lookin2wardthefuture Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Soo this guy I've been seeing for less than a month asked me how I felt about him. He was very clear from the beginning that he was'nt looking for a relationship, but now I'm not so sure. I played it really casual and told him I thought he was really cool. I guess I should have asked how heo felt about me, but I chickened out. Guys if you ask a woman you're dating this question, what are you looking to find out ? Are you worried that she's too interested, not interested enough, or have you become more involved than you intended to be? Please help me decode this one. Link to post Share on other sites
aroll32 Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Ah, when I want to ask this, I normally really like the girl and want to see what she feels. I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to be with you. For example, I asked one time, and a girl gave me a B.S. answer. So it was pretty clear that she had mixed feelings. And still does (fml). The reason why I asked though was because I liked her a lot and wanted to know if she liked me as much as I did her. Not to find out if she didn't like me because I didn't like her either. If a guy doesn't want to be with you after a month or so of dating it's going to be pretty clear in most situations. Just my two cents, hope it helps Link to post Share on other sites
zebracolors Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Sometimes it can go without saying. Some signs that we women do are pretty obvious that we like him, and a guy just would have to recognize those unless she said it right out. Still, I've never been asked that personally by a guy, however I would love if he did. But if I like him it would just be on me to make it clear and that means saying something. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 Well I believe his question is redundant seeing as he said he's not looking for a relationship. Unless he spills that he either changed his mind or says outright he wants to be with you, I put it off as him wanting some kind of ego boost or something. Link to post Share on other sites
mella Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 I agree, at this point it must be taken as an ego boost tactic, since he's stressed disinterest in having a relationship. That said, if he brings it up again I think you should put it back on him and say "I'd like to hear how you feel, since you keep bringing it up" and don't divulge your feelings until you hear what his are first. Seems childish, but he's sending you mixed messages, gotta do what you gotta do! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lookin2wardthefuture Posted March 19, 2010 Author Share Posted March 19, 2010 Thanks everyone! Great insights! I know he's seeing other people, and so am I. He texts me everyday mutiple times per day, always asking how my day is, what I'm up to. We had a 6 hour hang out date on Monday, and we're going out tomorrow night after he gets off work. Last week when I had a blind date, he openly told me he was" weirdly jelous". Then he proceeded to ask me all kinds of questions about what we did and if the I was going out with him again, did he try to kiss me. Of course last night he had to go because he was going over to his ex's house. It's confusing, and I'm not too sure he's not trying to make me jeleous. In this case it's seems to be more of a "I'm into you more than I'd like to admit." I'm always very cool if he has other plans, I never ask any questions and appear to be uninterested. After he asked me all of the questions concerning my date, that was when he asked me how I felt about him. Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyJake Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 Well I believe his question is redundant seeing as he said he's not looking for a relationship. Unless he spills that he either changed his mind or says outright he wants to be with you, I put it off as him wanting some kind of ego boost or something. Agree it's an ego boost, or possibly him making sure you're not going to start making gf noises. I see you trying to make a case in your last post. It can be very confusing when you like someone, and he pays attention to you (texts and so on) and he likes you and spends time with you. But those things don't automatically equal relationship, or anything....so try not to read into these things, or his question, or just believe him when he says that he doesn't want to date you exclusively or be in a relationship with you. If he changes his mind he'll let you know. Link to post Share on other sites
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