How Can I Stop My Wife Seeing OM

[Chrome Barracuda]

STBXMrsCG:

Hey what's for dinner

 

CG: My dust Goodbye!

 

*rush out the door and take the plates with you, let her eat with her hands.

 

lol or here's another one

 

STBXMrsCG: Hey what's for dinner, I gotta get recharged to have another go around with my new boyfriend (You know the one who im having an affair and leaving you with)

 

CG: Wind sauce and Fart pudding!

 

*my mom used to tell me that one when i was hungry. lmao.

[lordWilhelm]

I hope it's a case of CG not having Internet at his new place...

[Disintegration]

she didn't ask what's for dinner - she stated what will be for dinner. seeing as CG hasn't been back - i wonder if SHE was on the menu...

 

 

Oh damn, I read that out of context. Well hopefully he didn't decide to eat what she prepared and left her all alone having dinner by herself as she so deserves.

[ConflictedGuy27]

Hey everybody,

 

Where to start? First of all, let me say that my nice guy act is over. I'm done showing kindness where it isn't deserved, not in the slightest.

These last two days i've felt very detached from my STBX and this situation all together. If I had to sum up the feeling, I'd call it "I don't care anymore..."

 

So she showed up really late that night she said she was going to cook. Actually gave an excuse, like it mattered. It was my plan to just go to sleep but, noooooo, not me. Initially we greet each other with a hug (I'm embarrased to admit. That's the last touch she'll ever get from me) and she has some forms she wanted my help with. Again it was my plan to crash, but instead I took a look.

 

She could hear how annoyed I sounded in my voice and frankly I was looking for a fight soon after she arrived. I was just angry in general about the whole situation and the audacity of blatantly having a Fu*king boyfriend. As soon as she zeroed in on my tone I started the argument. She says, why are u treating me like a d*ck? No need to get into all that was said; let's just say it was my intent to straighten her out, so to speak.

 

I was exhausting latent anger, but it was pointless really. In all honesty, I probably did more to demonstrate that her conduct was on my mind than anything else. It felt good at the time to bit*h her out, but it's so counter productive at this point. Matter of fact I have a hunch she needs me to get like that as fuel for her justification.

 

I've slept good for weeks now. But these past two days have been bliss. I wake up totally ready for the day and not giving a damn about my STBX. I haven't moved yet, but damn near signed a lease on Monday. I slowed down cause I was doing it out of emotion. I wanted to ensure that taking the risk of obligating myself for two homes made sense. I think that it does, although there is some risk.

 

So haven't seen or spoke to the STBX since yesterday am. What seems to be helping a lot are my women friends are gravitating back towards me. Lol. If it was one thing about my STBX, she hated when other women were my friend. Shed engineer a way to get them away. Just goes to show her insecurity in herself. Anyway, I've been welcoming as much platonic female attention as possible lately and it's cool. Seems they're always willing to go out as friends or invite you to some event where other girls are at.

 

I'm keeping them ALL platonic until my D is more or less finalized and I've moved out. Although there's one girl who would jump in my bed if I entertained her advances more than I do. It's flattering, but hell, I'm damaged goods at the moment and I know it. Last thing I need is to further complicate things and be just like that whore STBX of mine.

 

In a nutshell, things are organically getting better, it seems. One female friend keeps urging me to move closer to her and where the action is. She said I could sleep on her couch yesterday, so that clarified things between us, lol. Not going there though. Not yet atleast.

 

This week was BUSY, it's my plan to take a few days off next week to really complete my search for the best apartment and move in.

[ConflictedGuy27]

It may sound silly, or rediculously obvious to someone not in the treches, but I just had an eye opening revelation.

 

8 weeks after D day I get this:

 

1. Only a person who is cold as ice could do what my ex is doing, the way shes doing it and have ZERO remorse.

 

2. Such a person could have never loved the one they're doing it to. This must be true because If there was an inkling of love was in the mix, the way she handled leaving would have looked remarkably different.

 

3. What we had was only good so long as she benefitted from it.

 

Those are amazing points to truly GET. To absorb that as the truth is something that could not have happened at say week 3 or even week 5. Not for me atleast.

 

Wow. Cold as f*ckin' ice...

This was likely a blessing in disguise; I made a mistake marrying her.

[ConflictedGuy27]

Jthorne & ol 2long, thanks to you both for the posts earlier.

 

It's funny. I was totally expecting ppl to agree with my points about her being cold & heartless and my notion that she always has been.

 

However, I get tempered, objective advise here, instead.

I'm glad I brought my issue to LS.

 

Frankly I forgot she's still very much in the fog of the affair. After so many weeks I just assumed this is who she's transformed into and will be forever. It's a great defense for me personally. Anger helps me devalue her to where she's actually belongs.

 

I remember during week 1 - 2 I learned all this stuff and how long the fog goes on, etc. Walking through life & reading about it are very very different. Lol.

 

I don't feel like I "love" her at all anymore. That's a brand new feeling since a few days ago. That too is a liberating feeling. Hopefully I'll begin to care less about "the day she finally GETS IT". The day she wakes up in a cold sweat like WTF did I do?!

 

Lol. Wishful thinking maybe, but I want to see that day. Once the desire to see that day passes, I'll be free.

 

50% of married ppl experience infidelity... what a Fu*cked up statistic.

[hopesndreams]

3. What we had was only good so long as she benefitted from it.

 

Yep, the being used and thrown away like garbage. That resonates with many of us on here.

 

You are doing FANTASTIC!! The peace will so be with you when you move into your new place and whenever the W wants something, as in dinner, whatever..tell her to whistle for it.

[ConflictedGuy27]

I know you are angry and hurt. But don't let this make you bitter. That's all I'm trying to say.

 

Roger that.

Thanks for clarifying.

[stillafool]

I think getting to the "angry" stage is progress. That stage of breakup always helped me to look at the reality of the situation and move on. You get angry at how you are being and have been treated versus thinking about what you can do to regain their love.

 

Slappity slap, for staying up for her to get home and giving her a hug. Glad you are back on track. Don't make it easy on her. She needs to atone for a hug.

[ConflictedGuy27]

I think getting to the "angry" stage is progress. That stage of breakup always helped me to look at the reality of the situation and move on. You get angry at how you are being and have been treated versus thinking about what you can do to regain their love.

 

Slappity slap, for staying up for her to get home and giving her a hug. Glad you are back on track. Don't make it easy on her. She needs to atone for a hug.

 

Yeah I'm in the anger phase u describe. Not pissed at the world; just seeing on a more clear level (the clearest yet) how fu*ked up her conduct was/is and how I've been so inappropriate trying to get her back.

 

My reality is Fu*k Her!

I got a text from her at the tail end of work saying "I hope you're having a good day"

 

My initial thought was F this bi*ch... Who does she think she's fooling?? She could honestly give a sh*t about my day... Lol. That's so obvious it's absurd shed even send the message. I just went back to work...

 

If I responded the way I felt no good would have come of it anyway and my reaction would only feed her final mission to tear me down me down mentally.

 

Not this time. My STBX is so lame. I've pressed the mental "eject" button on that girl. I can't wait to be done w/ this.

[Disintegration]

I got a text from her at the tail end of work saying "I hope you're having a good day"

 

 

How can anyone be having a "good day" while their spouse is out having an affair and rubbing it in their face. That is not normal. Is changing your number a possibility and only contacting her about the D an option? You could block your new number if you need to call her yet she wont be able to text or call about pointless things.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Who says he has to be bitter. he has a right to be angry.

 

Also dont you ever hug her again, the more your nice to her, the more you condone the affair in her mind. Show her she's not forgiven.

 

Dont be around her anymore!

[ConflictedGuy27]

Who says he has to be bitter. he has a right to be angry.

 

Also dont you ever hug her again, the more your nice to her, the more you condone the affair in her mind. Show her she's not forgiven.

 

Dont be around her anymore!

 

I understand your point here and I'm happy I can say I've got what she's done in the proper perspective.

 

She's so unworthy of any affection and/or kindness from me. I'm a nice guy so by default I'm kind to people but I'm seeing clear with regard to my STBX. She will be receiving neutral from me - an emotionless, neutral state when and only when communication is necessary.

 

I'll never be bitter towards the female gender. There's a whole range of women out there and the fact is, the one I'm in the process of flushing is on the bad end of that range. So be it. Better now than later. If she pulled something like this & we had kids, wow... That would be brutal.

 

If I learned anything yet, it's to never get a romantic relationship going with a person (woman in my case) that you KNOW has cheated before. She cheated on her last BF with me 9 years ago. I was younger and more foolish then. I'm armed with a lot more wisdom this time around.

 

I know many don't believe in the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater". I typically avoid supporting such generalizations; but clearly one that has cheated before did it for a reason; which begs the question - what happens if in our relationship, those same circumstances surface? Would she repeat what feels like the "right", or familiar thing to do (cheat)?? Or like a grown up, chose to communicate and find a solution, if one could be found.

 

Frankly, I've decided I don't need an answer to that question because I won't be entertaining the idea of taking such a risk again. I don't see the point.

 

The OM is a fool. A young fool, more foolish than I was in my late teens. If a woman that's MARRIED demonstrates that she could walk away without any remorse, what chance does he believe he'll stand? God help the kid if he's entertaining thoughts of a LTR. During a snooping session back in Feb, my STBX told her girlfriend the OM has started saying "I love you..." poor kid.

 

Been there, done that. He's doomed.

[stillafool]

I understand your point here and I'm happy I can say I've got what she's done in the proper perspective.

 

She's so unworthy of any affection and/or kindness from me. I'm a nice guy so by default I'm kind to people but I'm seeing clear with regard to my STBX. She will be receiving neutral from me - an emotionless, neutral state when and only when communication is necessary.

 

I'll never be bitter towards the female gender. There's a whole range of women out there and the fact is, the one I'm in the process of flushing is on the bad end of that range. So be it. Better now than later. If she pulled something like this & we had kids, wow... That would be brutal.

 

If I learned anything yet, it's to never get a romantic relationship going with a person (woman in my case) that you KNOW has cheated before. She cheated on her last BF with me 9 years ago. I was younger and more foolish then. I'm armed with a lot more wisdom this time around.

 

I know many don't believe in the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater". I typically avoid supporting such generalizations; but clearly one that has cheated before did it for a reason; which begs the question - what happens if in our relationship, those same circumstances surface? Would she repeat what feels like the "right", or familiar thing to do (cheat)?? Or like a grown up, chose to communicate and find a solution, if one could be found.

 

Frankly, I've decided I don't need an answer to that question because I won't be entertaining the idea of taking such a risk again. I don't see the point.

 

The OM is a fool. A young fool, more foolish than I was in my late teens. If a woman that's MARRIED demonstrates that she could walk away without any remorse, what chance does he believe he'll stand? God help the kid if he's entertaining thoughts of a LTR. During a snooping session back in Feb, my STBX told her girlfriend the OM has started saying "I love you..." poor kid.

 

Been there, done that. He's doomed.

 

 

How old is this guy? I assumed he was your age or so. I would tell her to stop texting and calling you as if the two of you are friends. Tell her she has broken any friendship because friends do not deceive one another. Tell her you are just "barely able to stomach her" until the divorce is over. Tell her to carry on as she has been and not to bother updating you on anything in her life other than the loan and what you are going to take when you leave.

[bestplayer]

It may sound silly, or rediculously obvious to someone not in the treches, but I just had an eye opening revelation.

 

8 weeks after D day I get this:

 

1. Only a person who is cold as ice could do what my ex is doing, the way shes doing it and have ZERO remorse.

 

2. Such a person could have never loved the one they're doing it to. This must be true because If there was an inkling of love was in the mix, the way she handled leaving would have looked remarkably different.

 

3. What we had was only good so long as she benefitted from it.

 

Those are amazing points to truly GET. To absorb that as the truth is something that could not have happened at say week 3 or even week 5. Not for me atleast.

 

Wow. Cold as f*ckin' ice...

This was likely a blessing in disguise; I made a mistake marrying her.

 

ConflictedGuy27 , It is really good that u summed it up so concisely . I will suggest u that the all the points u said above , let her know .

She should know how her actions changed ur views about her .

I think she believes that she has been able to fool u in keeping her image not as bad as it should actually be , due to her actions.

Trust me this will only make u get over her faster .

 

Best of luck

[stillafool]

ConflictedGuy27 , It is really good that u summed it up so concisely . I will suggest u that the all the points u said above , let her know .

She should know how her actions changed ur views about her .

I think she believes that she has been able to fool u in keeping her image not as bad as it should actually be , due to her actions.

Trust me this will only make u get over her faster .

 

Best of luck

 

 

Absolutely. She the nerve to act like what she is doing is normal and you both have agreed to some kind of "open marriage". No, let her know what she is doing is rotten to the core and you will not accept her as a friend at this point. Has she ever even apologized for what she has done to you and her marriage?

 

If this guy is some kind of a teenager, she certainly won't get any financial support from him and even though 26 is young, to a teenager it is damn near middle age. I don't see them making it. WTF?

[ConflictedGuy27]

Absolutely. She the nerve to act like what she is doing is normal and you both have agreed to some kind of "open marriage". No, let her know what she is doing is rotten to the core and you will not accept her as a friend at this point. Has she ever even apologized for what she has done to you and her marriage?

 

If this guy is some kind of a teenager, she certainly won't get any financial support from him and even though 26 is young, to a teenager it is damn near middle age. I don't see them making it. WTF?

 

The OM is 25, I'm 27 so there's not much of a gap, but he's younger - so that's what I mean when I say kid.

 

The points I made above are points I will make to her, as she opens up unnecessary communication with me. I did this yesterday, as she came through the condo that AM.

 

I had no idea she was there and I get a knock at my door. I'm woken by it and say hello and she asks if she could come in...

 

I opened and at like 9am she looked ready to go out - wearing a sun dress. I said nothing and went back to sleep (in retrospect I shouldn't have answered the door). She rumagged for something in a drawer & left.

 

15 mins later she comes back in and sits near where I'm laying on the bed. At this point I'm thinking WTF?? Why is she even here? And more importantly, does she think her sitting next to me like this is OKAY?!

 

Anyway, she asks how I'm doing and if I'm sick? My eyebrow goes up cause, sh*t... That question confirmed how wacked in the head she is. I say to her, "why do you talk to me or send me texts about stuff that doesn't matter anymore??" I was referring to my health being none of her damn business.

 

She says "because I want to..."

I try note to emote and just roll over. Then she left.

 

Those were the only words I had w/ her this weekend. I'm convinced she was "feeling out" how into her I still was and/or gauging how much emotional damage she's done to my psyche.

 

The next time she checks in will come very soon, I'm sure. It's my plan to respond to those moments with simalar contempt - I should wratchet ut up a bit actually.

[bestplayer]

The OM is 25, I'm 27 so there's not much of a gap, but he's younger - so that's what I mean when I say kid.

 

The points I made above are points I will make to her, as she opens up unnecessary communication with me. I did this yesterday, as she came through the condo that AM.

 

I had no idea she was there and I get a knock at my door. I'm woken by it and say hello and she asks if she could come in...

 

I opened and at like 9am she looked ready to go out - wearing a sun dress. I said nothing and went back to sleep (in retrospect I shouldn't have answered the door). She rumagged for something in a drawer & left.

 

15 mins later she comes back in and sits near where I'm laying on the bed. At this point I'm thinking WTF?? Why is she even here? And more importantly, does she think her sitting next to me like this is OKAY?!

 

Anyway, she asks how I'm doing and if I'm sick? My eyebrow goes up cause, sh*t... That question confirmed how wacked in the head she is. I say to her, "why do you talk to me or send me texts about stuff that doesn't matter anymore??" I was referring to my health being none of her damn business.

 

She says "because I want to..."

I try note to emote and just roll over. Then she left.

 

Those were the only words I had w/ her this weekend. I'm convinced she was "feeling out" how into her I still was and/or gauging how much emotional damage she's done to my psyche.

 

The next time she checks in will come very soon, I'm sure. It's my plan to respond to those moments with simalar contempt - I should wratchet ut up a bit actually.

 

ConflictedGuy27 , that was most appropriate reaction to her . There is nothing wrong in showing ur anger without being agressive .

In a situation like this if u can calmly sit & chat with her , that will be abnormal . She should see the emotional damage she has done , and now she knows that ur not trying to get her back .

 

best of luck

[stillafool]

The OM is 25, I'm 27 so there's not much of a gap, but he's younger - so that's what I mean when I say kid.

 

The points I made above are points I will make to her, as she opens up unnecessary communication with me. I did this yesterday, as she came through the condo that AM.

 

I had no idea she was there and I get a knock at my door. I'm woken by it and say hello and she asks if she could come in...

 

I opened and at like 9am she looked ready to go out - wearing a sun dress. I said nothing and went back to sleep (in retrospect I shouldn't have answered the door). She rumagged for something in a drawer & left.

 

15 mins later she comes back in and sits near where I'm laying on the bed. At this point I'm thinking WTF?? Why is she even here? And more importantly, does she think her sitting next to me like this is OKAY?!

 

Anyway, she asks how I'm doing and if I'm sick? My eyebrow goes up cause, sh*t... That question confirmed how wacked in the head she is. I say to her, "why do you talk to me or send me texts about stuff that doesn't matter anymore??" I was referring to my health being none of her damn business.

 

She says "because I want to..."

I try note to emote and just roll over. Then she left.

 

Those were the only words I had w/ her this weekend. I'm convinced she was "feeling out" how into her I still was and/or gauging how much emotional damage she's done to my psyche.

 

The next time she checks in will come very soon, I'm sure. It's my plan to respond to those moments with simalar contempt - I should wratchet ut up a bit actually.

 

 

Her behavior is close to a "mind f--k". What is she doing? Tell her you are not her responsibility to care about anymore because she clearly showed you just how much she cares. Tell her, "we are not friends and I am in the process of trying to forgive you for myself so I can move on. The best thing you can do for me is leave me alone".

 

Still, what 25 year old man wants to deal with a divorced woman and her problems for long term? Not many. Too many single girls out there to date before he settles down.

[kevinm1019]

From what I've read on these boards the best way to go is usually to not letting her have her cake and eat it...:

 

- Tell everyone you know she is having an affair

- Throw her out of the apartment and change the locks

- Don't give her any safety like "I love you" or try to be affectionate

 

Basically, she will not realize what she is losing until she realizes that she already has.

 

When I dumped my fiancé he tried the crying on the phone for hours card with me. When he came by during christmas because my mom invited him he tried to hold me, be affectionate and everything with me. It only put me off him even more. If he had been more like "Well I am happy without you I am strong and independent and do not need you" ...perhaps things would have had a different turn. I wanted a MAN with integrity who took no **** from nobody. My fiancé was weak and like a little boy who needed a second mommy.

 

Be a man who will not put up with this crap - that is how your woman will respect you. Being nice to her and loving in spite of her bad behavior does you no good and won't make her want you...

 

I wish you the best of luck. I am so sorry you are going through this.

Hey man... let me share something with you. I am currently going through something very similar. The way I found out is via text messages on her cell phone while trying to call her parents from the emergency room because she shattered her knee in a fall. I'll be honest with you... I did not want her to leave either. I couldn't imagine my life without her... the difference is... she was pursuing another life without me... and if it wasn't for her fall... she would've continued pursuing this life. The reality is... like my fiancee who I've been with for 13 years... it's not like she is admitting anything... she still does not think enough of you or the relationship to stop what she is doing and work on the real issue in your relationship between you and her. She thinks she is working out her problems through the other man when the reality is she is only complicating things by sharing the intimate part of herself with someone who will not dedicate or commit himself to her for the long term because that won't be "fun." So what did I do? I told everyone who meant anything to my fiancee about her affair. Her parents, my parents, our children, our mutual friends and anyone she considered important. Why? So she can understand how her selfishness and self indulgence is hurting the people in her life... so she can understand by being deceitful and inconsiderate impacts the people who have loved her and been in her corner when the chips were down... because as a potential or future wife... she has to understand what it means to be committed to her relationship even if it's not with me. Has it worked? Yes... because her parents, our children, closest mutual friends look at her differently and are no longer envious of our relationship because she traded it for a man she met on a dating website, told him things to present herself as an innocent, misunderstood victim, told him about me and our family then gave him permission to treat her like a piece of meat. Does that make her a whore? No... but she acted like a whore on that night. Do I think it was the only time as she shared. No... because if you share any type of intimacy with another man whether it is a kiss, hand holding, a hug, sex or whatever... it is cheating. What additional things did I do when she tried to act like she is a victim in this situation and is being controlled? I wrote down the other man's phone number on a piece of paper and told her if you think things are so bad... give him a call and tell him to come help you deal with your real life issues that you are currently facing... 4 -6 month of rehab for your shattered knee, bills, our children, transportation and our depressed/suicidal stepson who is on medication for a variety of issues... and see how fast he comes running. I closed that rant with... "but I'll bet he will be around when your on your feet again." I'll tell you something... her guilt and thoughts of her actions are eating her up inside. Why? Because... even though they won't say it... the people closest to her think of her and look at her like she's a $2 whore and was stupid for ruining her family and relationship over issues she could have addressed with the man who has been loving and supporting her... me. This is real life... not high school or high school games. She wants to go out and give her love and intimacy to another man... let him take all the other responsibility with it and give yourself some time to think. Get away from that negative aura and chi. Honestly... quit being the weak man that I was... or it will kill you and ruin you. Understand? Let me know how it goes. I will be cheering for you.

Edited March 22, 2010 by kevinm1019

[kevinm1019]

Hey man... let me share something with you. I am currently going through something very similar. The way I found out is via text messages on her cell phone while trying to call her parents from the emergency room because she shattered her knee in a fall. I'll be honest with you... I did not want her to leave either. I couldn't imagine my life without her... the difference is... she was pursuing another life without me... and if it wasn't for her fall... she would've continued pursuing this life. The reality is... like my fiancee who I've been with for 13 years... it's not like she is admitting anything... she still does not think enough of you or the relationship to stop what she is doing and work on the real issue in your relationship between you and her. She thinks she is working out her problems through the other man when the reality is she is only complicating things by sharing the intimate part of herself with someone who will not dedicate or commit himself to her for the long term because that won't be "fun." So what did I do? I told everyone who meant anything to my fiancee about her affair. Her parents, my parents, our children, our mutual friends and anyone she considered important. Why? So she can understand how her selfishness and self indulgence is hurting the people in her life... so she can understand by being deceitful and inconsiderate impacts the people who have loved her and been in her corner when the chips were down... because as a potential or future wife... she has to understand what it means to be committed to her relationship even if it's not with me. Has it worked? Yes... because her parents, our children, closest mutual friends look at her differently and are no longer envious of our relationship because she traded it for a man she met on a dating website, told him things to present herself as an innocent, misunderstood victim, told him about me and our family then gave him permission to treat her like a piece of meat. Does that make her a whore? No... but she acted like a whore on that night. Do I think it was the only time as she shared. No... because if you share any type of intimacy with another man whether it is a kiss, hand holding, a hug, sex or whatever... it is cheating. What additional things did I do when she tried to act like she is a victim in this situation and is being controlled? I wrote down the other man's phone number on a piece of paper and told her if you think things are so bad... give him a call and tell him to come help you deal with your real life issues that you are currently facing... 4 -6 month of rehab for your shattered knee, bills, our children, transportation and our depressed/suicidal stepson who is on medication for a variety of issues... and see how fast he comes running. I closed that rant with... "but I'll bet he will be around when your on your feet again." I'll tell you something... her guilt and thoughts of her actions are eating her up inside. Why? Because... even though they won't say it... the people closest to her think of her and look at her like she's a $2 whore and was stupid for ruining her family and relationship over issues she could have addressed with the man who has been loving and supporting her... me. This is real life... not high school or high school games. She wants to go out and give her love and intimacy to another man... let him take all the other responsibility with it and give yourself some time to think. Get away from that negative aura and chi. Honestly... quit being the weak man that I was... or it will kill you and ruin you. Understand? Let me know how it goes. I will be cheering for you.

The other thing someone told me is this... if she really wants things to work... all levels of privacy for her are over. You need access to everything... phone records, email, social networks, etc... if there is any type of apprehension... move on.

[ConflictedGuy27]

The other thing someone told me is this... if she really wants things to work... all levels of privacy for her are over. You need access to everything... phone records, email, social networks, etc... if there is any type of apprehension... move on.

 

I'm past entertaining the idea of reconciling with my STBX. I've been very honest in this thread, so those of you who've followed know all the mistakes I was making and weakness shown because I wanted to reconcile with that cake eating skank.

 

I'm very lucky that she didn't try to come back to me before I was in my current state. Me at four weeks ago would have totally taken her back... My Goodness... I can do waaaaay better. I deserve way better, too.

 

I like the idea of being single for awhile, getting my life fully restored and better than it was before, and finding a like minded woman to be with.

[ConflictedGuy27]

You are awesome, CG! And you will find someone just as awesome as you! (or is it yourself? Sorry, I'm tired, but you know what I mean.)

 

Thanks jthorne, I appreciate the support. It's not the easiest ordeal, that's for damn sure.

 

It's very tempting to go out and get a GF. Some days are more lonely than others, you see. I realize that's a bad idea - as i've still got baggage I need to ditch. I hate how my STBX jumped into a situation where she's getting her "needs" met, but I'm trying to be Mr. Righteous over here... Not fair.

 

Some friends keep insisting I need to get laid, lol.

Maybe they're right...

[lordWilhelm]

You sound really good CG. You've been handling her so good that I'm not even going to say you should move to an apartment on your own right now, only whenever you feel it's the right time.

[Chrome Barracuda]

CG you need to push her off the fence.

 

Stop letting her do small things that aggrivates you. If she's going out with the OM, why is she bothering you? why is she sitting on the bed asking you questions!!!???

 

WTF, why the hell did you open the door!?

 

Good lord. I have a feeling that when you do move out and start dating someone else. She'll crack, she'll go crazy and you'll see.

 

I think deep inside she does love you. but affairs are addictions but remember when she's out of the fog and the affair is over. She'll turn back to you full force. Mark my words.