Rollercoasterr Posted March 31, 2010 Share Posted March 31, 2010 We're not here to tell you what you want to hear. You came here asking about your situation, and they've answered. If you didn't want to hear tough love then you shouldn't have posted it at all. When you put yourself out there on forums you have to be open to what's going to come back at you. Instead you've been sarcastic and gotten upset when you didn't hear what you wanted. You obviously have your mind made up about your relationship, so the reason why you even wanted anyone elses opinion is beyond me. Everything that you have been told on this thread have been from past experiences with other posters(as in what we learned from other threads like yours). You wanted to know if anyone else had experienced this, but when you heard experiences you didn't want any of it if it wasn't what you wanted. In short, as I'm sure you're well aware, is that forums are not where you come when you want someone to be nice to you and not use tough love. We don't have to sugarcoat things on forums because we don't know you. We will never have to see you and feel badly about telling you the truth and being honest. We say our peace and go about our day. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gokova86 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Share Posted March 31, 2010 i've gotten some very good advice on this thread, but some people seem to completely misunderstand my situation. that is frustrating. sorry for being sarcastic, this is a hard time. i'll quit posting now. thank you to those who truly have helped me to better comprehend the reasoning behind what has occurred Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted March 31, 2010 Share Posted March 31, 2010 I don't mean that you should quit posting, I'm just trying to explain to you that getting upset because people say things other than what you want to hear isn't going to help your situation. I understand that when someone is hurting their mind is a little clouded. No one wants to believe that the worst can happen to them. Anyone who has ever fallen in love knows this. But in order to move on sometimes you have to accept that the worst has happened. I'm not talking about you here, but sometimes a poster will make excuses for months about the real reason why things happened in order to make themselves feel better. There was a thread a while back about a guy who said his girlfriend lost her phone that explains this completely. Just keep an open mind about everything. It's easy to say that there was no one else, but unless you can read her mind you'll never know 100% for certain. As things get easier for you to deal with the situation will become more clear in your head and maybe some of the things posters have said to you wont sound so crazy anymore. When someone drops off the face of the earth, anything is a possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gokova86 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Share Posted March 31, 2010 rollercoasterr: you're right, and i have accepted that the worst can happen. and yes, it's easy to be reactionary when in this position. apologies. however, it's almost laughable that someone could blame a lost phone for a breakup. hopefully i don't appear that way... in any case, slowly but surely this will leave my mind. i've had breakups before. just never one like this. Link to post Share on other sites
troggleputty Posted March 31, 2010 Share Posted March 31, 2010 whatever you say, troggle putty. if you say it, it must be true, oh guru of the online forum. it wasn't just a fling, and i don't appreciate you referring to it as that Gokova, you hooked up with her on vacation initially. Then, you basically hooked up with her a second time, again in a "vacation setting" or "vacation scenario," even though the second time was planned. Why does this not qualify as a fling in your mind? I don't want to argue semantics with you. Listen, you don't have a "long term relationship" simply because on the 8th day of the second chapter, you both mutually decide to call it a "relationship." That's only the start to see if you're both of the same frame of mind. It then has to be followed up on. The problem is, no follow up to speak of ever really occurred. I mean do you seriously think I haven't been in Europe, met girls there, and done exactly the same as you? Those were flings for me, and they're considered flings by everyone else that I know of. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gokova86 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Share Posted April 1, 2010 look, it wasn't a fling. it's over and done with either way Link to post Share on other sites
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