emerald04 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I recently re-united with my high school sweetheart. We hit it off and things went well. I was going through a divorce and he had a girlfriend. We hung out one night and kissed. I made it clear that b/c of the intense feelings we were having, that if we were to see each other again, he had to be single. Fast forward a few weeks. We'd talked about the g/f a bit, but I basically let it drop since I said my piece and he said he would deal with it. He came over and of course we were intimate. Then I found out he did not deal with the g/f. Ok, so we have a lot of discussion on is he in love with the g/f which he says no. They actually seem to have a very casual relationship where they hardly see each other, but who really knows. He says it's not that, he just needs to "figure things out" or other lame excuses. So, I was miserable without him for a few weeks. We had a long history and I've loved him for so long, it was actually harder to get over him this time than my ex-husband. He has certainly said he loves me, etc... just that he is confused, and needs to deal with things. When we do talk about feelings, he disappears for a few weeks - will not answer text or phone. Anyways, finally, b/c I wanted to see him I suggested we be "friends with benefits". I guess I thought maybe if we did that I could "win him over" or woo him to me. Since I said we could be FWB, he has been flirty and fun, has kept in contact, etc... So, my question is - does that ever work? I am not able to be FWB and NOT have an emotional attachment to him, I love him. This hurts, but I think not having him at all hurt worse. Anyways, any advice is appreciated.
Fouts Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 (edited) No, it won't work. And from a guy's perspective, from what you've written, he has zero intention of ever getting together (you'd already be there). Save yourself the inevitable disappointment. Edited March 1, 2010 by Fouts
Author emerald04 Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 You are right.....I prolly already knew that just wanted someone to agree with me. I really need to just walk away.
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