How to interact?

[yume]

I have a big crush (still) on a guy I dated a few months ago but ended things with to get back together with my ex. Now I'm single again, and still have feelings for this guy. We haven't really spoken since I ended things; he told me he didn't want to be friends with me while I was still with my ex - but we've been speaking a little bit the past few days.

 

When we worked together on Monday he looked me in the eyes a few times and smiled at me, and we spoke a little bit about a game that came out this week. Towards the end of the night I asked him "so are you preparing yourself to forgive me yet?" and he looked at me and said "I don't know." (well, he didn't say no at least..)

 

Tuesday morning he texted me out of nowhere (almost fell over when I saw it)...I wasn't expecting it and was very happy about it. Texted back and forth a bit but it wasn't quite a conversation - I did say goodnight to him that night and he said "Night L." which he always used to do when we dated...and that was the first time he'd said it since things ended between us.

 

We texted again a little bit last night, and I sent him a goodnight text which he didn't reply to, which disappointed me.

 

So now I'm in this state of confusion with what I should do next.

 

Should I keep working on talking to him so we can slowly become friends again, or should I just tell him I still like him and see what happens?

 

My friend told me that I should focus on becoming friends again before even pursuing another relationship with him. I agree with her (minus that requiring craploads of patience) since I don't really want to leap into dating again...but I like him a lot. And it makes me unsure of how to approach things. I don't want to come across as a nuisance, or anything like that.

 

I wonder things like how often should I try talking to him? Should I only approach him at work? Should I not text him? Should I wait until he starts approaching me more for conversation?

 

[dy.lanea]

I think your comeing onto him to hard from what you wrote in your post. Put your self in his shoes and try and understand how he feels right now. You will make better choices that way.