Charlie Digital Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 Okay, I'm not gonna bore you all with the same old same old... You know, ex left me, I want her back, blah blah blah.. But I have a question... Do you think my ex is inviting me back into her life with her body language? Well, I went over to her house to take my son to the movies and, that went pretty cool, so I take him home and she says thank you and hugs me... then I say bye. She follows me out to my car and I get in, she sits down and starts talking to me for what seems like an hour... basically telling me things like, where she wants to be in life and all that stuff. All the while, she's doing things like laughing at my retarded jokes, fiddling with her hair, leaning in towards me alot, showing me her legs (supposedly just so she can show me her ankle tattoo) hugging me AGAIN, but most importantly, maintaining eye contact with me for LONG periods of time... That might sound normal to most but, she's never acted this way before... Now, I guess my question is, is she basically saying, dude, I'll take you back, or something? I mean, I've been playing it smooth with her, trying to act indifferent and stuff but, she's seemingly into me all over again. Now you must know, I want NOTHING MORE than to be with her again, so I'm just wondering if I should go for it, after seeing all those supposed 'signs.' We've had a pretty bad breakup in the past but, dudes, she just seems like all that junk never happened... It feels real good, as I love her a ton but, I just dont wanna be reading it wrong, and end up messing up a good friendship between sons mom/dad... Thanks alot guys... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 I would think she wants to establish a 'friendship' with you.....someone she knows cares about her....and someone she trusts. I would NOT take this as a 'HINT' she wants to resume the relationship. There are 'past' men in my life I care deeply about. I love having them in my life. I would END that relationship if they read more into it. If you can be happy in your 'new'.....yet 'established'.....place in her heart......GOOD. If it makes you feel hope which isn't there.....then you may need to tell her 'friendship' isn't working for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Charlie Digital Posted January 11, 2004 Author Share Posted January 11, 2004 Thank you very much, Arabess. I've read alot of your advice and you seem to really know what you're talking about. The thing is... we've tried the "Friends" thing before and, this doesn't resemble that, or anything like that at all! I mean, she's saying things like, "Remember what I told you before about_______?" I said, "Yeah." Then she goes like, "I kept thinking to myself, I wonder what Charles would think." You see what I'm saying? It's not like her to be so interested in what I think about her, and like how I feel about the things she does (post-relationship, of course) Usually, in the past, after we had broken up... Our interactions basically only dealt with our son, and things of that nature.. But now, she's inviting me over to hang with HER and HER FRIENDS.. I guess I'm more confused than I thought... At first I was like, I guess this is a pretty straight forward 'hint' but, let me check with this message board. Then you made me see the other side of it but, man, it just seems strange of her to act this way if she truly doesn't want me back, you know? Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted January 11, 2004 Share Posted January 11, 2004 I would say the opposite. Those are signs that she wants something from you. To be honest though, I don't know what she wants. From the sounds of it - the physical approaches, it would seem that she wants some ...action? If she wanted more, she broke up with you and I would think that she would be a bit more straight forward and spill the beans. After all, you guys were once in love and have a child together - people in these situations should be able to be open and communicate. At least this is how I feel personally. When my ex wants to talk about something, I am straight up with him because I know who he is and I know how he would react and I know how to talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Charlie Digital Posted January 11, 2004 Author Share Posted January 11, 2004 Thanks for the advice, Sarah. I will definitely look more into it, and keep you guys posted... Man, why are women so confusing? Link to post Share on other sites
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