annaM19 Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 I have this problem when it comes to dating. I am just way too picky i think. There is this guy that i work with. He is a really great guy and i how he likes me. The thing is i dont really know if the feeling is mutual. The main problem that i have with him is the age difference. He is 17 and i am 19. Do you think i am being really shallow about all this, or should i just forget the whole age difference thing and give him a chance? anna Link to post Share on other sites
CostumeSmile Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 I feel you on this completely.....funny I tell my girls all the time that I'm afraid of getting older b/c I'm not really too attracted to older guys....LOL I like baby faced pretty boys....I'm 25 I only date guys 24-30... I was in a relationship w/ a guy who was 2yrs younger than me, we broke up about 8months ago after 3yrs. The age turned out to be the breaking point, a young man need to explore and be free. It's hard for them to be loyal in the long run. I would say try it but don't be too serious about it. Give em' a chance but don't get caught up. I've met really mature guys of all ages, you can base things on age alone, just be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 In this instance, age shouldn't matter. I wouldn't worry about it. You could date a 21 year old and he could be perfect at first but end up being as immature as a 13 year old a few weeks down the line. Just give it a shot, I say. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 Statutory Rape works both ways! Why does his age bother you? Is it because of what your friends might say? Or are you maybe looking for a long-term relationship and are afraid that being 17, he just wants experience and is not mature enough for a relationship with you? You can always go out a few times with no strings or commitments and just see how it goes and how you feel about it. Be honest with him and tell him that you are a little uncomfortable about the age difference but don't know why. Link to post Share on other sites
Medgirl Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 I don't know. There is a difference between 17 and 19. I've found that women are usually more mature than men especially in that teen period of life. However, once your out of highschool and all that I've found that age isn't a big thing at all. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 27. *shrug* that's a judgement call you'll have to make. If he's cool then go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 Well, at least you're in your 20's. I have questions about guys in their 20's who date girls who are before their 20's. That's very odd to me, why can't they get girls their age? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 If you like him, age isn't relevant, EXCEPT in the case where 1 partner is under 18 and the other one is over 18. I doubt anyone will be filing charges should you become physically intimate, but if I were you, I'd stay friends only (or even GOOD FRIENDS only) until his 18th birthday party. At the stroke of midnight, you can make a man of him! Gosh, I love younger guys. They're so...CUTE. Link to post Share on other sites
crysiet Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 Physically and emotionally the difference isnt that big, but there is three problems that can end up being big, or might not even show up. . 1. you are still dependent of your parents and he has to make a living for himself. This might have a big change on the personality part of the relationship. Also, you might not be able to stay out late with him as he might want. 2. Legally, you cannot have sex with him. I'm not saying you shouldnt do it because of that, but it might be a risk on his part. He can be charged with rape if say your parents have a problem with it. and 3. What will your parents think? Will this start something that cannot easily be finished? Link to post Share on other sites
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