pureinheart Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 I wondered about it too. You have stated your views on marriage and that they weren't effected by your affair nor your marriage. The fact that your belief system isn't situational demands respect in itself. However, if we can agree that your views on marriage are quite different from many OW in this forum, while still respecting your views and acknowledging that they are indeed valid, is it really that odd that one would wonder how the OW would feel about marriage/cheating once they married their MM? I am able to completely understand your viewpoint as well as the OW who doesn't want their MM to leave his marriage. I think these viewpoints didn't/won't change. Where I find confusion is with those that want to marry MM, not out of necessity, but out of love. I thought that most of the OW here would not want to be an OW or married to a WH once they married MM. Perhaps my perception of the OW wanting to marry out of love is way off base. If they do in fact want to have fidelity in their marriage, wouldn't they be reformed even if only in their own marriage? Is my perception completely wrong? I think it is so interesting that some of you brought up OWomans views on M was a reminder of my own. There was no desire to be M, although was M'ed different times and have fiancee'd a couple of guys. I was raised in Catholism and when I got pregnant, well you need to be M so that is the purpose for the first 2, the third I felt railroaded (I know my fault/choice) ...still I was manipulated, (long story). I understand why OWoman did not want to M, I am also glad that she did find the love she has, she must be really in love. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 I think it is so interesting that some of you brought up OWomans views on M was a reminder of my own. There was no desire to be M, although was M'ed different times and have fiancee'd a couple of guys. I was raised in Catholism and when I got pregnant, well you need to be M so that is the purpose for the first 2, the third I felt railroaded (I know my fault/choice) ...still I was manipulated, (long story). I understand why OWoman did not want to M, I am also glad that she did find the love she has, she must be really in love. OOOOOppppps....I though Awkward said OWoman ...somewhere on this board someone made a comment about OWoman having different views towards M. Hey, I have been doing a lot of cleaning today and yesterday...must be messing up my mind. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennie-jennie Posted March 17, 2010 Author Share Posted March 17, 2010 OOOOOppppps....I though Awkward said OWoman ...somewhere on this board someone made a comment about OWoman having different views towards M. Hey, I have been doing a lot of cleaning today and yesterday...must be messing up my mind. Sorry. Awkward's post was a reply to OWoman, so you were correct. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 Awkward's post was a reply to OWoman, so you were correct. OOOOOpppsss again...yep way too much cleaning today...also my mind is fuzzie due to a cold and am taking antibiotics...anyway I do understand OWomans views..thanks Jennie Link to post Share on other sites
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