bananaboat11 Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 that's the dumper's job. regardless of what you thought.. think.. felt.. did... say... i cared about you. just hope you're well. lost track of how long it has been, but it couldn't have been too long given i'm even writing this. don't really expect a reply, but just wanted to wish you well. you are a nice girl, but were not ready for whatever we had... and i tried to protect myself knowing you weren't ready... as much as I was interested in you. it was a nice experience and was fun while it lasted. i learned a lot through you and hopefully you the same through me. good luck and have a good (upcoming) passover ............................................................................. yeah, i posted this here to keep myself from doing it. i know there's a thread for it. i don't care. i need to finish this catharsis. had an awesome date in NYC sat inght and sunday. spent a ****load of money, but it was worth it. had tons of fun. i have a date technically in 10 mins... heh. AND.... the Barista girl said YES Goodbye Nicole. Your heart will forever be scorned with your malicious approach to our situation... you will miss me. Maybe not today, but one day... you will long for my hand again... and you will not see it among those reaching out to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Share Posted March 9, 2010 I'm pathetic, but I needed this. Link to post Share on other sites
just1guy Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 No way, you're not pathetic. Just when you'd think you're over her, the crap comes back and you can't control your emotions (at least that's how I am). I thought I was ok after two months, then for some reason, this week sucked bad for me. I'm in the pissed off stage now, so I'm closer to the stage where I can date again (I've been on one date, but I wasn't 100% there, so let's just say it wasn't a successful date). Kudos to you man for getting back out there. F her. It's her lost, not yours. Link to post Share on other sites
rand0m Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) I dunno about "pathetic". I don't even know your story or anything, but you did come off as if you're in a pretty negative state of mind. I don't judge you for writing her. I'll do the same one day, it just seems like it was straight emotion.. you probably should've thought it out a bit more. Anyways, what's done is done. Hang in there, and pull yourself to your feet. Seriously.. grow a set. I'm in pain every day after the love of my life told me she doesn't feel the same. After 5 crazy amazing years together, we hardly know each other anymore, but I keep my depressive emotions to me, and I wake up and put a smile on. Because if you sit there and mourn this **** for the rest of your life, you're going to miss out on way too much. You wrote the email/letter/whatever, now let it be. ** EDIT: I only read the first half.. if you didn't send it, good on you. I also didn't realize that the end part "good bye..." wasn't included in the "letter", which is where I was basing most of the emotion from. My comments still stand for others. Edited March 9, 2010 by rand0m Link to post Share on other sites
DenverBachelor Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) I'm pathetic, but I needed this. Heh ... Pathetic? Pathetic is having a restraining order placed on you by a best friend for eight years after having loved her to death. How I managed to get to point A to point Z in that is beyond my logic -- but it happened. One of the caveats of reality is learning as we get older that it can be very unrealistic. You're not pathetic -- you're still healing. It is going to take time to do that, brother. You're going to have great days, good days, mediocre days and rough days. What you will eventually understand is that being strung around one particular woman isn't the end all and be all of existence. You'll meet great women on your little adventure through life and I can *PROMISE* you that you'll meet a woman eventually that you will fall in love with and love just as much as your ex. No one ever said life was easy and breaking up and leaving behind someone we loved (whether by our own volition or theirs) is one of life's toughest lessons. The fact that you're still here just proves you're stronger than the worst life has to throw at you and you'll eventually be back on top and living the dream. As my ex told me weeks after our breakup -- "Keep on truckin'" (Thanks Will Ferrell!) Ps: Try to find a happy balance somewhere between Mcgrupp's world view and Alphamale's. (No offense to either, but Alphamale has a lot to teach you on what to do while Mcgrupp has a lot to teach you on what *NOT* to do). Heh ... Edited March 9, 2010 by DenverBachelor Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Share Posted March 9, 2010 Heh ... Pathetic? Pathetic is having a restraining order placed on you by a best friend for eight years after having loved her to death. How I managed to get to point A to point Z in that is beyond my logic -- but it happened. One of the caveats of reality is learning as we get older that it can be very unrealistic. You're not pathetic -- you're still healing. It is going to take time to do that, brother. You're going to have great days, good days, mediocre days and rough days. What you will eventually understand is that being strung around one particular woman isn't the end all and be all of existence. You'll meet great women on your little adventure through life and I can *PROMISE* you that you'll meet a woman eventually that you will fall in love with and love just as much as your ex. No one ever said life was easy and breaking up and leaving behind someone we loved (whether by our own volition or theirs) is one of life's toughest lessons. The fact that you're still here just proves you're stronger than the worst life has to throw at you and you'll eventually be back on top and living the dream. As my ex told me weeks after our breakup -- "Keep on truckin'" (Thanks Will Ferrell!) Ps: Try to find a happy balance somewhere between Mcgrupp's world view and Alphamale's. (No offense to either, but Alphamale has a lot to teach you on what to do while Mcgrupp has a lot to teach you on what *NOT* to do). Heh ... Thanks man - that means a lot. AND LOL @ your PS!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 Thanks man - that means a lot. AND LOL @ your PS!!!!!!! So did you have a date tonight? How did it go? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Share Posted March 9, 2010 I dunno about "pathetic". I don't even know your story or anything, but you did come off as if you're in a pretty negative state of mind. I don't judge you for writing her. I'll do the same one day, it just seems like it was straight emotion.. you probably should've thought it out a bit more. Anyways, what's done is done. Hang in there, and pull yourself to your feet. Seriously.. grow a set. I'm in pain every day after the love of my life told me she doesn't feel the same. After 5 crazy amazing years together, we hardly know each other anymore, but I keep my depressive emotions to me, and I wake up and put a smile on. Because if you sit there and mourn this **** for the rest of your life, you're going to miss out on way too much. You wrote the email/letter/whatever, now let it be. ** EDIT: I only read the first half.. if you didn't send it, good on you. I also didn't realize that the end part "good bye..." wasn't included in the "letter", which is where I was basing most of the emotion from. My comments still stand for others. what SHOULD I write? I kind of do want to do this, but care less about her response, if there is any at all... Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 what SHOULD I write? I kind of do want to do this, but care less about her response, if there is any at all... write nothing , dont do it! Link to post Share on other sites
monkeymaid Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 haha good on ya! i was king **** getting over my exgirlfriend and then randomly (or not so) i decided to go see shutter island, and i walked out to my car with my head down and sobbing like a little girl. something about that movie made me think that i did everything wrong and wasnt/didnt/dont realize it. this process is definately interesting! Link to post Share on other sites
McGrupp Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 Ps: Try to find a happy balance somewhere between Mcgrupp's world view and Alphamale's. (No offense to either, but Alphamale has a lot to teach you on what to do while Mcgrupp has a lot to teach you on what *NOT* to do) okay im going to take this thread to defend myself because ive been seeing my name mentioned in a lot of threads, when im casually browsing. I was mourning a 3 year relationship with a FHM model (like that matters but it might to you douches) anyway so what did i do? i hit bottom. but you know what? i built myself up. i moved the out, got independent got a new job, dated, got a new FWB right now, and my life is good. im pursuing my passion, i traveled and plan on traveling more. and im not trying to impress any of you losers, all im saying is i should be the one to take advice from, and not some guy that had a restraining order on him, posts about banging strippers (real hard), or post hypothetical ex -meeting situations everyday. nor am i the guy mourning a 5 month relationship for the last 6 months (bananboat) whilst i post threads about how i streatch my penis out (remember that one)... so ill say I love a lot of you (mickleb, grayclouds, HoH, Ms. Jollie) and I wouldnt be here without you... but to the Haters, I will gladly raise my middle finger and say proudly...move the **** on... Thank You, MG Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) and im not trying to impress any of you losers, all im saying is i should be the one to take advice from, and not some guy that had a restraining order on him, posts about banging strippers (real hard), or post hypothetical ex -meeting situations everyday. but to the Haters, I will gladly raise my middle finger and say proudly...move the **** on... 'DB... MC, there is really only one way to settle this... --- Edited March 9, 2010 by sean1970 Link to post Share on other sites
McGrupp Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 hey sean ur one of the cool ones. just this might be like the 5th thread ive seen in so many weeks with my name dropped by some losers. hey whens the last time i posted some mopey thread? check it out? when... but whatever...keep pining fella's. whatever makes u not have to change... Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 hey sean ur one of the cool ones. just this might be like the 5th thread ive seen in so many weeks with my name dropped by some losers. hey whens the last time i posted some mopey thread? check it out? when... but whatever...keep pining fella's. whatever makes u not have to change... You know DB is a good guy... and you have to admit, you campaigned pretty hard sometimes for the mayor of $hitsville ... It's not a personal indictment; we all need to be able to chuckle a little about some of the less than flattering things we did/said at those times IMHO. It is good to see you are in a better place... Really... I think we would all look forward to your posts of how things are now... Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 hey sean ur one of the cool ones. just this might be like the 5th thread ive seen in so many weeks with my name dropped by some losers. hey whens the last time i posted some mopey thread? check it out? when... but whatever...keep pining fella's. whatever makes u not have to change... I would say McGrupp has taking more risk and push himself harder in the last 2 months then 95% of us here. He found the courage to take a hard look at himself fears, discovered insight and faced them with action. Rather then just moving on past the pain, he is proving that real growth can be the result of a break-up. I would challenge everyone, including myself to live up to the example he is showing. Link to post Share on other sites
mickleb Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 okay im going to take this thread to defend myself because ive been seeing my name mentioned in a lot of threads, when im casually browsing. I was mourning a 3 year relationship with a FHM model (like that matters but it might to you douches) anyway so what did i do? i hit bottom. but you know what? i built myself up. i moved the out, got independent got a new job, dated, got a new FWB right now, and my life is good. im pursuing my passion, i traveled and plan on traveling more. and im not trying to impress any of you losers, all im saying is i should be the one to take advice from, and not some guy that had a restraining order on him, posts about banging strippers (real hard), or post hypothetical ex -meeting situations everyday. nor am i the guy mourning a 5 month relationship for the last 6 months (bananboat) whilst i post threads about how i streatch my penis out (remember that one)... so ill say I love a lot of you (mickleb, grayclouds, HoH, Ms. Jollie) and I wouldnt be here without you... but to the Haters, I will gladly raise my middle finger and say proudly...move the **** on... Thank You, MG Yup. No offence to you, DB/BB, either but.. *high fives McGrupp* Checking out the testicular fortitude of you, my friend! x Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 We all should work so hard and be so insightful....this is how it is done: feel the same way. i was angry at myself a lot for my actions (emails, begging, drunk dialing) ... so a lot of that is forgiving yourself. which happens with time i guess. so trying to get everything strait. because i put her first, i left my life behind. realizing i have to "small chunk it", ie small steps and not just one big one. i recently got my own place (after moving home from my own place with the ex) now im really scared because i dont really know anyone in the city im moving in. wanted to be by younger people so i took a chance. its only a 6 month lease, so i can always move back home. hopefully it makes me more independent and focus more on my goals and to get out of the comfort zone i was in with her, and the misery i found without her. meeting new people, getting a new job (hopefully) and pursuing my passion of writing comedy all happens if i make it. if i sit around and blame her or myself for not being where i want, its a cycle with no conclusion. so i say, try to forgive yourself, and move forward (cliches!) but to be the absolute person you want to be. (ps: its hard) Link to post Share on other sites
McGrupp Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 You know DB is a good guy... and you have to admit, you campaigned pretty hard sometimes for the mayor of $hitsville ... It's not a personal indictment; we all need to be able to chuckle a little about some of the less than flattering things we did/said at those times IMHO. hey man no personal vendettas, i couldn't care less. its just im tired of seeing my sn posted as a joke. you guys should strive to be like me, instead of posting your mopey ass ego-centric bs everyday. just get over it. thats it. let other, new members mourn. post only to give advice. thats the route ive taken (cept not in this thread).. Link to post Share on other sites
mickleb Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 you guys should strive to be like me, instead of posting your mopey ass ego-centric bs everyday. It's ok, love. (You can put them away, now!) x Link to post Share on other sites
McGrupp Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 It's ok, love. (You can put them away, now!) ::tucks em back in. looks at own ego-centric post:: Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Joolie Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 okay im going to take this thread to defend myself because ive been seeing my name mentioned in a lot of threads, when im casually browsing. I was mourning a 3 year relationship with a FHM model (like that matters but it might to you douches) anyway so what did i do? i hit bottom. but you know what? i built myself up. i moved the out, got independent got a new job, dated, got a new FWB right now, and my life is good. im pursuing my passion, i traveled and plan on traveling more. and im not trying to impress any of you losers, all im saying is i should be the one to take advice from, and not some guy that had a restraining order on him, posts about banging strippers (real hard), or post hypothetical ex -meeting situations everyday. nor am i the guy mourning a 5 month relationship for the last 6 months (bananboat) whilst i post threads about how i streatch my penis out (remember that one)... so ill say I love a lot of you (mickleb, grayclouds, HoH, Ms. Jollie) and I wouldnt be here without you... but to the Haters, I will gladly raise my middle finger and say proudly...move the **** on... Thank You, MG And I'm going to take the thread to say just how much I admire McGrupp. A new courage, strength and passion can be seen in his posts; the life he struggled to keep only a few months back has now resurrected. Fully fledged he carries on! With banner in hand he triumphs! heh. jk w/ writing style. Seriously though, your transformation has been admirable. Congratulations and, damn, your future's bright. ...McGrupp! Love you! J Link to post Share on other sites
ItsAllGoodAgain Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 but to the Haters, I will gladly raise my middle finger and say proudly...move the **** on... F'N WORD!!!! I've been sort of a main stay here at LS, checking in every now either for reassurance or just to see how peeps are doing...maybe give a little advice where I can. A lot of us do post some pretty bogus poo on these threads. There does come a point where we all just need to get over this bs and move on with our lives. Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 AND.... the Barista girl said YES Yay! Im so excited for you.. I'm glad you asked her out. We knew she would say yes... Awesome... Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Share Posted March 9, 2010 OH MY ****ING GOD. SO GLAD I DIDN'T SEND THIS. I have a "friend" who I set up with nicole to live while we were together. Nicole posted on her wall how happy she is now with her boyfriend and how they're going on a roadtrip across country. WTF. she knows I'll see that. Games/playing with me knowing I'll probably see that? Or said it without me in mind? Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 OH MY ****ING GOD. SO GLAD I DIDN'T SEND THIS. I have a "friend" who I set up with nicole to live while we were together. Nicole posted on her wall how happy she is now with her boyfriend and how they're going on a roadtrip across country. WTF. she knows I'll see that. Games/playing with me knowing I'll probably see that? Or said it without me in mind? Why are you still looking at her wall, stop picking the scab. Link to post Share on other sites
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