paleblue Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 i just saw a picture on facebook of the guy my ex gf has been dating the last couple months. now that ive seen him i can't believe i was feeling bad!! he lives an hour and a half away and he looks like a shrew. i am feeling better. im not a male super model, but she definately did not upgrade. i dont know whether to feel bad for her or just disappointed. i guess as long as she is happy that is all that counts : ) all i know is i dont feel as bad anymore. i told her this past week i hope her and him have a very long and happy relationship. keep your head up and stay positive about him i said!! i was half heartedly saying it to be a good sport, now, i definately mean it! lol. i will try to hide the smirk on my face when i see her at work. Link to post Share on other sites
AvianChaos Posted March 15, 2010 Share Posted March 15, 2010 Hahaha, nice dude! I recently saw a pic on my ex's myspace too, and yea, this guy is a total loser and doesnt have anything on me. He doesnt even have a car, job, etc... All I can do is laugh and it helps me move on Link to post Share on other sites
Rearden Metal Posted March 15, 2010 Share Posted March 15, 2010 Good stuff, man. I read your other thread, you're doing a good job of seeming somewhat unaffected towards her. I'd suggest cutting out the emails, though... (I'm guilty of the same). Link to post Share on other sites
jlr Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 The guy my ex is now dating is a downgrade. I have pretty ****ty self-esteem sometimes, but when I saw pictures of this dude, I was shocked. People I know that have ran into them, have called him "an Ogre" and one person said he looks like "Shrek." I'd been sitting around thinking she was with Johnny Depp all this time, and here I find it's some dude who makes me look pretty decent. Plus, he's not into anything cool, he's the exact opposite of me. I think she did that on purpose. But that will backfire when she realizes that me and her had so much in common, and he has nothing. I know for a fact it's bothered her, because she actually tried complaing to me about it before we finally stopped talking. She said she "wasn't that into him," it was "nothing epic," and "he likes me way more than I like him." She also said she was mad because he said racist things, and how he was so into sports - 2 things that are so far from me. Of course that just shows how messed up she is. Trying to complain to her ex about some new guy. Then, after talking **** on him, she's still with him. I wrote these lines in a new song I wrote - which happens to be the one that every one really digs - "I've got a goal to conquer, you've got an Ogre monster." Makes me laugh every time I sing them. Sorta helps. Especially since all the other songs are about how much I love and miss her. Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 hi! well my ex deffo upgraded in looks:confused: I couldnt be happier as they will be having to vy for the mirror all the time! He didnt upgrade in moral and kindness stakes however, a woman/man that f*cks someone with kids or in a relationship, are the pond life of society. She is welcome to him and he to her. 6 months on and I cant wait.............it wont last. Shallow creeps. Am i bitter? not anymore i dont miss him one bit ,He is bobbing himself because she is moving nearer. She has commited to him and he.............isnt commited to her. Supprise supprise! whatch and learn you cheeters. There is only one person who comes out better......The dumpees. We ROCK when we are mended:p:p:p:p Nobby xx Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 i just saw a picture on facebook of the guy my ex gf has been dating the last couple months. now that ive seen him i can't believe i was feeling bad!! he lives an hour and a half away and he looks like a shrew. i am feeling better. im not a male super model, but she definately did not upgrade. i dont know whether to feel bad for her or just disappointed. i guess as long as she is happy that is all that counts : ) all i know is i dont feel as bad anymore. i told her this past week i hope her and him have a very long and happy relationship. keep your head up and stay positive about him i said!! i was half heartedly saying it to be a good sport, now, i definately mean it! lol. i will try to hide the smirk on my face when i see her at work. Clearly, you've never heard the song "Ugly Girl". I'd rather be passed over for a total fox than an ugly girl. Then you can write them off as being shallow and not good enough for you, but when the person is not nearly as good looking as yourself, you're left wondering what is so much better about them than your visage and personality combined couldn't provide. Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 "Upgrade?" Grow up, please. Your post domonstrates: male jealousy usually has little to do with women and everything to do with men feeling competative with other men. Link to post Share on other sites
jlr Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 "Upgrade?" Grow up, please. Your post domonstrates: male jealousy usually has little to do with women and everything to do with men feeling competative with other men. Eh, whatever. Sometimes when you've been through alot of pain, and **** on by someone, you get a tiny bit of comfort in knowing they aren't out there with some Brad Pitt lookalike. We'll take whatever bits of joy we can. And don't act like you've never thought about it. sheesh. Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 "Upgrade?" Grow up, please. Your post domonstrates: male jealousy usually has little to do with women and everything to do with men feeling competative with other men. if you are indeed refering to me...............hahaha hey she is a stunner to look at and if you had read it .......well i was implying she is shallow as is he, and i am a woman, nobby xx Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 (edited) This "downgrading"/"upgrading" attitude annoys me, because it treats people like objects to be traded up or down. Maybe he's a better person than you or has a more interesting personality or a more compatible one with hers. Looks aren't everything. Edited March 16, 2010 by shadowplay Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 "Upgrade?" Grow up, please. Your post domonstrates: male jealousy usually has little to do with women and everything to do with men feeling competative with other men. Eh, whatever. Sometimes when you've been through alot of pain, and **** on by someone, you get a tiny bit of comfort in knowing they aren't out there with some Brad Pitt lookalike. We'll take whatever bits of joy we can. And don't act like you've never thought about it. sheesh. Oh, I did think about it--when I was 14 or so. And please, don't play the I've-been-through-pain card. So have I. So has everyone here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author paleblue Posted March 17, 2010 Author Share Posted March 17, 2010 jlr i thought the same thing - i was expecting johnny depp or some super stud in my mind's eye. i was shocked when i saw this guy. o well. it does make me feel better. it gives me an ego boost for a change. i anticipated the i'm immature responses. i dont care. yeah i know its not all based on looks. im not that shallow. but at the same time it makes me feel better. : ) gives me something. lemme have my lil bit o temp reprieve from the pain. Link to post Share on other sites
jlr Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 Maybe he's a better person than you or has a more interesting personality or a more compatible one with hers. Looks aren't everything. Yeah, because looking at it that way will really help us and our insecurities! Many of us are having self-esteem problems post-breakup. Come on. We're just having a little fun. No one implied looks were all that mattered, in fact, several of us brought up other things that the new guy does, that don't involve looks. My ex complained to ME about these things that I mentioned above. So maybe it feels good to know we did a few things right. Or that our lovers aren't out with Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie. Or that their new relationships aren't perfect either. My ex has never really dealt with her issues, and the thing is, she'll keep downgrading because she's not a complete person herself. She's still running from problems, and I know this because SHE's said it herself. But she chooses to keep doing it. And I got lost in it all. So if saying she downgraded is immature, then oh well. I've been the mature one about most of the things that happened since the breakup, so maybe I deserve a moment to be silly. Lighten up, righteous ones. Nobby and paleblue - Right on!! You're both better than your exes new peeps. Say it loud! Link to post Share on other sites
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