eternal.denied84 Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 hey guys, i have been 2 months of NC with my ex gf.I missed her pretty much everyday and still cries a lot..some days go fine..some days are just so hard..i keep thinking over and over and then tears just come out.I hate myself that i am spending so much time on a relation which is no more and most probably the person for whom i am crying for will be having fun with someone else.. why cant i just stop thinking about her and concentrate and focus on my career? why its so difficult to throw her out of my mind? Is it just because she called out before me? is it that my ego,dignity and rejection hurting me or is that i loved her so much that i am not able to get over her..i am so confused..she didn't leave any reason for me to care about her..she has done all possible things for me to hate her..why the hell i still think about her? why and when will this end? can someone give me an answer? i don't want to leave it on time..i want to take control of my life. can someone please tell how should i get out of this? this doesn't make any sense for me to think and cry for a person who left me in a terrible state..why is life so unbalanced..why don't ppl get punished for their deeds? how come someone can just come..crush and go away? should i contact and let her know that this is what i am going through..is this love not sufficient for you? Link to post Share on other sites
sailo Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 I would say don't contact her...its just going to bring you right back to day 1 and make the pain that much more intense.. unless you want to get back together? Why did the relationship ship? Link to post Share on other sites
ussy Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 Dont do it!!! Im in the same position as you, but just think to yourself that if she truly loved you would she have ever thought of leaving you?? Become better without her! That is what keeps me going, i miss her so much, but ive got to the stage where i think "If she isnt gonna bother with me then why should I?" Just keep saying that to yourself..... I know how hard it is for you because im in the same position. My ex did a million things to hurt me after we broke up, just dont let anything get to you. Show them that your a strong person, there's always light at the end of the tunnel... Stay strong! : ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author eternal.denied84 Posted March 14, 2010 Author Share Posted March 14, 2010 i actually contacted i could not resist myself after getting to know that she is possibly seeing someone else..this contact was most horrible phase of my life..i am miserable right now..i am sick suffering from fever crying continuously from past 8 hrs..this is it..i feel like quitting this.i cant bear more pain..everytime i start to get better something pulls me back..she was so ruthless to me..no one can ever be like this to anyone.. i have lost all my dignity for this girl..i am mad at God for all this..i never deserved this much of pain. Link to post Share on other sites
RockGuy87 Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 Ive been there bro. You have to stop contact her though. TRUST ME i know, i went through it. I couldnt believe how cold she was being and how she seemed to just not care...it hurts like a bitch. You would never think that the person who use to express their love for you would soon be such a cold hearted bitch. My ex is seeing someone else and it ****ing hurts, really does. I thought about giving up like you but u cant let her win. Yes she is winning right now, but once you start to enjoy life without her (you will) thats what will hurt her the most. Get back at them by becoming better. I still have some rough days but dont complain about be dragged back down when u keep contacting her, thats why you arent moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyDaze Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 You WILL be better without her. You hurt bad because you loved deeply. Honor that. It was your ex that did not love in the end and screw it all up. Anytime you feel you want to contact her to ask the whys and why nots...come on LS and there will be a member or many that will help stop you. Healing is never an easy process. It takes hard work and guts to not reach for that phone or that mouse to click and send a desperate e-mail. You have it in you, show her that you are worthy of someone who deserves your love..and that someone is still out there... Link to post Share on other sites
sadheart2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 Keep yourself busy with books internet friends or whatever comes up to your mind!!! Tell yourself everyday: I showed you what love is and now you wont get anything from me anymore-because you dont value what we had! Also think of the bad things she did to you!!! You dont deserve such an ignorant treatment! Link to post Share on other sites
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