Almost 4 months of contact then...nothing

[sunshinee]

My ex and I broke up on the 16th of November(were together for 1,4 I'm 20 he is 21) because he was taking me for granted,we argued a lot about this and we broke up...he was claiming he will fight for me the first 2 days,then said"'may be it's for the best,I want to be alone now"',then these 3-4 months he used to call me almost every day,sometimes 2-3 times a day,sometimes he was nice,told me he loved me but wanted to be alone for now,sometimes he acted like he doesn't care but still was calling me...for these 4 months he called me 50 -60 times or more,soemtimes we hang out but it was 3-4 times and sometimes we kissed.For these 4 months I called him about 10 times only,2 weeks ago he called me every day saying he loves me,we spent Valentine's day together and he was so caring and loving,then he didn't call me dor 2 days,I called him on 1st of March he sounded like he wanted to get rid of me,I don't know what happened,then he stopped calling at all...it's been a week he haven't called...I don''t know what''s happening because 2 weeks ago he was that loving and caring boy,I don't wanna call him because I know that if i don''t call he will miss me some day.He is very weird,when I show him that I care he is acting very strangely like he doesn''t care so much but when i back off for a day or two he starts loving me... I don''t know what to do,please tell me that I should not call him.

[BigTenInchRecord]

You should not only stop calling him, but you should tell him to stop calling you. It's obvious he doesn't geniuinely care about you, and it seems like he's only nice and caring when he either wants to feed his ego, or to make sure you don't move on. Someone who was sincere wouldn't act like this. You gotta tell him it's all or nothing, cause if not he's gonna keep treating you like this. If he can't commit, give him the boot and go NC.

[aerogurl87]

You should not only stop calling him, but you should tell him to stop calling you. It's obvious he doesn't geniuinely care about you, and it seems like he's only nice and caring when he either wants to feed his ego, or to make sure you don't move on. Someone who was sincere wouldn't act like this. You gotta tell him it's all or nothing, cause if not he's gonna keep treating you like this. If he can't commit, give him the boot and go NC.

 

I agree with BigTenInchRecord, go completely NC. My ex called me when he was feeling low and didn't have a girl to play with at the time. At first I fell for his "I love you"s until I started noticing this pattern of him basically taking what I said, rearranging the words a little, and saying it back to me. Then when I found someone else he got pissed because I had moved on. Did he love me? He claims he did and does, not that I care anymore, but he didn't want me. And you know what in the end I was/am better off without him. I'm sure you'll feel the same way in time. Give it a few months and when you look back you'll wonder why you spent your precious time caring about that idiot for so long.