3weeks of no contact with ex and I find out on "fecesbook" that....

[nowomanocry]

she has a new bloke - which a friend of mine informed me about. Checked the darn "****"book and there she was with the new possible victim lol. cheek to cheek and even posting about how he shagged her, all that crap about "love"... (d..khead doesn't even think about such a co-incidence it might be she finding him while still keeping me on hold for a certain timeframe) . As a matter of fact, I find out that without even informing of our relationship goin' downhill she basically keeps me on standby while finding another stud... His only advantage (which is a lot) he is british, living in the UK, ready to give her the standards of life she wants.

 

That must be the reward of years of togetherness, devotion, sincerity, honesty, loyalty, being-open, giving without take, at short being a nice guy! (Still trying to be nice as you see). After years of messing around the consulate for visas, work permits, arranging and flying over to have interviews to get a job there, financing the whole f....n relationship as she being a mother of 4 living on min. wage and in a council home criyng over the phone that 20 h. a week is too much while here I work 55 h a week to support the plane tickets, visas, shopping, upto buying stuff for her boys lmao

 

I think us men, we are idiots and really need to wake up. My advice to all guys here is that: never open up to a woman, never give more than she deserves (be as stingy as possible), never ever chase, always have an alternative plan and most of all STAY OUT OF LDRs....

 

Last but not least, an sms she sent me while she was flirting with that poor fella (her current bloke):

 

"Baby always with u. My heart n soul u r. Thanx for bein mine 4eva. I love u xoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxo"

 

I asked her 3 weeks ago (before I found out about this new fella) so what was that message? the reply is "I don't know" & "things can change ( she thinks that you can fall in love and this can change)"

 

I ask her well I was with you while breaking up with your ex and all that s...t time and supported you emotionally (and financially) and you dump me while I am trying to heal my dad who had a brain emboly spending a month in the hospital... She responds "well it is for my benefit and my kids' as well...." (now I know what she means)

 

I tell her not going to tell my family that we broke and she's a bitch enough to say "oh right the macho thingy, well tell em you dumped me " and I say "no because I do not want my family to know that I was in love with a bitch"

 

Oh well, woteva lol

 

Have a good week-end everyone

[Rearden Metal]

Wow man... For someone who gives such tough, cutthroat advice, you sure do have a situation going on there, huh?

 

Seriously, she's playing you. You're her long distance financier. She's a high class escort, basically.

 

Let the new guy sort it out. Go make 4 kids of your own to spoil.

[ginyi1111]

come on it's not just men that will get played in LDRs

 

my ex dumped me two days after he flew home from celebrating my brithday with me. he could have done it to my face but chose to do it online two days later. And after that just dropped off the face of the earth. No matter how hard i tried to reach him.

 

its been 3 months now, im better but not recovered....

[nowomanocry]

Wow man... For someone who gives such tough, cutthroat advice, you sure do have a situation going on there, huh?

 

Seriously, she's playing you. You're her long distance financier. She's a high class escort, basically.

 

Let the new guy sort it out. Go make 4 kids of your own to spoil.

 

Hi Rearden

 

Yeah , my case is screwed up as well that y I'm here - to share with you guys

 

My advice are usually cutthroat (cept for a few) I know - but it's not my advice it is the situations of people that I read in general that's ****ed up like my case... If there is slightest hope or a light at the end of the tunnel I always advise positively... But unfortunately, us here we all have f...d up relationships and hurt souls

 

I am not sure if she's playing me because

 

* We were not a normal relationship, and LDR with a lot of problems - ie my situation, her situation e.g my visa problems, me having to leave everything here and go there to settle and start everything from scratch, she not being competent enough to be able to be my sponsor to start-off with...But for 3 years, romance and love was there, we had an excellent sex life, when together we were good and not even once we had a fight or called each other bad names etc...I think we did pretty well till now but she had to think of her kid's future as well...

 

I am preparing a surprise for her and see whether I was right or wrong in the above evaluation mate..

 

Anyways, cheers for the comment!

[nowomanocry]

come on it's not just men that will get played in LDRs

 

my ex dumped me two days after he flew home from celebrating my brithday with me. he could have done it to my face but chose to do it online two days later. And after that just dropped off the face of the earth. No matter how hard i tried to reach him.

 

its been 3 months now, im better but not recovered....

 

Lol Ginyi I never generalise, I am referrring to mates who are in a same / similar position as me

 

I know that there are loads of good gurls out there...

 

I am sorry to hear your story... Please do not take it out on some poor fella who will be the next lucky guy

 

Welcome to the club hun!

 

Cheers

[nowomanocry]

Wow man... For someone who gives such tough, cutthroat advice, you sure do have a situation going on there, huh?

 

Seriously, she's playing you. You're her long distance financier. She's a high class escort, basically.

 

Let the new guy sort it out. Go make 4 kids of your own to spoil.

 

In addition, by preparing that surprise I am sacrificing myself for the whole male population lol - so that when I do that I will share the info with you guys ;)

[aerogurl87]

I know how you feel, my ex called me the morning we broke up and told me I was the one, he had won the lotto with me, meeting me was like a one in a million chance, and we were gonna get married one day. Four or so hours later, I get a text saying he's leaving me and can do better, etc. Then the next day I find out he's got a new girlfriend and is planning to move to Canada so he can leech off of her financially because I wasn't willing to work my butt off so he could stay home all day smoking pot behind my back and playing Second Life all day. I know how it feels, to just be blind sided like that, but it gets better.

[nowomanocry]

I know how you feel, my ex called me the morning we broke up and told me I was the one, he had won the lotto with me, meeting me was like a one in a million chance, and we were gonna get married one day. Four or so hours later, I get a text saying he's leaving me and can do better, etc. Then the next day I find out he's got a new girlfriend and is planning to move to Canada so he can leech off of her financially because I wasn't willing to work my butt off so he could stay home all day smoking pot behind my back and playing Second Life all day. I know how it feels, to just be blind sided like that, but it gets better.

 

Yeah, so that it proves that not only some women but some men can be hypocrites too..

 

I can't believe how people can be so two-faced (refering to your case)

 

In my case, (quite naturally) I was not able to grab a life there in the UK with her so she took a rational decision, dumped me and went to someone that could offer her that life. Her babies come first, that I understand. Wot I do not understand is she wrote on facebook that she was in love with this new fella. It should not be so easy to say "I am in love with you " to a another person.

 

As for the work thing Aeorgurl, I was ready to work there but she just couldn't take the risk of a marriage as well due to visa, bureaucratic reasons etc. In your case, it is good that you found that out and got rid of him because in the end being a couple is mutual - both have to strive for things eh? Not only you...

 

It is my fault as well, just trying to carry on with such an impossible relationship to push things so further... but that I did because I got the vibes from her.. Shame that 3 years of my life is gone for nothing and I am not even married lol

[Flavour]

Do not check things on Facebook. It is pure torture and you have suffered enough.

I do not know what you are "planning" but please do not get into troubles. And I am sorry to tell you this-I have been in your shoes and I know HOW it hurts-but there is nothing you can do to win her back. Spare the money. Spare the time and the energy. Spare yourself-do not waste yourself and your dignity anymore on who don't want you. She does not want you. Period.

 

One day you will be happy to have spared your dignity. Not now. But accept that she does not love you, maybe she never did. You will heal. You will find a new love, someone worthwhile.

 

I would like to help you but where you are now noone can really help you.

 

Only time.

 

(((hugs))) don't do stupid things.

[aerogurl87]

Yeah, so that it proves that not only some women but some men can be hypocrites too..

 

I can't believe how people can be so two-faced (refering to your case)

 

In my case, (quite naturally) I was not able to grab a life there in the UK with her so she took a rational decision, dumped me and went to someone that could offer her that life. Her babies come first, that I understand. Wot I do not understand is she wrote on facebook that she was in love with this new fella. It should not be so easy to say "I am in love with you " to a another person.

 

As for the work thing Aeorgurl, I was ready to work there but she just couldn't take the risk of a marriage as well due to visa, bureaucratic reasons etc. In your case, it is good that you found that out and got rid of him because in the end being a couple is mutual - both have to strive for things eh? Not only you...

 

It is my fault as well, just trying to carry on with such an impossible relationship to push things so further... but that I did because I got the vibes from her.. Shame that 3 years of my life is gone for nothing and I am not even married lol

 

Oh it did suck, big time. I'm partially to blame since I did cheat on him, although about 2 1/2 months in I found out through my best friend and his sister that he'd been cheating on me from the get go. I guess sometimes it is good to trust your gut instinct. He even blatantly said to my face right before we broke up for good that he thought I was a b*tch for not letting him carry on these emotional affairs with other girls online because it was selfish of me since it could help improve their self esteem.

 

I'm just happy I only lost 6 months of my life to him and didn't move to him. Which brings me to the second part of how everything was so f**ked up. About 1 week before he suddenly left me he begged me to move up North with him ASAP. I wanted to, but something inside told me to stay put where I was and I'm glad I did. I mean he wanted me to give up everything I had here and move up there with him. Glad I didn't or I would've been one pissed off girl, lol.

 

And I don't think it's bad that you tried to carry on what you call the "impossible". Lots of people on here are examples that the "impossible" can work as long as both people are committed to making it work. But like you said when one person isn't completely working toward the same goal as yourself, things just fall apart.

 

I do not know what you are "planning" but please do not get into troubles. And I am sorry to tell you this-I have been in your shoes and I know HOW it hurts-but there is nothing you can do to win her back.

 

Flavour I don't think he wants her back, I think he was just venting...

Edited March 8, 2010 by aerogurl87

[Leia]

One day you will be happy to have spared your dignity. Not now. But accept that she does not love you, maybe she never did. You will heal. You will find a new love, someone worthwhile.

 

I would like to help you but where you are now noone can really help you.

 

Only time.

 

(((hugs))) don't do stupid things.

 

:rolleyes:

 

Where in the world did you get the idea that OP wants his ex back?

 

He's bloody ranting and he has the right to do so. The woman was a piece of work.

[nowomanocry]

Do not check things on Facebook. It is pure torture and you have suffered enough.

I do not know what you are "planning" but please do not get into troubles. And I am sorry to tell you this-I have been in your shoes and I know HOW it hurts-but there is nothing you can do to win her back. Spare the money. Spare the time and the energy. Spare yourself-do not waste yourself and your dignity anymore on who don't want you. She does not want you. Period.

 

One day you will be happy to have spared your dignity. Not now. But accept that she does not love you, maybe she never did. You will heal. You will find a new love, someone worthwhile.

 

I would like to help you but where you are now noone can really help you.

 

Only time.

 

(((hugs))) don't do stupid things.

 

Dear Flavour

 

That is a very sweet mail... thank you, very pleased to meet you

 

The surprise is nothing of the sort you have imagined, never ever do something like that anyway..

 

I am in the phase of getting over her, sometimes good sometimes feeling so down, I really do not know what I feel at the moment.. Sometimes I hate her, sometimes I realize our circumstances and calm down, sometimes I miss her terribly, sometimes happy that she is gone when I think of all the shiat she put me thru...But one thing I know just finished off paying card bills hun, screwed me up. I am not hurt, I am mostly pissed off with the whole thing, and believe me the fact of not being able to do anything is the worst feeling ever..It is like boxing with Mike Tyson with both hands tied up

 

Facebook, to tell you the honest truth, I have been in there only 1-2 times... Once to find a very good mate of mine and second when my friend warned me of her new page. Trust me I hate facebook and I think it is waste of time because it is useless for me. I'm working and don't have too much time anyway..

 

The most disgusting part of my situation is that I find out for a considerable period of time she had two of us in hr fingers and the new fella doesn't know that. I found out because I have seen 'em on facebook. They have a page, with a photo cheek-to-cheek... him saying that her azz is his hobby & that they had a shag and bath together etc etc ... gross !From what I can guess is that this is going on for a good while, and she still has not told me that she has someone new now... really shameful

 

 

Thanks for your support anyway hun! Would love to hear your story if you want!

 

<<<<<<<<HUGZ BACK>>>>>>>

[nowomanocry]

:rolleyes:

 

Where in the world did you get the idea that OP wants his ex back?

 

He's bloody ranting and he has the right to do so. The woman was a piece of work.

 

Hell yeah Leia! Halleluljah

 

I would be disgusted of myself if I ever took her back even if she gets kicked up the azz by this new bloke...

 

I just want to look into her eyes and see if there's any signs of shame in 'em and if she would look at me the way she looked at the start of our r/s. I want to know if this whole thing was a joke right from the start OR we came to this point because of the circumstances. That is all I want to know. If what she said was true right from the start (that she was in love with me) OR (she never loved me, and the whole thing was a joke) which in that case for me LOVE IS DEAD! Because that will prove people can perfectly lie about some feeling so grandioso and still not be ashamed of looking at your face covering their lies...

 

It is very interesting that no one of you guys have ever showed any sympathy towards her too! That is really some finding for me..

 

Many thanks for the excellent comment!

[nobmagnet]

Firstly darling,

 

I apologise for her appaling behaviour on behalf of the majority of British women.

 

Can I just say summot? She wanted a meal ticket?? WTF???? IMO you are well shot. Lower than low IMO.

 

You must not beat yourself up over this. What she did is pure vile vomit inducing poo. I am at a loss for words. You seem an intelegent articulate chap who has meen mugged emotionally by a shallow, money grabbing leach.

 

I am British, have 3 kids but will be financially sorted and working very soon. I cant wait.

 

You are a knight in shining armour my freind........wait till the woman that deserves your affection appears and shower her with your love. But ensure she feels the same way.

 

1 in a million as most chaps are on here to be honest.

 

Chin up what goes around comes around.

 

Nobby xx

[Leia]

Hell yeah Leia! Halleluljah

 

I would be disgusted of myself if I ever took her back even if she gets kicked up the azz by this new bloke...

 

I just want to look into her eyes and see if there's any signs of shame in 'em and if she would look at me the way she looked at the start of our r/s. I want to know if this whole thing was a joke right from the start OR we came to this point because of the circumstances. That is all I want to know. If what she said was true right from the start (that she was in love with me) OR (she never loved me, and the whole thing was a joke) which in that case for me LOVE IS DEAD! Because that will prove people can perfectly lie about some feeling so grandioso and still not be ashamed of looking at your face covering their lies...

 

It is very interesting that no one of you guys have ever showed any sympathy towards her too! That is really some finding for me..

 

Many thanks for the excellent comment!

 

You won't get the answers. Wanna know why? People like your ex and my ex, they don't have a soul. That is why they treat people like they treated us. So not worth it ~ don't think about it. Just think about how you are doing now, and that you're going to do much better than her in all aspects of your life.

[Flavour]

Oh, so I guess I was wrong, and you do not want her back. WOW, these are REALLY good news!

 

But if this is true, why on earth, I repeat, you want to waste more time, more money "to see in her eyes"....what do you expect to see in her eyes? You will see only the bull**** you have already got. Buy a new pair of shoes instead ( a very Italian advice ) have a nice pizza out with friends, have a coffee. Buy a present to someone who REALLY loves you : your family or good friends.

 

You want justice, I know. But life have its own ways to do justice. Don't seek it by yourself. It is useless. The best justice is-and will happen soon- when you will not care anymore, but really, and you will be kissing and cuddling your new special and true love. This is revenge. This is justice.

 

 

My story? Oh I am currently in a LDR, but before I had my portion of jerks. One of them-who I really loved, by the way- put on my pC spywares to control everything, while he was cheating me like crazy online and at work. Funny, huh? the double standards that some people have.

 

I do not blame Facebook as a social network, it is a great invention and I am addicted to it :-) but I am firmly convinced that you should NEVER have exes among your contacts, never, it is too much torture. Block her out of FB and out of your life. On Facebook you can have fun and lots of stupid and also intelligent things, but do not "use" it for things like these, because.....it hurts TOO MUCHand I know it.

 

Thank you for appreciating my post. I really keep my fingers crossed for you. But please.....you have an important skill, the skill of loving, and this skill will allow you to be happy in the future even if now is making you miserable . She has not that skill and she will never be happy like you will be.

[nowomanocry]

Firstly darling,

 

I apologise for her appaling behaviour on behalf of the majority of British women.

 

Can I just say summot? She wanted a meal ticket?? WTF???? IMO you are well shot. Lower than low IMO.

 

You must not beat yourself up over this. What she did is pure vile vomit inducing poo. I am at a loss for words. You seem an intelegent articulate chap who has meen mugged emotionally by a shallow, money grabbing leach.

 

I am British, have 3 kids but will be financially sorted and working very soon. I cant wait.

 

You are a knight in shining armour my freind........wait till the woman that deserves your affection appears and shower her with your love. But ensure she feels the same way.

 

1 in a million as most chaps are on here to be honest.

 

Chin up what goes around comes around.

 

Nobby xx

 

Hey Princess (nob) lol,

 

First of all, at first, I really didn't know how to reply to this mail because was gobsmacked.

 

You should be the last person to apologise for this - but proves such a great heart you have there. I never generalise this to the whole UK - have loads of friends there, my family have loads of friends in the UK, dad studied in the UK..I love the UK and try to visit as often as I can

 

You are well right in your comments about her - and not only because I passively accept whatever you say but also because what happened yesterday - listen to this know

 

I got a call to my mob - an unknown number and picked up was her on the phone... "how u doing" bla bla you know, after that she asked "how you doing" I said "good", she asked "hows your dad" (she dumped me almost synchronising with my dad having a brain emboly which I'm trying to get him back on track again) I said "all good".. She said "did you tell your mum that we are no longer together" I said "no, what that got to do with you anyway?anymore" She said "well I feel like I am bul.shiatting her" I said "oh really" (lmao look at that shiat) . She said "why you not telling her? It's the macho thing innit, hard to say you got dumped by me". I said "no, really on the contrary, despite what you think it is because I do not want her to get hurt, because she thought you was a good woman as well, I do not want her to find the truth about ya and be upset and re-think the way she evaluates other people, and most of all at the very difficult time we are going thru this is the last thing we need" and I told her if there is nothing else she wanted to say (she still has not told me about the new fella that she's seeing since around November - cheating on me) had to go and said bye and hung up. I am really amazed of how she's capable of lying to me, and hiding things from me, speaking so cool - she didn't even give me the chance to work things out between us (that valid for normal relationships of course) - didn't even tell me that our r/s was dying - she took the decision herself and didn't give a fook about me... I do not know why she is hiding that new fella as a secret as she's broke up with me, and shes in the UK and there's basically nothing I can do about it. I didn't even bother revealing that as probably she would have come up with an explanation telling me that "she didn't wanted me to get hurt (!!! as if I would after this point!!!) lol, all is a joke, seriously I have learned my lesson well I have to thank her for this experience!

 

How are you doing with the kids? What's your story ? I really would love to know more about it - whenever you want

 

Last but not least, can I be your knight and save you princess ;)

 

Take great care hun, xoxox

[nowomanocry]

Oh, so I guess I was wrong, and you do not want her back. WOW, these are REALLY good news!

 

But if this is true, why on earth, I repeat, you want to waste more time, more money "to see in her eyes"....what do you expect to see in her eyes? You will see only the bull**** you have already got. Buy a new pair of shoes instead ( a very Italian advice ) have a nice pizza out with friends, have a coffee. Buy a present to someone who REALLY loves you : your family or good friends.

 

You want justice, I know. But life have its own ways to do justice. Don't seek it by yourself. It is useless. The best justice is-and will happen soon- when you will not care anymore, but really, and you will be kissing and cuddling your new special and true love. This is revenge. This is justice.

 

 

My story? Oh I am currently in a LDR, but before I had my portion of jerks. One of them-who I really loved, by the way- put on my pC spywares to control everything, while he was cheating me like crazy online and at work. Funny, huh? the double standards that some people have.

 

I do not blame Facebook as a social network, it is a great invention and I am addicted to it :-) but I am firmly convinced that you should NEVER have exes among your contacts, never, it is too much torture. Block her out of FB and out of your life. On Facebook you can have fun and lots of stupid and also intelligent things, but do not "use" it for things like these, because.....it hurts TOO MUCHand I know it.

 

Thank you for appreciating my post. I really keep my fingers crossed for you. But please.....you have an important skill, the skill of loving, and this skill will allow you to be happy in the future even if now is making you miserable . She has not that skill and she will never be happy like you will be.

 

Hey Flavour

 

Cheers for comments..

 

At first when I joined this site I was hesitant and said wot good is it gona do being in a site like this - said to myself don't waste your time

 

Meanwhile when I started sharing with other hurt souls I found out that I was not alone, and the world is full of good people to meet.

 

Do not get me wrong I am really a tough guy but as sweet to my loved ones - "shower the people I love with love" (James Taylor rules lol )

 

I know some Italian lol - love it there, been to Venezia, Verona (town of Romeo & Julliet) , Milano, Napoli ... I have a will to visit Florence and Rome.. 2 places I want to see before I die. Love Italian food, wine very close to our food (we are Medittarenean too at the end of the day lol).

 

I know there no justice left on earth... But like your comment. It is really striking

 

IMO Facebook sucks and nothing can change my view on that - when was togther with my ex I never msn ed either. PC is a part of my life mostly at work. When out from work I have other priorities

 

As for my loving skill, ty for your remarks, it all comes natural. But one thing for sure, it will take me a long time to get back on track trusting others because obviously I can not know whether a person is sincere in his/her words or not. Right now I am playing my piano, karaokeing my fave songs and waiting for the summer season for watersports. Planning a visit to sum old friends in Dubai.

 

Allora, a piu tardi lol (ow's that one lol)

 

Ciao, baci

[Flavour]

I got a call to my mob - an unknown number and picked up was her on the phone... "how u doing" bla bla you know, after that she asked "how you doing" I said "good", she asked "hows your dad" (she dumped me almost synchronising with my dad having a brain emboly which I'm trying to get him back on track again) I said "all good".. She said "did you tell your mum that we are no longer together" I said "no, what that got to do with you anyway?anymore" She said "well I feel like I am bul.shiatting her" I said "oh really" (lmao look at that shiat) . She said "why you not telling her? It's the macho thing innit, hard to say you got dumped by me". I said "no, really on the contrary, despite what you think it is because I do not want her to get hurt, because she thought you was a good woman as well, I do not want her to find the truth about ya and be upset and re-think the way she evaluates other people, and most of all at the very difficult time we are going thru this is the last thing we need" and I told her if there is nothing else she wanted to say (she still has not told me about the new fella that she's seeing since around November - cheating on me) had to go and said bye and hung up.

 

Her words are really insensitive, by the way. It sounds just like she likes to increase your suffering, repeating that SHE dumped YOU (WTF? It has been a blessing) she wants even that you tell it to anybody, including people who are currently unders stress like your mum, and she keeps calling you. If she had a minimum of conscience she would leave you alone in peace.

 

Do not answer anymore, please. No contact! Your hard earned peace, as little as it is , is MORE important than a conversation with her.

 

Florence is the best place in the world. There is no other town so beautiful, it takes away your breathe.

Come to Florence with ANYONE else EXCEPT HER!

[nowomanocry]

Her words are really insensitive, by the way. It sounds just like she likes to increase your suffering, repeating that SHE dumped YOU (WTF? It has been a blessing) she wants even that you tell it to anybody, including people who are currently unders stress like your mum, and she keeps calling you. If she had a minimum of conscience she would leave you alone in peace.

 

Do not answer anymore, please. No contact! Your hard earned peace, as little as it is , is MORE important than a conversation with her.

 

Florence is the best place in the world. There is no other town so beautiful, it takes away your breathe.

Come to Florence with ANYONE else EXCEPT HER!

 

Cheers Flavour lol

 

That what my father say about Florence as well ;)

[Rearden Metal]

Oh man, this is an NC all the way to NCville. What a putrid, rotten beotch you got there, man!

 

You did a fine job of answering her and cutting the convo short. Eff her, man.

[nowomanocry]

update on my ****ty status

 

SMSes I sent her yesterday after I got drunk

 

"U owe me an explanation 4 all the **** up put me in. That I got for all the love, care loyalty n honesty. wanted to keep all this to myself but now will make sure that everyone including your ex, our mutual friends and my family incl. mum, sis and dad know who u really r. A double faced liar, n cheater all the way. U neva loved me, damn for all the time I spent with u. God! U r evil..."

 

"In two h I dumped all ur trash to the bin where they belong. everything about u is gone . Hope that ........ (the new fella) soon finds out who u really r b4 its too late for him..."

 

"Ur a coward unable to talk to me looking at me eyes. Go and hide but that does not change the truth u been cheating on me even when I was at the hosp trying to heal my dad. U r a disgrace , I ***kin hate u!

 

SHE REPLIES THIS MORNING:

 

"If u want to call me later n hear my side then thats fine. But I will tell u this right now. I have not cheated on u. If u call i will talk but not gona listen to abuse..."

 

I REPLY BY SENDING HER OLD SMSES THAT SHE SENT ME full of crap like, I am urs 4eva, we will be together, my life till the day I die, promise to be with u together, just wanna b with u but dont know how, thanks 4 coming into my life, on the day that you were born the angels got together and devided to create a dream come true... etc etc all those lies...

 

I can't believe I fell in love with such a b...h! It is incredible really incredible!

[Flavour]

OMG what a mistake you did.

 

NEVER NEVER NEVER write things like that. They can be used against you. When will you finally understand that you are dealing with an enemy? From outside you look like the hysterical one and she is the reasonable one.

 

Stop it! No contact! No contact! And do not leave anything written-EVER- when dealing with people like this.

 

Guard yourself. noone will do it for you.

 

And when you are drunk, call whoever you want, your mother, your neighbour, but next timer please

 

 

BITE YOUR FINGER before writing to her.

[carhill]

OP, my sympathies. I've experienced some of this, many years ago. I was one of those guys, after Perestroika, who ventured into the CIS/FSU to look for a bride. If anything was a hornet's nest, that was. My best experiences there ironically came on the tail of an experience much like yours. One thing I learned, perhaps not applicable to your circumstance, was, to weed out visa whores and gold-diggers, to actively announce that I was interested in ex-pat'ing and moving there and working because I didn't think it right for the lady to leave her family, friends and homeland. Nyet! The truly sincere women, a couple of whom would become friends over the years, even after my marriage (to a local lady), were those who were grounded, wanted to remain in their homeland (a K-visa was the only way out back then and even that was hard) and would only leave as a last resort.

 

Anyway, having been 'taken' a bit like yourself, I can sympathize; it blows. You feel like a fool (I did), but, ultimately, life goes on. I think I'll go back this year and see how things have changed in 15 years

 

Advice? Cut communication and move on. Heal. Post her picture and throw darts at it. Whatever. Sometimes I think situations like yours are harder than divorces, because you have to mourn the potential. When married, one knows the potential and lives it and actively decides to leave it. For you, it's all nebulous...that sucks...

[nowomanocry]

OMG what a mistake you did.

 

NEVER NEVER NEVER write things like that. They can be used against you. When will you finally understand that you are dealing with an enemy? From outside you look like the hysterical one and she is the reasonable one.

 

Stop it! No contact! No contact! And do not leave anything written-EVER- when dealing with people like this.

 

Guard yourself. noone will do it for you.

 

And when you are drunk, call whoever you want, your mother, your neighbour, but next timer please

 

 

BITE YOUR FINGER before writing to her.

 

Dear Flavour

 

Listen, I am not against ur NC thing - for me, seeing is believing, all I am doing is seeing what type of a s...t I was with, and every day my contacting her ends up me finding some other truth about her. When I am satisfied with my findings than I will be more than happy to go NC till the grave and I see the biatch when knocking on heaven's door she queueing up for hell ready to be roasted and begging me to take her to heaven lol!

 

So far, all you guys' comments were right, my research about her revealed it. After this point now, I am almost confident who she really was - the more I dig the more it sucks believe me, what comes under it is poo****bolloxwankingtossrott whatever you wana name it

 

But it does'nt change the fact I still love her and really miss her azz lol

 

Hope u ok hun

Take gr8 care