WhyMe04 Posted January 10, 2004 Share Posted January 10, 2004 I have been 'seeing' a girl who is very hot and cold for the last 3 or 4 weeks. Everytime I see her things are generally pretty cool, except from the start she has always said 'it is a sexual thing' ie. she tells me that she doesnt want a relationship. I think differently though, because she is always quite affectionate and we have had sex. When we are around other people she is different though, she doesnt really talk to me. But when we are alone she cuddles up with me, and says she wants to run away etc. But yet she says it is just a sex thing and she wants us to be friends? Is this confusing, or is it just me? As I would like something more, but if she is telling me the truth and it is about the sex, I dont want her to run away. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 10, 2004 Share Posted January 10, 2004 You should stop having sex with her. Then, you should tell her that you're looking for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted January 10, 2004 Share Posted January 10, 2004 Let her know that you are interested in pursuing a relationship. If she's not interested and just wants it to be a 'sex thing', then let it be. It's up to you, really. Keep banging her, if need be and if you are too afraid that you'll get emotionally attached, everytime you have sex, then stop! Personally, I would hit it regardless of what I felt. Sex is the biggest stress reliever!!! ~V Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted April 28, 2004 Share Posted April 28, 2004 Hmmmmm I have "just-a-sex-thing" goin on for the past 2 years...I did ask during the first year, if he wanted to go steady, he said no, I said ok..and all is still fine. Just don't expect too much..except for sex and respect! Link to post Share on other sites
Muzzy2003 Posted April 28, 2004 Share Posted April 28, 2004 you know...in my opinion...sex is great when there is real love involved. if you really feel a connection with her while in the process of having sex, then maybe something is there. Had she just broke up with someone? if so, sad to say, she might just be using you as a comfort zone. the love and affection that she gets when you guys are in bed makes her feel good, but its only a temporary feel good. I broke up with my first love (he was my first everything) and after we broke up, i met this guy who i would generally just spend the night with and cuddle because it reminded me of my ex and me.Actually, my friend is doing the same thing now. It's up to you though...is she worth waiting for? have you showed her what it would be like to be in a relationship with you? if so, and she doesn't want to, atleast show her what she will be missing and what other girls can get. Link to post Share on other sites
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