am i alone in this? WAH feeling sorry and expecting sympathy??

[nobmagnet]

Hi all,

 

Just wondered if it is just Lowly Worm or have any of you had the same issue:cool:

 

Lowly is sad:o all together now.............ahhhhhhhhhhh.

 

He keeps ringing me up of e.mailing moaning about how rubbish his life is...............WTF?? Is it me?? Was it not his choice?

 

I cant exactly tell him to go forth and multiply as yet because im in for a big payout:laugh: Big LS party that night (gins on me lovies)

 

But i was interested if any of you had encountered this and how you delt with it? I just want to spell it out to him but something is holding me back. It might just be I dont want him to learn from this:eek:

 

Nobby xxxxxx

[LisaUk]

Hey Nobby,

 

the only experience I had that came close to this was a few days after he left, he came round to pack more of his things (as my solicitor told me to stay in the house, b/c we weren't married made things some what tricky re settlements), anyway, he came round to pack and after having seen that I had taken a lot of my possessions to charity, the state of me etc he sat on the bed and complained that he was staying in atiny hotel room!

 

The guy pretty much put me on the street, with no job and an anxiety disorder and HE complains b/c he had to spend 3 lousey days in a small hotel room.

 

No where near what you are experiencing from lowly, but it's amazing how insensitive they are, it's like they have absolutley no concept of what they have done at all. PM Hopesanddreams, I think she has experience of this in droves.

[nobmagnet]

Hey Nobby,

 

the only experience I had that came close to this was a few days after he left, he came round to pack more of his things (as my solicitor told me to stay in the house, b/c we weren't married made things some what tricky re settlements), anyway, he came round to pack and after having seen that I had taken a lot of my possessions to charity, the state of me etc he sat on the bed and complained that he was staying in atiny hotel room!

 

The guy pretty much put me on the street, with no job and an anxiety disorder and HE complains b/c he had to spend 3 lousey days in a small hotel room.

 

No where near what you are experiencing from lowly, but it's amazing how insensitive they are, it's like they have absolutley no concept of what they have done at all. PM Hopesanddreams, I think she has experience of this in droves.

 

Tell ya what love.......being dumped by a narsassist is no fun. Its all about them. they cant see the pain we feel, the fear, nada. i wish they could invent a cattle prod of realism. "here you go love (poke) ouch, oh did that smart a tad?? let mejust leave to cattle prod on you for 3 months and see how happy you f*cking feel":mad::mad:

 

 

hey ho!

 

hope your feeling a bit better from your wobble

 

nobby xxxxxxxxx

[2sure]

Perfect example.

 

I should preface this by explaining I have recently ramped up interest in my own career and lost the same amount of interest in his.

 

Cheating Narcissist H and I attend the same professional type function over the weekend. We both have good reason to be there, and are seated separately as is often the case. This time however - I am at the "better" table. During appetizers he interrupts me by coming to my table standing there glad handing and making it obvious I am his wife. I am silent and simply waiting for him to shut up and leave.

 

He bends over and says "Do you still love me? tell me you love me".

 

WTF WTF WTF I AM WORKING HERE. YOU SHOULD BE WORKING HERE.

JACKASS

[nobmagnet]

Perfect example.

 

I should preface this by explaining I have recently ramped up interest in my own career and lost the same amount of interest in his.

 

Cheating Narcissist H and I attend the same professional type function over the weekend. We both have good reason to be there, and are seated separately as is often the case. This time however - I am at the "better" table. During appetizers he interrupts me by coming to my table standing there glad handing and making it obvious I am his wife. I am silent and simply waiting for him to shut up and leave.

 

He bends over and says "Do you still love me? tell me you love me".

 

WTF WTF WTF I AM WORKING HERE. YOU SHOULD BE WORKING HERE.

JACKASS

 

 

Holypoo love!

 

I might just have been tempted to slap the tw*t! WTF indeed? where do they get the blummin nerve? ugh jack bum indeed

 

Nobby xxx:laugh:

[phineas]

I get the pity party from the STBXW every once in a while & I just tell her it's not my fault & she's the one that made the decision to cheat & walk out.

 

And she goes silent.

And as if a switch in her brain was flicked, she goes back in time about 10 seconds & acts like the whole scene didn't happen.

 

messed up.

[curiousnycgirl]

Many years ago I dated a man for a few years at which point I got a very good job offer in another state. I told him the only reason I wouldn't take the job is if we set a wedding date. Needless to say he decided against marrying me (hindsight is 20/20 - I thank G-d we didn't end up together!).

 

A number of months later he met the woman who eventually became his wife. For a long time all I ever heard from his was that she wasn't as pretty as me, wasn't as smart as me, had no social graces like I had, etc. I kept reminding him - but hey you didn't want me!

 

The last time he did this was after they were married, at which point I told him he needed to go home kiss his wife's butt and lose my phone number.

[quankanne]

But i was interested if any of you had encountered this and how you dealt with it?

 

said sarcastically:

"you want some cheese with that whine?"

 

"Ay, pobrecito ... (you poor baby ...)"

[hopesndreams]

You know to keep it zipped, for now. It's too bad you have to listen to his tales because there can be a chance of you believing what he says and it will make you sympathetic toward him. Possible?

[trippi1432]

Hmm, I was going to post this over on the thread for Stupid Things WA's Say, but I like your thread here Neet!!! Missed you by the way, got your offlines.

 

Here's a good one for your all:

 

Ex calls this morning wanting to know about the taxes....big old pity party because he might have to pay in for the first time in his life because he forgot that when you abondon your family, you should change your W-4.

 

He wants me to file married so he doesn't have to pay in....and he's thinking that we will get something back.....so, out of the kindness of his heart, he tells me I can keep it to forgive the fact that he's behind two months in CS and he has seen his son overngiht one time since January. (understand where I am coming from here on his negotiation tactics...$25 should forgive almost $1K....hardly). He would do more, but he is going on vacation at the end of the month and thinks he might be losing his job. :bunny: We need an emoticon on here of those tiny little violins playing...:bunny:

 

I informed him that I would file what is best for ME....if I get anything back...doubtful, we will split it....if we have to pay in, we WILL split it....or he can file and pay the IRS as much as he owes me now....hello payday loan.

[mimidarlin]

sorry? He may lose his job and hasn't paid two months of child support but he's going on a damn vacation? Does he think about staying home and working hard in order to play nice with the boss? I hope your finances are stable trippi. Sounds like the ex won't be paying child support.

[trippi1432]

sorry? He may lose his job and hasn't paid two months of child support but he's going on a damn vacation? Does he think about staying home and working hard in order to play nice with the boss? I hope your finances are stable trippi. Sounds like the ex won't be paying child support.

 

Yeah mimi, I pretty much figured his pity party yesterday about the job was his cop out. Time will tell, but I'm not too worried about it. He gets ticked when I don't cash his girlfriend's checks right away (yep, she sends his CS payments for him on her account, I think it's hilarious).

 

Neet - Let lowly keep digging his own hole....be very careful at this point, when they play nice, they have a hidden agenda. Don't give him the opening he is looking for. Hugs!!

[nobmagnet]

Yeah mimi, I pretty much figured his pity party yesterday about the job was his cop out. Time will tell, but I'm not too worried about it. He gets ticked when I don't cash his girlfriend's checks right away (yep, she sends his CS payments for him on her account, I think it's hilarious).

 

Neet - Let lowly keep digging his own hole....be very careful at this point, when they play nice, they have a hidden agenda. Don't give him the opening he is looking for. Hugs!!

 

 

I have an idea its just because he is lonley(tiny voilin) and also I recon he is kinda peed off because i have a life............and he doesnt!:lmao:

 

As far as falling for his "wow is me" hopes...........not a chance in hell!

 

The world is full of them innit????

 

Nobby xxx

[trippi1432]

I have an idea its just because he is lonley(tiny voilin) and also I recon he is kinda peed off because i have a life............and he doesnt!:lmao:

 

As far as falling for his "wow is me" hopes...........not a chance in hell!

 

The world is full of them innit????

 

Nobby xxx

 

It definitely is...keep living your life. You are doing great!!

 

When I saw my ex's phone number pop up, didn't even faze me to answer it. Six months out now and I could care less. Basically, he's the father of our son, and that tends to only be when he wants to.

 

Go back and read my "Grass Is Not Greener" thread....most of them will do this even when they are still with an OM. Mine also did this back at Thanksgiving and sent me spiraling into a really bad depression for about 3 weeks. Like I said, you are doing great, keep your head up.

[mimidarlin]

Wow...he's got a sugar momma sending CS checks.

 

I would feel very sad for her but it's her own damn fault for being naive.

 

Somethings I have learned from LS, Dr Phil and Oprah.

 

Get a background check of a potential mate. Make it personal and financial.

 

Don't lend money to someone if you don't expect it to be paid back in a timely manner. It complicates the relationship.

 

Your new partners finances could take you down the drain if you aren't careful.

[trippi1432]

Wow...he's got a sugar momma sending CS checks.

 

I would feel very sad for her but it's her own damn fault for being naive.

 

Somethings I have learned from LS, Dr Phil and Oprah.

 

Get a background check of a potential mate. Make it personal and financial.

 

Don't lend money to someone if you don't expect it to be paid back in a timely manner. It complicates the relationship.

 

Your new partners finances could take you down the drain if you aren't careful.

 

Nah, she's not a sugar momma, her ex has the bucks. I don't mind signing my married name on the back of them though...for now. <sheesh, that was evil> Reminder to self: Allow yourself one evil moment in the day.....sigh. LOL!