Author onebadwhiteboy69 Posted January 19, 2004 Author Share Posted January 19, 2004 True that dyer....but I slipped some venom in my confrontation with her bout it ....I told her that I met a girl this weekend, that really liked me, and we kissed, and that she's prolly called me 10 times since fri nite. (which is actually true, but I have no interest in the girl ) She seemed a lil drawn back at that....then she got a beep...and I promptly hung up to see if she call me back, no less than a min, she was calling....this time, I'm gonna get a "beep" (I'm in a room with my cell, and a house phone) and tell her it was a girl from school .....but the thing is, I can't act all hard around her like I do with other girls....I'm commited to making this thing work, one day when she starts acting like she really loves me, then I'll tell her it was all smoke and mirrors Whatcha think? Jay Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 I think that you should cool it on the kissing other women stories, eventually she might tire of them, or one of her friends might empower her to leave the relationship. There are others who would disagree with me, but as far as playing "the game", I tend not to advise blatant infidelity stories, whether they're true or not. Also, never admit it was all smoke and mirrors. Just say that you were both young, which is true. She doesn't want you to be a player forever, she just wants to be the one who turned you from player to puppy. Make her think that, slowly. Read her responses, yeah? Link to post Share on other sites
Author onebadwhiteboy69 Posted January 19, 2004 Author Share Posted January 19, 2004 well b/c she doesn't want her parents to know cuz of our age diff, she doesn't talk to her friends bout me....Also, cuz we don't get to see each other much cuz of me being at college, we have an agreement to not go past kissing with anyone, cuz we aren't always there for each other, and we are both young...things happen, ect. So kissing is kool, it was just meant as an attention grabber...I think I'm just gonna play the distant card for a week or so, and if things aren't changing by then, then I'm gonna confront her bout me leaving till she acts like she wants to be with me....if things change, then we can go from there. I'll def make sure to emphsize that I don't want things to go back to her not calling me, not saying I love you first...ect Jay Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 I would just keep doing what works, why do you feel the need to confront her? What evidence has she given you that she'd oblige to your confrontation? Link to post Share on other sites
Author onebadwhiteboy69 Posted January 19, 2004 Author Share Posted January 19, 2004 Well, I'm in the wrong here....I'm worrying too much, but I guess that is common when you put your heart on the line for the 1st time....as far as her not saying I love you first, I am gonna call her on that. But other than that, I'm gonna be the guy she loves and wants....and not worry her with my worries lol Just be cool, and be totally into her like she wants me to be....no more games, nothing. But the game I am gonna play is I'm not gonna say I love you anymore...I'm gonna wait for her to say it....when she does I'm gonna tell her don't say it unless you mean it. That way I'm not pushing her away with all these games and confrontations. Cuz you are right, she doesn't deserve these confrontations, it's all stemming from my worries of putting my heart on the line with a hs girl. Jay Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 It's all about her responses, if she's LOOKING to play games, as you've described before, she's not going to be interested when you stop playing with her, in which she probably isn't the best direction for your love to be travelling. As for the saying I love you thing, I don't feel like it should be parroted back to people, like the way it is with your mom when you're little. Link to post Share on other sites
Author onebadwhiteboy69 Posted January 19, 2004 Author Share Posted January 19, 2004 I don't think she's looking to play games anymore....she's just not the type of girl (she's not a typical girls girl, which is one thing I love bout her, but also irks me) to call a guy everynight....I mean when we talk, it's awesome, we talk for an hr at least. I think she already saw she almost lost the only person in the world that has really been there and wants to be with her besides her dad. (fam issues) But lil things irk me, and have me worrying...so I'm not gonna express my worries anymore, I'm just gonna play it cool (not be her play thing either, which I'm not gonna be until we can really be together/see each other, ect.) and be a good guy to her, but not speak of the L word until she brings it up....then I'll really know she's mine, and I'll have the advantage back Jay Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 I wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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