dwilliams_22 Posted March 4, 2010 Share Posted March 4, 2010 My heart just got broken yesterday and I don't really have many friends and the ones I do have I can't talk to because of my pride. I am 24 and I don't really know how to make new friends. I would look at someone weird if they came up to me and said "hey you want to be friends" so I know others will look at me the same way. I am a student and this is my last semester in school but I got to a predominant white school and I'm not racist but its hard to reach out to anyone when you are not in your environment. Anyone have any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
HereInVA Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 Sounds like you had a rough day yesterday. I had a similar experience in college - I had few close friends and when a relationship ended it made it so much harder because it can feel like you are losing a person that you really depended on for companionship. You have to make a conscious effort to keep moving forward. I joined an athletic club and met some people that way - did not find too many close friends (but I did meet one person who I am still very close to). Another thing that helped me a lot was, oddly, going to any party that I could find - but NOT to drink or drown my sorrows. I actually found that when other people are drinking, they can be very receptive to making friends! So you can nurse one drink all night and just try to chat up as many people as you can. It's great practice and if things don't go well you can excuse yourself and they will probably not even remember what happened. Even if you are feeling down, get out there and try new things and try to keep smiling. I hope that helps a little! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dwilliams_22 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Share Posted March 9, 2010 Sounds like you had a rough day yesterday. I had a similar experience in college - I had few close friends and when a relationship ended it made it so much harder because it can feel like you are losing a person that you really depended on for companionship. You have to make a conscious effort to keep moving forward. I joined an athletic club and met some people that way - did not find too many close friends (but I did meet one person who I am still very close to). Another thing that helped me a lot was, oddly, going to any party that I could find - but NOT to drink or drown my sorrows. I actually found that when other people are drinking, they can be very receptive to making friends! So you can nurse one drink all night and just try to chat up as many people as you can. It's great practice and if things don't go well you can excuse yourself and they will probably not even remember what happened. Even if you are feeling down, get out there and try new things and try to keep smiling. I hope that helps a little! that actually helped a lot. it will help to have a close friend but just having someone to hang out with every now and then is just as good cause i'm so lonely and bored which is not a good conversation. part of my problems with making friends is im always worried how weird people may think i am. trying to make friends with people who are put drinking may be easier cause even if the do think i'm wierd, they probably won't remember me any way. thanks for you insight Link to post Share on other sites
bubbles5 Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 You need a friend 1 improve ur communication skills 2 u have just broken up so u will take time to heal . 3 give yourself time, just by ignoring ppl in time of crisis wont help to solve ur problems. 4 Its obvious u lose faith in relation once we break up so I would say take your own time and not every person is bad on this world there are few good ppl its just u have to find them,, 5 You will only find a friend when you know them by reaching out to them Link to post Share on other sites
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