starwarsnerd1 Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 My ex and I broke up 6 months ago to the day and I did the no contact method for the last two months. I have met an awesome girl who is now my new girlfriend and we have been dating the last month. While my new g/f was back home visting her parents before she came back to school, which is located in the town in which i live in. My ex called my phone at 3:30 am the one night. I never heard it, but wondering what was up, I gave her a call. She had just turned 21 and had no one to do anything with since she never had any friends other than mine and even her new b/f is only 19. So we decide to go out and get a drink and just hang out. Oh yeah, i just found out a few weeks ago she is engaged to the jerk only after knowing him 5 months. But afterwards we go back to my house where I live with a few of my friends so someone is always up. We are joking around all night and everyone starts to go home. Well, she said she wasnt ready yet so we went up stairs and i lay on my bed and she crawls up next to me and starts to hug me and cry saying that she missed me so much and that she still is in love with me. I pulled her close and we both begin to cry and just hold each other for about 2 hours and just discuss us. She notices the clock says 5am and thinks she should be getting home, I work 3 hours later, so there was no way that I was going to chance it and try to take a nap, so i said lets go get breakfast. So we went for breakfast and talked somemore about us and everything else under the sun. I take her home and shes give me a great big hug holds me for about 3 minutes, not wanting to let go, i could feel her eyes start to tear up and she gets up and says I had a wonderful time. I have a wonderful new girlfriend whom I don't want to lose, but i can't deny as my ex said "You are such a everlasting part of my heart that I will never stop loving you" Why are girls so difficult to understand? Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 What was the reason for the break up in the first place? I think you both need to break up with your current SO's in order to sort yourselves out. This is not healthy or fair to the new people in your lives, and your ex is especially being selfish and promiscuous, being engaged and all. I can't give anymore advice without knowing what went on with the ex while you were dating..? Link to post Share on other sites
InLoKo Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 Hmmm. What's the difficult bit to understand? You haven't actually asked any questions in your post. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_roggger Posted January 10, 2004 Share Posted January 10, 2004 He asked why girls are so difficult to understand. I also think he wants general advice on what to do. I can offer neither right now, sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
look forward Posted January 10, 2004 Share Posted January 10, 2004 What happened while you guys were dating in the first place? you two clearly have unresolved issues you need to address as there is clearly very strong feelings between you. I agree with Sarah12 you both need to break up with the people you are currently with espcially your ex gf if she is engaged that is completly unfair to her fiance. What if something happens between you guys its not fair and more feelings will be hurt.. Think about it Link to post Share on other sites
Author starwarsnerd1 Posted January 13, 2004 Author Share Posted January 13, 2004 Me and my ex dated for 3 years......no fighting or nothing bad happening between us. We even got through a half a year when she was away in college. The guy she is engaged to got a job working with her and a week later she broke up with me. Its been 6 months since she broke the news to me, the next four months we remained in contact with each other then finally I said enough and ended all conversation with her. She happened to see me and my new girlfriend together one night and next thing I know she is calling me at 3:30 am crying saying that she misses me very badly. The night we finally hung out she kept holding my hands and looking at me with sad longing eyes. I have not talked to her since last thursday/friday morning. All my friends were shocked to see me show up at my house with her and could feel the chemistry we share between us. She has even told me she isn't herself around her new boyfriend, as if she isn't comfortable letting him see the real her. I really like the girl I'm seeing now but we have hardly anything in common and can't really relate to each other. And most of the time we do spend together all she wants to do is have sex with me. Her longest relationship is 6 months and she can't really relate to what I'm feeling after going through a breakup with someone after 3 years. I miss my ex so much but I don't want to hurt my current girlfriend. I've tried the sappy emails, calls and what not to try to get my ex back, but she has always been a bullheaded person to look at things in the long run. What other girl do we know that can sit down and watch the star wars trilogy and quote it line by line and even enjoy all day marathons of the 3 stooges. she was a keeper then I lost her. Link to post Share on other sites
look forward Posted January 13, 2004 Share Posted January 13, 2004 bennettwebdesign sounds to me that you havent lost her at all.. is she is ringing you up crying then she clearly hasn't got over you .. and it all seems a bit sudden to have found someone else and suddenly be engaged yet be saying to you that she isn't herself in front of this guy how the hell can she marry him then.. I cant see that lasting for a second.. I know you say there were no problems but there must have been something for her to leave did she want to take the relationship another step further and you wouldn't or something?? Simple facts remain - she still loves you , you still love her the girl your currently with isn't the one for you neither is the guy she is with.. sort it out!!! she cant be that bullheaded its commone sense if teh guy she is with doesn;t see the real her how the hell has sh got a future with him.. this girl needs some sense knocked into her.. either cut all ties or try and sort this out... life is too short for this crap...and its not fair on her guy or your current girlfriend no matter how much you like her... Link to post Share on other sites
Author starwarsnerd1 Posted January 14, 2004 Author Share Posted January 14, 2004 Its been almost a week and I have not talked or seen my ex since we spent that night hugging and crying. The thought that lingers in my head is when she told me she isnt herself around her fiance like she is with me. She even told me she still has feelings for me and loves me with all her heart. I have thought about emailing her to see how she is but I don't know whether I should lay off on that. My feelings for her are so deep the pain is overwhelming. I was ready to propose to her on birthday.........I waited that extra year because I wanted to do it when she was least expecting it, and then the news came in the middle of that time. Lately, I don't feel like being around my new girlfriend even though she has started to fall head over heels for me, and I don't know if its mutual. Very confused in PA. Link to post Share on other sites
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