Are beautiful women REALLY approached by men all the time?

[shadowplay]

 

I'm an attractive girl and my two best friends are also very good looking girls (one's a model). When the three of us go out to bars/clubs/lounges/etc., we normally get approached at least a few times by different men. However, when we're out together during the day (shopping/lunch/gym), I notice that men will check us out all the time but very, very rarely are we approached just out and about during the day.

 

The same thing happens to me when I'm out alone during the day. It's not uncommon for heads to turn when I walk into Starbucks or the grocery store, but will anyone actually approach me? Very rarely. Same thing for my girlfriends. On the occasion that one of us is approached out & about during the day, it's normally by a guy who is VERY aggressive/a little creepy/doesn't have a chance.

 

Yeah, ditto this. I see men check me out pretty often, but they rarely approach in day time public settings. Same when I've been out with attractive female friends in public.

Edited March 7, 2010 by shadowplay

[urhangovergirl]

yes. beautiful women will always receive constant or near constant attention.

[Green]

I don't know if I agree that beautiful women are CONSTANTLY being approached.

 

I'm an attractive girl and my two best friends are also very good looking girls (one's a model). When the three of us go out to bars/clubs/lounges/etc., we normally get approached at least a few times by different men. However, when we're out together during the day (shopping/lunch/gym), I notice that men will check us out all the time but very, very rarely are we approached just out and about during the day.

 

The same thing happens to me when I'm out alone during the day. It's not uncommon for heads to turn when I walk into Starbucks or the grocery store, but will anyone actually approach me? Very rarely. Same thing for my girlfriends. On the occasion that one of us is approached out & about during the day, it's normally by a guy who is VERY aggressive/a little creepy/doesn't have a chance.

 

Usualy beautiful women are approached a lot. Maybe you just don't give out the right signals.

 

Even beutiful women get aproached by creepy guys... so if your being approached at all don't worry about it. Eventualy a guy who doesn't creep you out will approach.

 

If a girl looks like this http://www.contactmusic.com/pics/lb/twilight_premiere_8_181108/amanda_crew_2179258.jpg she is beautiful but unless she gives out good vibes she might not get approached.

 

The more skin you show, the more likely you will get approached by men http://www.sitesmexico.com/imagenes-2009/kim-bauer-1.jpg though of course you will be approached by creeps.

 

No one will argue that the woman who plays ugly betty is a stunning beauty http://www.tshirtwatch.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2007/01/be-ugly-beatty-shirt.jpg but to some man if he likes her attitude she could be considered the most beautiful woman and might get approached alot.

 

In the end though, an in shape pretty girl will attract more men no matter what http://www.purseblog.com/images/petra-nemcova-anya-hindmarch-bag1.jpg or http://chrisonrails.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/665-333.jpg

 

when compared to an average girl http://inyourface.freedomblogging.com/files/2008/08/heather-matarazzo-051696-111082-700p.jpg

 

and a bellow average girl might get more dates simply because of personality and lower standards http://bittenandbound.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/02/amy-winehouse-moving-in-with-the-osbournes.jpg like maybe they would have found the guys who approached you attractive.

 

And even this girl could have a bf http://www.netsummary.dk/bianco/images/ugly_girl.jpg

 

So in the end if you are pretty http://media1.break.com/dnet/media/2008/11/77%20Pretty%20Ladies.jpg all you have to do is smile at a guy and more likely then not he will ask you out. Being pretty will never stop you from being aproached. If you are not being aproached it is most likely other things.

 

If you want send me a private message with a link to your photo. Most likely you are a pretty girl and are just expecting to much out of approaches. A bar isn't the greatest place to meet some one either, so it makes sense that you are creeped out by the guys who approach you... they might be creeps... but eventualy a guy who gets you hot and bothered will aproach

[shadowplay]

^WTF is with the picspam? And I've never seen a woman who walks around in public as scantily clad as Eliza Cuthbert in that link, unless it's a beach boardwalk or something.

[threebyfate]

Yes, attractive women get approached all the time and if you find a woman attractive, the only way to find out if she's also attracted, is to approach her.

 

Most women prefer an honestly confident man. If you approach with false confidence, you're going to get rejected, unless you're one helluva' actor. But when she finds out you're not really confident, she's going to feel cheated and drop you, like yesterday's news.

 

So, bottom line, buff up your social skills by talking to everyone and anyone, until you learn how to approach people, to get a positive interaction going.

 

Then, start approaching women who you find attractive.

[Green]

Yes, attractive women get approached all the time and if you find a woman attractive, the only way to find out if she's also attracted, is to approach her.

 

Most women prefer an honestly confident man. If you approach with false confidence, you're going to get rejected, unless you're one helluva' actor. But when she finds out you're not really confident, she's going to feel cheated and drop you, like yesterday's news.

 

So, bottom line, buff up your social skills by talking to everyone and anyone, until you learn how to approach people, to get a positive interaction going.

 

Then, start approaching women who you find attractive.

 

there is no such thing as false confidence, if you were able to push through your fear, and do and say the things you wanted then thats true confidence even if you were nervouse and scared... It will help to relax and enjoy your interactions with women though... and be genuine instead of just saying some line you think will work.

[threebyfate]

there is no such thing as false confidence, if you were able to push through your fear, and do and say the things you wanted then thats true confidence even if you were nervouse and scared... It will help to relax and enjoy your interactions with women though... and be genuine instead of just saying some line you think will work.

Bravado and cockiness, are forms of false confidence.

[Twenty-ten]

there is no such thing as false confidence, if you were able to push through your fear, and do and say the things you wanted then thats true confidence even if you were nervouse and scared... It will help to relax and enjoy your interactions with women though... and be genuine instead of just saying some line you think will work.

 

 

I agree with that. By virtue of the favorable outcomes that your actions will ensue once you get into the habit of doing this action, you will actually build true self-confidence.

 

You have to start somewhere but it eventually becomes a natural outcome.

 

Beautiful women get hit on a lot, I know this because most by girlfriends are stunning. But I will say this there is one girlfriend I have who is stunning but she is also a lot of fun, when we go out guaranteed we will have guys hit on us. We could be out for a low key dinner and men will approach our table, she is considerably better looking than me, but the point is we are having FUN always having a laugh and in good spirits we are very much alike. Up beat happy women I think is very inviting for men, more so than just attractiveness.

 

On the flip side I have another few friends who are also very good looking but they are self absorbed going out with them is work, all they want to do is sit in a corner and chew my ear off with their guy problems, they are emotional vampires and they tend to bring me down, guess what no one approaches us when we are out. Who would? If I were a guy I'd want nothing to do with a girl who has a bitch face and is totally into herself. I stopped hanging out with her, for obvious reasons, now I hang out with her more that I am in a relationship.

[Green]

Bravado and cockiness, are forms of false confidence.

 

If cockiness is genuinely who the person is then its not false. If the person is using cockiness to hide behind... then its not as confident as just being onself... but still more confident then some one who doesn't even try.

 

I agree with that. By virtue of the favorable outcomes that your actions will ensue once you get into the habit of doing this action, you will actually build true self-confidence.

 

You have to start somewhere but it eventually becomes a natural outcome.

 

Beautiful women get hit on a lot, I know this because most by girlfriends are stunning. But I will say this there is one girlfriend I have who is stunning but she is also a lot of fun, when we go out guaranteed we will have guys hit on us. We could be out for a low key dinner and men will approach our table, she is considerably better looking than me, but the point is we are having FUN always having a laugh and in good spirits we are very much alike. Up beat happy women I think is very inviting for men, more so than just attractiveness.

 

On the flip side I have another few friends who are also very good looking but they are self absorbed going out with them is work, all they want to do is sit in a corner and chew my ear off with their guy problems, they are emotional vampires and they tend to bring me down, guess what no one approaches us when we are out. Who would? If I were a guy I'd want nothing to do with a girl who has a bitch face and is totally into herself. I stopped hanging out with her, for obvious reasons, now I hang out with her more that I am in a relationship.

 

You can be attractive in more then one way, and even a physicaly attractive person can be off putting if they present themselves a certain way. The point is aproaching a women takes confidence, and an attractive women gives you that confidence. A happy looking pretty women is very inviting and gets testostorone pumping which in turn gives both the incentive and the confidence to approach.

[threebyfate]

If cockiness is genuinely who the person is then its not false.

I can get behind this and agree.

 

If the person is using cockiness to hide behind... then its not as confident as just being onself... but still more confident then some one who doesn't even try.

I disagree. Hiding behind something, is the same as not being confident, since underneath it all, you're still not confident. So this happens, when she finds out:

 

But when she finds out you're not really confident, she's going to feel cheated and drop you, like yesterday's news.

[Sharla]

Its quite simple. Drunk girls get hit on often, because of the massively improved success rate.

 

 

True.

 

But I was by no means drunk. I was just more friendlier and social. Plus, I was in a small group of men and women.

[Brielle1]

I am approached by men pretty often. However, most of them are not my type, if ya know what I mean! I have a good number of guy friends and their friends usually get in touch with me thru our mutual friend! I've been 100% single since October 2009, and I'm kinda enjoying it!

[start-fresh]

I am approached by men pretty often. However, most of them are not my type, if ya know what I mean! I have a good number of guy friends and their friends usually get in touch with me thru our mutual friend! I've been 100% single since October 2009, and I'm kinda enjoying it!

 

Congrats?

[Green]

I am approached by men pretty often. However, most of them are not my type, if ya know what I mean! I have a good number of guy friends and their friends usually get in touch with me thru our mutual friend! I've been 100% single since October 2009, and I'm kinda enjoying it!

 

100% single... what a waste. I hope some man up to the challenge aproaches you soon

[shadowplay]

Just was speaking with my mom and mentioned something about this topic. I didn't realize this but she said that my grandmother was never approached as a young woman.

 

This really shocked me because my grandmother was a real beauty in her youth (much prettier than I and even my mother). She used to be a model. So yeah, apparently there are beautiful women who never get approached.

I wonder what the reason is.

[Green]

Just was speaking with my mom and mentioned something about this topic. I didn't realize this but she said that my grandmother was never approached as a young woman.

 

This really shocked me because my grandmother was a real beauty in her youth (much prettier than I and even my mother). She used to be a model. So yeah, apparently there are beautiful women who never get approached.

I wonder what the reason is.

 

Maybe your great grandfather was really scary and every one knew to stay away. Who the heck knows. It doesn't mean a woman is not beautiful if she doesn't get approached because there are other factors that can come into play. You obviously exist so some one eventualy approached her... thats all that counts right, that some one the girl can love approaches her

[alphamale]

i've dated some good looking chicks and some of them were approached a lot and some of them were not. i guess is depends on the girl....

 

but they all got hit on in the bar. i remember one time i left my gf to hit the bathroom. i wasn't gone but 3 minutes and she had like 4 guys all over her...

[threebyfate]

Women get hit on in bars more, due to the false courage provided by alcohol, beer goggles and the known loosening qualities, in general, on both genders.

[tigressA]

I don't get approached, but I have no problem with that. Additionally, frequenting places like bars and clubs just isn't my style. I do notice a lot of guys checking me out, though, and I get catcalls, which I really don't like. They're very immature, and they startle me.

[Brielle1]

@green.

 

It's not a waste. I've always been in a relationship until recently. A lot of people are afraid of being alone, so they stay in relationships, even when they r unhappy.

 

And what I meant by not my type, Was that the type of men who go about it in a very disrespectful way.

[littlewhiterose]

I've heard many conflicting theories on this.

 

1) Beautiful women get approached by lots and lots of guys all the time, so a guy needs to have a solid game in order to stand above the rest and stand a chance of being with her.

 

2) Beautiful women actually do NOT get approached all that often, because most guys are shy and intimidated by her beauty.

 

Which is it?

 

Yes and yes.

 

The answer can be "both" depending on the day, circumstances, environment and company surrounding the woman.

[sweetjasmine]

Just was speaking with my mom and mentioned something about this topic. I didn't realize this but she said that my grandmother was never approached as a young woman.

 

This really shocked me because my grandmother was a real beauty in her youth (much prettier than I and even my mother). She used to be a model. So yeah, apparently there are beautiful women who never get approached.

I wonder what the reason is.

 

Being beautiful doesn't automatically mean you're approachable.

 

Few men would feel comfortable approaching a gorgeous woman who's sitting with her arms crossed and has a look on her face that says "I'm going to kill the next motherf-er who so much as looks at me."

[Eeyore79]

I am reasonably nice looking. I get stared at in the street or in restaurants and stores, cars will sometimes beep as they pass if I'm dressed particularly nicely (e.g. wearing a little dress in summer), and young male sales assistants sometimes stammer when I talk to them. But as for being asked out on dates or actually hit on? No, not so much. I find that in an environment where alcohol is involved and men are in the mindset of hitting on girls, then I will get hit on. If a guy approaches my group of friends then I'm usually the one he's interested in, and if my friend meets a guy while she's away from me we usually have the awkward situation where she either doesn't want to bring him over and introduce him to our group of friends, or if she does bring him over he starts being embarrassingly interested in me even though I haven't done anything to encourage him, and then my friend gets annoyed. In the past I've had friends tell me to dress down because we're not going anywhere special, then when I meet them they're dressed up to the nines - I can only assume it's because they want me to appear less attractive so they might have a chance. That's in a bar-type situation though; it doesn't tend to happen in normal day-to-day situations. Maybe it's because I'm in the UK and men are more reticent here? When I went to the US on holiday I got hit on all the time, in the street and stuff, by guys who hardly even knew me, so maybe it's a cultural thing?

[lino]

A truly gorgeous girl who is that way naturally will get waaaaay more than just stares or guys checking them out. She'll literally get approached, asked out and even have things bought for her on a regular basis and not just in bars or clubs... It will happen ANYWHERE.

 

I've seen it so many times with my cousins and it's absolutely incredible!

[SadandConfusedWA]

I am kind of puzzled at women that take this thread personally. There are very few women that are incredibly beautiful and most likely you (or me) are not one of them. While somewhat above average women will get stares, checked out, cat calls and approached in bar/club type of setting; the truly gorgeous ones will literally be stopped on the street, while doing grocery shopping, at work etc. If this does not happen to you, you are simply not incredibly beautiful so accept that as a fact and move forward. (and I am not incredibly beautiful either as this doesn't happen to me).

 

As for intimidation factor and approachability, yes some men will be too shy and intimidated to approach but for every shy guy there will be at least one confident enough to go for it. As for approachability, men can be so blinded by true gorgeousness, that they will have a shot at it anyway.

 

I am talking about top 10 or 5 percentile here.