Jealous ex-boyfriend?

[msmigraine]

Hi. Have read some good advice here, thanks in advance for any replies.

 

So here's the thing: I dated my ex for about 6 months, in the beginning everything was perfect but after the third month or so everything started going downhill, from then on I only tried to fix the relationship and bring it back to where it was in the beginning, we both were very unhappy towards the end but I still had "hope" or something, one day he broke up with me, didn't really give me a reason, said it wasn't working out and that he didn't feel the same anymore. I had the most miserable time the days following that, just days before he had been talking about "our future together" (getting married, etc) and I couldn't understand why he didn't wanna try and work things out anymore. Later I found out through Facebook that he was talking to some other girl, so yeah I guess he met someone else.

 

We have a friend in common whom I'm very close with (my ex and him are not as close, they hang out together sometimes), and so we started hanging out more in the months following that and I sort of realized I had feelings for him, but I didn't say anything, one day he tells me he has feelings for me, and we've been together ever since. He asked my ex if he was okay with that and he said he was and wished us good luck. I never really doubted that because it was clear that he didn't love me, maybe never did, I mean he broke up with me in a very nasty way (over instant messenger) and so I assumed he wouldn't be bothering us.

 

So me and my current boyfriend have been having a great time, he really is what I'd been looking for and I admire him and love him and wanna take care of him, and he feels the same about me. All of a sudden my ex starts making comments when we're around, like, "some people are living a fantasy and they don't know love doesn't really exist", or "some women blind you and manipulate you and you're so in love you don't even realize", I mean.. I know it has to do with us, and believe me, I have no desire to make him jealous or whatever, my current boyfriend is not a rebound or anything, of that I'm sure. But it's making me really uncomfortable, he treats us well, like "good friends", but then he makes those comments, he makes it seem like I cheated on him and broke up with him, when the thought of starting a relationship with our friend never crossed my mind while we were together.

 

So what scares me is the thought of my boyfriend feeling guilty or whatever for him (although he was no reason for that, he knows exactly what went on in that relationship), and you know, leaving me or whatever, or getting "brainwashed" by my ex.. I don't know, I guess I'm a little paranoid but I just didn't think he'd be so childish as to start making comments, and what if he starts making **** up about me and just destroys my current relationship? I'm scared and pissed off. And I can't tell my ex anything because I will just seem paranoid and he'll say it doesn't have anything to do with us, but I know it does. Thanks for any advice.