DrGonzo Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) Long story short here, my Gf of 8 years recently broke up with me. We have known each other and been super close for almost 24 years. She says she still loves me, and that there is a chance of getting back together. We play poker on Saturday nights, this is a medium size consistent group of friends and relatives. We kiss and hold hands, and all the PG stuff. The funny thing is we talk, and see each other more now than when we were "together", at least in the last six months or so, she has been really physically unwell. I figured it was all just results of the illness, the operation, and recovery, then in January, BOOM, rug pulled out from under me. She maintains she loves me to death but is scared to move too fast into this again. Factors: 1.) I was unemployed for quite some time (construction worker in Ohio) 2.) Anger problems which I have dealt with and have not lost my temper with anyone in almost two years 3.) I was in a dangerous profession a couple of years back and there was an attempt made on my life. This was a very harrowing experience for both of us, to say the least. 4.) Because of financial difficulties we have both had to move home for a short period of time to recoup. 5.) Recent hysterectomy for her (I believe this is a factor). Now, my question is, and I want advice only from ladies here, how do I work this. It has been 6 months for any sort of real and meaningful intimacy for us. And I am dying here. How much longer should I continue to foster this relationship? She means the world to me, but I can't wait forever, and I don't see any good reason I should have too! I guess I should also add that this has been driving me absolutely out of my mind, I miss her so much. BUT, it's the intimacy I miss, because she is giving me just about as much time as she can! AND, what should I be doing, and not doing? As far as our moving back to being together goes. For all intents and purposes we are starting from scratch again. But I feel if we don't deal with the issues that caused this in the first place it won't last. And I really want it to. No easy answers here I am sure. I have found a job, and will be getting my own place in a month or two. THX Doc Edited March 9, 2010 by DrGonzo typos, incomplete subject matter. Link to post Share on other sites
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