you're a 12 year old girl. So no way.

 

And what in the hell is uff uff supposed to be anyway??

 

You've never seen her on webcam, but she's sent you lots of pictures??? How convenient. I will bet my right arm that those pictures aren't of her.

[aerogurl87]

That's not a 22 year old girl. At all. Believe what you want, and delude yourself but there is no 22 year old girl that writes that way and is doing her student teaching. They have to write so many papers and reports and lesson plans that proper english is necessary. Maybe not the best, but you don't type like you're a 12 year old girl. So no way.

 

And what in the hell is uff uff supposed to be anyway??

 

You've never seen her on webcam, but she's sent you lots of pictures??? How convenient. I will bet my right arm that those pictures aren't of her.

 

I agree, does not sound like a 22 year old to me. I'm 20 and I don't write like that, and you've only seen pics of her? OP have you ever talked to this girl on the phone or heard her talk to her family or friends? Just wondering because things are not adding up here.

[WantToGetExBack]

Well, if anything I know for sure about her is that she isn't 12 or 16, she can't be. The way she types might be because she was very active on youtube and left one line comments to friends often and chatted on MSN. Plus I don't know how it's that big a deal, I know many adults that type in chat lingo and they are not in their teens, even I type like that on MSN, Yahoo but not on forums. English is her first language, and she's very fluent at it from all the talking on phone, she's grown up here her whole life. We usually talked in the mornings and then little bit during her breaks at school, so I know she is there as student teacher and helping kids there. Also I often heard her say hey, hello, and so on to other teachers as she was on the phone or when it was time to go. There were often interruptions in our conversations because of kids coming to her and like complaining etc.

 

She told me her phone will get turned on and off, well I called today and it went to voice mail after first ring( it was like temporarily cancelled before I guess). Someone is using her phone and then they switch it off after making the call. If she was lying, why would she reactivate her service and not just change her number. I haven't heard from her again in two days, even if she really got caught, it's still taking a toll on me from all the wait. She did tell me she will talk to me later ( I don't know if that meant calling me or chatting , or simply leaving offline messages).

[Chingaling]

This sounds so very much like something my daughter and her friends did several years ago to one of her ex-boyfriends who was by all accounts a player. They invented a girl, gave her a Facebook - the whole nine yards - and lured the guy into contact firstly through email, and then through phone calls... it was wickedly funny at the time, since this guy fell hook, line and sinker in love with a girl that he had never met and in reality never even existed... eventually, he got pretty insistent that they meet, so she was very conveniently killed off in a bus accident in New York City... which devastated the guy, of course.

 

The humiliation was complete when the scam was revealled...

 

We are talking 15 or 16 year old girls here - such vivid imaginations and dedicted to their mission.

 

I wonder if, in fact, someone is pulling your leg? Girls can be mighty cruel...

[WantToGetExBack]

Well, I guess it doesn't really matter if she is playing or not. Either way I'm going to feel totally **** about this whole thing if we don't get back together. I guess I'm just so crazy for her, it's just hard to accept any reason why we can't be together. There's things to make me feel she probably got caught and on the other hand some other stuff that makes it sound very fishy( like her brother staying home for whole week and not letting her go to her placement either, which is really hard to believe).

[Rollercoasterr]

Well, if anything I know for sure about her is that she isn't 12 or 16, she can't be. The way she types might be because she was very active on youtube and left one line comments to friends often and chatted on MSN. Plus I don't know how it's that big a deal, I know many adults that type in chat lingo and they are not in their teens, even I type like that on MSN, Yahoo but not on forums. English is her first language, and she's very fluent at it from all the talking on phone, she's grown up here her whole life. We usually talked in the mornings and then little bit during her breaks at school, so I know she is there as student teacher and helping kids there. Also I often heard her say hey, hello, and so on to other teachers as she was on the phone or when it was time to go. There were often interruptions in our conversations because of kids coming to her and like complaining etc.

 

She told me her phone will get turned on and off, well I called today and it went to voice mail after first ring( it was like temporarily cancelled before I guess). Someone is using her phone and then they switch it off after making the call. If she was lying, why would she reactivate her service and not just change her number. I haven't heard from her again in two days, even if she really got caught, it's still taking a toll on me from all the wait. She did tell me she will talk to me later ( I don't know if that meant calling me or chatting , or simply leaving offline messages).

 

But this is more than just that. She says she's doing her student teaching, yet she can't go to school, and she types the way she does. That is a very big deal since teachers do quite a bit of letters, lesson plans, etc. There's NO WAY a school system is going to tolerate that.

 

And being on youtube is no excuse. I work for a major cellphone company in the US, yet I manage to write out every text message, email, forum post, and comment in proper english. And I'm 21.

 

The things that she does and says are that of a young girl. I've lied about my age before. I even lied about getting into trouble when I thought things were getting too heated in the relationship. I once told a guy that I was 15 when I was really 12, dated him online for a year, and told him awful things about my homelife. It was wrong and I really regretted it afterwards, but I was 12 years old and my parents were going through a divorce. That was my way of acting out against them. I did the same things that's she's doing now(apart from her awful, awful typing).

 

And you don't know for sure that's she's not 12 or 16. You've said YOURSELF that you've never met her, never seen her on webcam, and have only seen pictures. Do you know how easy it is to scan a picture of a friend, family member, or picture of someone you found on the internet and pass it off as yourself? Give me about 2 minutes and I can post a picture and say that it's me. That doesn't mean crap.

 

If she's 22 years old and has school and her own job, she would NOT be letting her brother jeopardize it like that. If she doesn't finish her student teaching she may not graduate and she may not get good enough reviews to get a job. Then she would have wasted thousands of dollars for NOTHING.

 

Also, if a number is cancelled it doesn't go to voicemail. If it is suspended it doesn't go to voicemail. It tells you that the number is temporarily disconnected or something along those lines. It will never, ever go to voicemail. Going to voicemail means that your call was IGNORED. I handle cancellations and suspensions every day at my job, so I know what I'm talking about here.

 

Yeah, she said she'd talk to you later. 2 DAYS AGO. If you're going to settle for being her boyfriend over offline messages, then that's fine. That's your own unhealthy lifestyle to deal with. I still think you need psychiatric help over this.

[aerogurl87]

But this is more than just that. She says she's doing her student teaching, yet she can't go to school, and she types the way she does. That is a very big deal since teachers do quite a bit of letters, lesson plans, etc. There's NO WAY a school system is going to tolerate that.

 

And being on youtube is no excuse. I work for a major cellphone company in the US, yet I manage to write out every text message, email, forum post, and comment in proper english. And I'm 21.

 

The things that she does and says are that of a young girl. I've lied about my age before. I even lied about getting into trouble when I thought things were getting too heated in the relationship. I once told a guy that I was 15 when I was really 12, dated him online for a year, and told him awful things about my homelife. It was wrong and I really regretted it afterwards, but I was 12 years old and my parents were going through a divorce. That was my way of acting out against them. I did the same things that's she's doing now(apart from her awful, awful typing).

 

And you don't know for sure that's she's not 12 or 16. You've said YOURSELF that you've never met her, never seen her on webcam, and have only seen pictures. Do you know how easy it is to scan a picture of a friend, family member, or picture of someone you found on the internet and pass it off as yourself? Give me about 2 minutes and I can post a picture and say that it's me. That doesn't mean crap.

 

If she's 22 years old and has school and her own job, she would NOT be letting her brother jeopardize it like that. If she doesn't finish her student teaching she may not graduate and she may not get good enough reviews to get a job. Then she would have wasted thousands of dollars for NOTHING.

 

Also, if a number is cancelled it doesn't go to voicemail. If it is suspended it doesn't go to voicemail. It tells you that the number is temporarily disconnected or something along those lines. It will never, ever go to voicemail. Going to voicemail means that your call was IGNORED. I handle cancellations and suspensions every day at my job, so I know what I'm talking about here.

 

Yeah, she said she'd talk to you later. 2 DAYS AGO. If you're going to settle for being her boyfriend over offline messages, then that's fine. That's your own unhealthy lifestyle to deal with. I still think you need psychiatric help over this.

 

Well rollercoasterr said everything I could've said. OP I think you're getting played for a fool.

[WantToGetExBack]

But this is more than just that. She says she's doing her student teaching, yet she can't go to school, and she types the way she does. That is a very big deal since teachers do quite a bit of letters, lesson plans, etc. There's NO WAY a school system is going to tolerate that.

 

And being on youtube is no excuse. I work for a major cellphone company in the US, yet I manage to write out every text message, email, forum post, and comment in proper english. And I'm 21.

 

The things that she does and says are that of a young girl. I've lied about my age before. I even lied about getting into trouble when I thought things were getting too heated in the relationship. I once told a guy that I was 15 when I was really 12, dated him online for a year, and told him awful things about my homelife. It was wrong and I really regretted it afterwards, but I was 12 years old and my parents were going through a divorce. That was my way of acting out against them. I did the same things that's she's doing now(apart from her awful, awful typing).

 

And you don't know for sure that's she's not 12 or 16. You've said YOURSELF that you've never met her, never seen her on webcam, and have only seen pictures. Do you know how easy it is to scan a picture of a friend, family member, or picture of someone you found on the internet and pass it off as yourself? Give me about 2 minutes and I can post a picture and say that it's me. That doesn't mean crap.

 

If she's 22 years old and has school and her own job, she would NOT be letting her brother jeopardize it like that. If she doesn't finish her student teaching she may not graduate and she may not get good enough reviews to get a job. Then she would have wasted thousands of dollars for NOTHING.

 

Also, if a number is cancelled it doesn't go to voicemail. If it is suspended it doesn't go to voicemail. It tells you that the number is temporarily disconnected or something along those lines. It will never, ever go to voicemail. Going to voicemail means that your call was IGNORED. I handle cancellations and suspensions every day at my job, so I know what I'm talking about here.

 

Yeah, she said she'd talk to you later. 2 DAYS AGO. If you're going to settle for being her boyfriend over offline messages, then that's fine. That's your own unhealthy lifestyle to deal with. I still think you need psychiatric help over this.

 

Hi, well one thing I know is a lot of people who post on forums do tend to write properly with proper spelling and correct grammer even on MSN and Yahoo. That isn't the case with people who just chat, I know the way I type on Yahoo is very similar to hers, but I'm able to adjust to proper writing style on forums or when writing formal emails.

Also I'm sure she can post someone else's pictures, but I don't know where she would find so many of them of someone else online. Like I said maybe I'm not sure anything about her even her pictures, but her voice definitely does not sound like a teen, from all the time we've talked, she's a lot mature, but most of all for me, I've talked to her a lot while she was at her student teacher placement, and the background noise of kids and her communicating with other teachers while I have to wait is enough to convince she isn't like faking her age.

Also I'm sure her job prospects mean a lot to her, but at the same time if her full support has been her brother(She lost her parents), his paying her fees, she's living with his family, their culture I'm sure family respect means a lot to her. Our families are from Pakistan, and she's lucky all her siblings were raised here and they have nothing to do with the original country anymore, but I've seen families take their daughters back and punish them. Even though her brother drinks occasionally, they go out as family and eat out and everything, I'm sure he still has somewhat of the same mindset.

 

As far her phone, you misunderstood me, I will explain it in more detail. It's prepaid with Verizon Wireless, so the day she lost it, I sent a message around evening and called couple of times. Got no response. She was to call in the morning next day, and after waiting, I called again and phone would ring 4-5 times, then I hear the Verizon Wireless greeting to leave message and tone( even though she had told me her VM is not set up), I also left text messages, but no one would pick up or reply. I called several times after that. During the day, friend notified me saying she left him messages online saying she lost her phone and to let me know. So like that day and the following day as well I think, I called like once or twice, it would ring but no one picks up. There's also number to check balance which I did, and it remained same pretty much through all the time since she had lost the phone. I would think if someone found the phone, they would've picked my call or reply to my message. And if they didn't want to return the phone most likely they would've used up the balance or turn the phone off. Anyhow, after like two-three days I guess, I checked her balance again and it was like two dollars less, so someone did use the phone then. And hours after that, I rang the number, and after first ring, it would just get cut off, and beep 2-3 times and get disconnected( no VM). So I sent texts but her balance remained unchanged( so I can only think her service was temporarily disconnected). Since yesterday or so, if I call now, it rings once before going to voice mail, but at the same time her balance is changing, so it's like someone uses the phone to make calls and then turn it off. I haven't texted though as I suspect it might be her brother. Why would he reactivate the service and keep the phone turned off except to make calls? She told me he has two cell phones of his own. If she has the phone, wouldn't she have just changed her number instead and made it appear like this one is disconnected for good.

 

I have in fact been seeing a psychiatrist. I was put on seroquel but it doesn't help with depression. If anything calms me down is my ADHD medication ritalin and makes me feel little hopeful until it starts to lose its effect, then I feel 100x worse.

 

Only time will tell for sure what is really going on.

Edited March 5, 2010 by WantToGetExBack

[aerogurl87]

OP I'm sorry, but you said you call and no one answers but the phone's balance is going down day by day. Have you ever thought that maybe she's just ignoring you? It is a possibility. Also how do you know the balance on her phone? I'm just curious...

[WantToGetExBack]

OP I'm sorry, but you said you call and no one answers but the phone's balance is going down day by day. Have you ever thought that maybe she's just ignoring you? It is a possibility. Also how do you know the balance on her phone? I'm just curious...

 

Well it just goes to VM straight, so someone only turns it on to make calls. If she got caught, I don't think she would have the phone with her. There's Verizon Wireless number you can dial and enter the prepaid number to check balance of it.

[aerogurl87]

Like I said, maybe she's turning it off and ignoring you, may be something you'll have to come to terms with. Also she's 22, what 22 year old lets their brother dictate who they can and cannot call? And you say she comes from a strict Muslim family. So going with that being true, could it be that her family has found her a husband and that's why she's trying to break off contact? That's what happened to my best friend when she got engaged to her hubby right out of high school. Just things to think about.

[WantToGetExBack]

Well, if that was true, then surely she would want to let me know that to make it easier for me at least. I just don't think she could do all this drama to be honest, like deleting her account, putting her service on hold and then its back and now phone is kept switched off, it would be easier for her to just change number. For her brother, I'd think he want to keep the phone on to see who calls, and if he's that offended about all this, he would want to confront the caller. Just everything is confusing the hell out of me.

[Rollercoasterr]

Well there's the thing you don't get with prepaid. You can't cancel it. It's prepaid. You just let it expire and let the money run out.

 

I've always had an older voice than what I am. I've sounded like I could be in my twenties since I was 12. When I answered the phone at home, people always thought that I was my mom. And I never said that they had to be a picture of someone she found on the internet. You're skipping through and only picking out certain parts to read. I have hundreds of pictures of my cousins and friends. Facebook and myspace will even give you unlimited access to someone elses pictures. It aint that hard.

 

As for typing skills only being related to typing on forums and things, this is the first forum I've ever joined. I was typing like I actually had an education since day one. I think it's lazy and makes you look extremely stupid when you type like you're having seizures. I mean, I just don't see the point. It takes exactly the same amount of time to figure out how to write something in text speak as it does to actually write out a thoughtful sentence. It's amazing to me that people can fall in love with someone when you're both writing like that. I don't mean to offend you, but I just don't see "OMGZ i lyk luv u!" to be romantic in any way.

 

I think that you're making excuses for her. You're thinking up any reason as to why there still may be a chance for you, and saying anything and everything to make yourself still believe that she's the person you thought she was, and you're becoming obsessive to an unhealthy point.

 

But as of this point, what are REALLY your choices??? You hang on, waiting for her to come back and leave you a lovely offline message, and get strung along for a number of months until finally there's no more? Or you show up at her house, find out a lot of things you already knew but wouldn't believe and leave heartbroken, or end up in jail?? Or you can at least somewhat realize that you need to stop making excuses for her and help yourself to move on and get in a better state of mind?

 

You have virtually NO future with this girl. Thinking that you do is just going to get you hurt.

 

Oh, and PS- Since you're coming off as this obsessive to US, you know that you've probably acted 20x worse to her. Sure she'd go through all of that drama to delete her accounts and crap if you've scared her. And yes, you are very very scary over this girl. Deleting an account takes about 20 seconds. There's really no drama to this besides what you've created on your own and in your head.

[aerogurl87]

Once again rollercoasterr is right. This girl has obviously either checked out if she is who she claims to be, or you've scared her off with this crazy, obsessive behaivour. I mean you two haven't even met yet, and it's been like 2 years. Obviously meeting is never going to happen, so why continue to hold on? You will never have a real relationship with this girl, she'll just continue to string you on with these excuses. Move on with your life please.

[spiderowl]

I can see why you're worried if it seemed to you things were getting better. Also, Muslim women have been murdered in my country (UK) for less in so-called 'honour killings', though it is extremely rare. Given that *you* are the one who got you both back together and that she was worried about how this was affecting you, I suspect that she doesn't want to continue the relationship but was getting concerned about how persistent and obsessive you were becoming. It is difficult for you because if she hasn't given you a clear 'leave me alone' message, you are bound to feel confused about what she wants. You've worked hard at this, you've given it your best, but now it's time to call it a day.

 

Maybe if I say what I would have done in a similar situation, you could think about how that compares with what you have done. If someone broke it off with me, I would want an explanation. I would try to contact them to get one. I would probably try once or twice (on the basis that they might be busy elsewhere or have phone problems. I would try another media just in case. I would leave a phone message and email. If, after that, I got nothing, I would assume it was over and they hadn't got the guts to tell me. If, at any point earlier in the process, they had said they wanted to break up, that would have been it for me. If they wanted to break up, they would get a break up. I don't want someone who doesn't want me. I'm not saying that what I would do is normal or right, but just giving you something to compare with so you can see if your behaviour does amount to obsession or not.

 

She could have contacted you directly by asking your friend for your number (if she'd lost your number) and calling from a public booth. Again, she could have responded somehow via the internet. She hasn't done this. If you had been very restrained and she had not tried to drop the relationship earlier, I would think possibly she was afraid of it being found out, but there are too many signs pointing to her being in it because she was worried how you would cope. Whatever her reasons, if you call the police and they investigate, your relationship will no longer be secret and she wanted it to be. Respect what she wanted because she knows what she can and can't deal with.

 

I'd say if she doesn't contact you directly within a fortnight, then she's not interested. Any woman who was would have been on the phone to you within a couple of days.

[WantToGetExBack]

Hi, well I firmly believe she is 22 or around as a lot of things while we were on the phone gave me that indication. Anyhow, but I do agree with you guys now that she probably just played with me. It's been another 4 days now since her message, so I guess you guys were right . I've pretty much lost all hope now. More than that, I feel powerless not knowing for sure what is really happening, why she would do this. It's just hurting a lot as I really love her and at times we both talked about how our future would be like. This wasn't at all what I had in my mind. Anyhow, thanks everyone for their comments and support, it was great help.