boyfriend leaves you for someone else..

[chloe1408]

..then what?

my ex left me for another girl 3 months ago.

 

whats usually the story?

does the other relationship last?

does he stop thinking of me straight away or is new gf just a distraction, are his feelings buried?

 

let me know, p.s i know i should move on and for the majority of the time i am trying, but i just need a few answers, i know no-one can look into a crystal ball and tell me he is or isnt coming back, but i need an outside perspective so i know where i stand.

[RockGuy87]

Hey Chloe same situation as U. I wanna know the answers your looking for. My ex is with a guy already and it sucks badly.

[Lishy]

well that happened with my ex and the girl was 18 years younger than me ... I was in a real state and then he realised what he had lost, treated her like crap and spent a year trying to get me back! No way Jose, he made his bed and he now lies in it! I contacted her and told her what he done, she has dumped him too and now he has no one ... bless him!

 

Karma!

[GrayClouds]

..then what?

my ex left me for another girl 3 months ago.

 

whats usually the story?

does the other relationship last?

does he stop thinking of me straight away or is new gf just a distraction, are his feelings buried?

 

let me know, p.s i know i should move on and for the majority of the time i am trying, but i just need a few answers, i know no-one can look into a crystal ball and tell me he is or isnt coming back, but i need an outside perspective so i know where i stand.

 

Sorry for your loss. The story is never good. They first insult you by walking away, and essentially saying that your not enough for them. Likely driven by their own insecurities of inadequacies. And if they walk away from your relationship so causally and quickly got involved in another it communicates that there interest in relationships are not on a deeply emotional intimate building level but more for basic physical or emotional stimulation. Most likely in time they walk away for something else that will give them a hit, something else new and exciting.

 

So for you and where you stand, your one lucky duck. You no longer have to put your energies into something that is hopeless and start focusing on that does matter you. This guy would have left you no matter what, be thankful that your lives were not even more involved. Let go and move on.

 

Good luck.

 

 

Ps even if he was to come back, you could never really trust he was their to stay. Good riddens to bad rubbish.

 

 

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[Ilovecake]

well that happened with my ex and the girl was 18 years younger than me ... I was in a real state and then he realised what he had lost, treated her like crap and spent a year trying to get me back! No way Jose, he made his bed and he now lies in it! I contacted her and told her what he done, she has dumped him too and now he has no one ... bless him!

 

Karma!

 

Oooh you got me beat by two years. The little girl mine left me for was 16 years younger than me.

[Ilovecake]

..then what?

my ex left me for another girl 3 months ago.

 

whats usually the story?

does the other relationship last?

does he stop thinking of me straight away or is new gf just a distraction, are his feelings buried?

 

let me know, p.s i know i should move on and for the majority of the time i am trying, but i just need a few answers, i know no-one can look into a crystal ball and tell me he is or isnt coming back, but i need an outside perspective so i know where i stand.

 

I think you know there are no answers to these questions.

Where do you stand? Well he told you you're not good enough for him and he found someone much better and worth breaking your heart over. It's completely up to you what happens in your life next. What happens to him is no longer your business. It hurts but it's the only reality.

[unsaved]

Chloe,

 

My ex-ex b/f broke up with me and slept with one of my coworkers the same night. He ended up having some sort of booty-call affair with her that lasted 3-4 months. I only found all of this out months after-the-fact when another coworker told me.

 

I talked to the ex-ex later (due to how this newly-discovered info affected me at work) and found out he started this relationship to force himself to bury his feelings for me b/c he knew we weren't good for each other anymore. (rebound). And he did not indicate any sort of reconciliation once that "fling" was over (which I didn't want ANYWAY!)

 

So yes, those relationships don't always work out but that usually does NOT mean that he has any desire to get back with you. Nor should you have any desire to get back with him! Him leaving you for someone else is ANOTHER reason for you to say 'screw him' and find someone 1000x better.

 

Trust me, you don't want to go back to someone that could leave you like that for someone else. Just leaves room for him to do it AGAIN and it will be SO MUCH MORE PAINFUL the second and third and 25th time around ;-)

 

I know you're hurting Chloe. It will get better in time, i promise. Keep posting

[twinklecat]

Hey Chloe, I'm really sorry for your loss. I know the immense amount of pain something like this causes, my ex left me for my best friend in October, after 5 years together - ugh has really been the worst time of my life. But then I realised that if he treated me this way he isn't worth it, and I don't want someone like that in my life.

 

Took me awhile to start thinking like that, so it really does get better. I still have some crap days but I'm generally alot happier. Use this time to improve yourself, and treat this as a learning experience. Take care x

[SimplyIzzy2010]

my ex stayed with the girl he left me for for about 5 months, then he came back. I gave him another chance, thinking he had learned his lesson, the works. Nada. Don't do it. they never ever ever change. Take this knowledge of this new relationship and use it to propel yourself forward and away from him for good! even though it hurts really bad, its easier to move on once they think they have "found" someone new.