Medgirl Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 Yeah Hi I know you've all seen a billion posts from me for one thing or another. I'm starting to think that my relationship is going to hell too. First I couldn't trust him, I got over that and I don't worry anymore. Then I got jealous of his exwife but I dealt with that too. But one thing that is still buggin me is WHY won't he tell his exwife about me? We were talking one night, in fact it was the night I confronted him about my trust issues and he said something like "I only talk to three other girls, Chantelle, Kim, and Amy (his ex)" then he said "all but 1 knows about you". So of course I asked him who it was and he told me it was his ex. About 1 month into our relationship he told me he hadn't told her about me but I let that one slide because it had only been 1 month and we weren't as serious. Well, not we're on an "I love you" basis and I think it'd be time to tell her if he really did love me. So I asked him WHY he hadn't told his exwife about me and he said it was because last time he told her about his girlfriend his girlfriend ended up leaving him. I don't know what that has to do with anything so I called him on it. I told him that was BS. He wouldn't tell me WHY so finally I asked "Is it because of my age?" (I'm 20, he's 27) . He admitted that it was. So, I said "that's really none of her business". He said "that's right, it's not". Then he told me that I need to quit worrying about stupid sh** and that it's not that big of a deal. But I was still bugged so I demanded that he tell me why he won't just fess up to her. He told me that he's intimidated by her. Then he told me that she did know he was "kinda" seein someone, just not my age. Well, I got tired of that conversation quick. It was going no where. But what the hell? If you really love someone wouldn't you tell your exwife about them and not care what she thinks? and what's with this "KINDA" bullcorn? Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 Word from ex-wife here - if they haven't been divorced long he might not want to deal with her possibly jealous (and in my case sarcastic) questions and comments. I try not to bring up controversial topics with my ex - they're none of his business and I don't want his opinion. So try not to take it too personally... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medgirl Posted January 9, 2004 Author Share Posted January 9, 2004 They've been divorced for 2 years and he saw a girl for a year before me. and she has no right to be jealous. She gave him the boot. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 She may not care about "rights" or "wrongs". In rereading you post, are you afraid he is having reservations about being with you because of your age? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medgirl Posted January 9, 2004 Author Share Posted January 9, 2004 I don't think he has reservations about my age. But it seems like she does because his last girlfriend was also 20 and after they broke up apparently she gave him crap about her age. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 Bummer - sounds like he still puts a lot of value on her opinion. Maybe he's not strong enough to deal with what she tells him, I was just reading a few of your prior posts, kind of wondering why he bothers talking with her at all if she makes him feel this insecure about his choices. Link to post Share on other sites
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