unhappy with my life

[so_mo34]

i have been so unhappy lately. i hide it well, but inside im really upset all the time. im NEVER content. i can't get out of this cycle with a guy who is using me. just cannot get over him and i keep letting him use me. im stupid. im very inarticulate. im broke all the time. i hate school. im bad with words. im in like 12 grand of debt. not student loans, but all stupid debt. i always attract *******s or guys im not interested in. the ones i like never like me back. i screw things up all the time. im bad in school and have a hard time studying. one of my teacher's even admitted i was dumb. i screw things up at work all the time. i just feel like i contribute nothing to this world. i have been thinking about suicide a lot lately. i just don't want to do that to my family. i want to live, i just want things to get better and i want to be happy. i just hate living feeling like this every day. does anyone else ever feel like this? do you have any advice on how i can become happier?

[bubbles5]

First of all clear ur cluttered n messed up mind. Secondly if u want to improe on ur school u have to TAKE EFFORTS TO STUDY. You have to sit with a book infront of u whether u feel or not feel like studying keep doing evryday n slowly u will start studying n give some attention to ur studies.So automatically u will get ur grades

If u dont have guy around to cycle atleast u have cycle n ipod or some music n u can cycle alone, secondly U will b content IF U WORK HARD. you want to give something to world THEN u have to put some hard work.It will take time to get to routine but TRY ATLEAST.. Stop thinking of suicide this is just start of ur life u have long way to go so killing UR SELF WONT HELP TO GIVE ANYTHING TO WORLD BUT PERMANENT LOSS TO UR PARENTS N TEACHERS N UR LOVED ONES..

[dkatelin]

Reaching rock bottom and having things go wrong in your life, proves that you appreciate life and recognise what is not working for you. Its not to say that you are a failure in life, its just that you had a set back and as Willie Jollie said "set back is a set up for a come back" The thing is, we are so lucky we get a new page everyday to rewrite our life and change what needs changing. We have a choice to change the script in our life that every little bit we add to it to, enhances it no matter how small, it makes us into a better person because of our experiences. The higher your experiences to fail the more successful you will be, look at Abraham lincoln, he endured a steady stream of failures and defeat before becoming the president of the USA. You deserve the best and deserve to be happy. I remember a movie I watched, when they interogated this guy cos he was black and he was determined to get the job......and they said to him.... why do you want it so bad and he replied cos you said I couldnt have it...and I thought that was really inspiring .....I hope this little bit of advice will help you ....

[LisaUk]

Hi

 

Please go and see your school counsellor to talk about how you are feeling, you can change your life and be happy, sometimes though we all need a little help to do that. A counsellor can help you to look for other solutions to your problems that maybe you haven't thought about, they will help you to work things through.

 

I have had suicidal thoughts too. I was left by my fiance after 18 years, ended up on the street pretty much and had to return to live with my mum who is verbally and emotionally abusive at the age of 34. My life isn't great, I'm hoping it will get better though. I decided to go back to school and am working to qualify as a solicitor. If you had told me two years ago I would be doing this, I would have said you were crazy. My point is, my life is better in some ways than it was before, not in others and I still have my down days (today has been one), but you never know what is around the corner for you and YOU can make changes to alter your life, you may just need some help to do that.

 

In the meantime, you could try changing your circle of friends, maybe join some different clubs, try new things, once you start to experience a range of experiences, that guy may not look so appealing to you anymore and you may find as you are happier with your life in general that your studies improve. You are not DUMB, and the teacher who said you were should be fired.

[Meaplus3]

i have been so unhappy lately. i hide it well, but inside im really upset all the time. im NEVER content. i can't get out of this cycle with a guy who is using me. just cannot get over him and i keep letting him use me. im stupid. im very inarticulate. im broke all the time. i hate school. im bad with words. im in like 12 grand of debt. not student loans, but all stupid debt. i always attract *******s or guys im not interested in. the ones i like never like me back. i screw things up all the time. im bad in school and have a hard time studying. one of my teacher's even admitted i was dumb. i screw things up at work all the time. i just feel like i contribute nothing to this world. i have been thinking about suicide a lot lately. i just don't want to do that to my family. i want to live, i just want things to get better and i want to be happy. i just hate living feeling like this every day. does anyone else ever feel like this? do you have any advice on how i can become happier?

 

First off, I see a huge focus on the negatives from your post here. What about the positives? There must be some. and you really need to focus on those. We all get down and feel overhwelmed.. it's part of life. Now, what can you do to makes changes to the above issues? If you can identify that it will help. Hang in there and cheer up. You will be ok.. and you will get through this rough patch.

 

Mea:)

[dutchie]

I've been there before, you are not alone, we all feel down and useless sometimes. As another poster said, it is part of life. I second the focusing on the positives. There HAS to be something positive about you/your life.

 

Seek out some counseling from your school. Are you in college? Your Uni should have resources for you to use in situations like this. Take advantage of them, that is what they are there for.

 

Know that you are not alone. Talk to your family and friends, seek out support, don't just sequester yourself and keep focusing on all the mistakes you made/make.

 

This may sound counter-intuitive, since you say that you are bad in school, but try, I mean REALLY try to focus on your studies and do a little more work, put in a little more effort into your academics. I'm telling you from experience that maybe it is hard to do, but it will boost your confidence once you start to see a payoff. And you will, once you start studying. I often found that just making myself useful with my books and notes made me feel better, like I was accomplishing something useful.

 

And I repeat: GO SEEK OUT COUNSELING AT YOUR SCHOOL.

[taurusincus]

i have been so unhappy lately. i hide it well, but inside im really upset all the time. im NEVER content. i can't get out of this cycle with a guy who is using me. just cannot get over him and i keep letting him use me. im stupid. im very inarticulate. im broke all the time. i hate school. im bad with words. im in like 12 grand of debt. not student loans, but all stupid debt. i always attract *******s or guys im not interested in. the ones i like never like me back. i screw things up all the time. im bad in school and have a hard time studying. one of my teacher's even admitted i was dumb. i screw things up at work all the time. i just feel like i contribute nothing to this world. i have been thinking about suicide a lot lately. i just don't want to do that to my family. i want to live, i just want things to get better and i want to be happy. i just hate living feeling like this every day. does anyone else ever feel like this? do you have any advice on how i can become happier?

It seems you are quite upset and disappointed with the things turning up in your life.i refuse to believe the bad things you wrote about your self.

I think you are a special person and there is no need for you to put up with the crap. just let go bad relationships,bad people from your system.

 

Just organize your thoughts and start all over again.

[torranceshipman]

1. You are more articulate than about 70% of LS posters so I can already see that you are not stupid. I am also a teacher and any teacher that tells you that you are stupid is a complete fool

 

2. You need to take complete responsibility for your own happiness RIGHT now. As in, this second. Attitude change. YOU do bad things to you by making bad choices. Take the power back right now and use it to make good choices only.

 

3. Remove all negative influences - no 1 is that scum of a guy that uses you - go NC and keep it for good - and also remove any negative influences going forward including so-called toxic friends, etc. How? Write down a 'these are my boundaries' list and NEVER - and I mean never - let anyone cross them, regardless of what excuses, special cases, special situations, etc these people may pitch to you.

 

4. Today and from now on, find small things to do just for you. I am very much a fan of gym visit, fake tan, only buying colorful clothes for my wardrobe, only listening to energetic positive music, etc - these may sound uber cheesy and not for you but find your version. These small things make a HUGE difference.

 

5. Consolidate your loans as best as you can and make your payments manageable going forward. You may need to go to your mom and dad and admit your situation. Telling them how bad you feel might also be a good thing - there is no point struggling on your own.

 

6. If you drink or take drugs stop right now - they are massive depressants. As are: lack of sleep, too much sugar and caffeine, bad food, junk food. Live cleaner and your body chemistry will thank you for it.

 

7. Consider whether you might have mild depression. Exercise is an amazing intervention for this. If that doesn't help consider seeing someone.

 

8. If it helps, when I was a teen I felt exactly like you did, but I had this rock bottom Eureka moment about the taking responsibility for my own happiness thing, and have self coached every day since - so much so that I don't even do it consciously anymore. I didnt read a book or learn a technique - just plain old tenacious positive thinking in the face of ongoing day-on-day crap. And today I am literally the happiest, perkiest human I know, lol....it does get better, I promise you, but it is up to you to gain that positive mind set and make big changes and have the discipline to stick to them.

 

Good luck!

[cuppa]

I think I went through similar period when I was in my late teens or early 20s (I'm now in my early 30s where I start to feel comfortable with myself and know how to cope with certain difficult situations). When I was in your position, I did a couple things that helped me tremendously:

 

1. Vowed that I will change for the better, doing one good thing at a time (small goals). Set a small goal every week or every other week, pat yourself in the back for the job well done or for the efforts that you put in.

 

2. Every morning, look at yourself in the mirror. Telll yourself that you are special and you love you for being you. I did at some point and I told myself, how special I was and how I loved myself. Think about the positive things you do and have done. Whether you are being a good friend, a great daughter/sibling, or you did well in the exam today or you managed to squeeze time for exercise so you can get healthy, whatever it is, give yourself credits for the job well done.

 

3. Exercise/workouts. Try to squeeze 30 mins a day to walk outside or light jog or doing things you love. This will help to rejuvenate your mind and as always, with exercise, your body will release endorphins that provide the best stress reliever.

 

It's not easy but once you find your footing again, you will look back and will be grateful that you have overcome this low point in your life. Best of luck!

[Amity]

I can relate to this, i went through a similar time in my teens, and now im having it in my 30's(early female mid life crisis??)

Its hard to love who you are sometimes, and my mistake is trying to be someone im never going to be.

Life is far to short, enjoy everyday and be happy for what you have, always remember there are others in far worse positions.

All my love and luck to you xxx

[pureinheart]

i have been so unhappy lately. i hide it well, but inside im really upset all the time. im NEVER content. i can't get out of this cycle with a guy who is using me. just cannot get over him and i keep letting him use me. im stupid. im very inarticulate. im broke all the time. i hate school. im bad with words. im in like 12 grand of debt. not student loans, but all stupid debt. i always attract *******s or guys im not interested in. the ones i like never like me back. i screw things up all the time. im bad in school and have a hard time studying. one of my teacher's even admitted i was dumb. i screw things up at work all the time. i just feel like i contribute nothing to this world. i have been thinking about suicide a lot lately. i just don't want to do that to my family. i want to live, i just want things to get better and i want to be happy. i just hate living feeling like this every day. does anyone else ever feel like this? do you have any advice on how i can become happier?

 

Ya, this hits quite often...but I have learned when this hits, in order to make it go away is to speak good stuff over my life, even though it's hard and I don't feel like it.

 

You are abusing yourself by the words you are speaking...then various "people" feel privledged to help you in destruction, and there are sooooo many out there more than willing to use and abuse...

 

If you don't mind, you got my thoughts and prayer for you...k...((((((hugs))))))