Why am I feeling the way I do Now?

[Steve2usa]

IS this anger I feel normal. I love and miss my ex as much as ever, but lately I've been feeling resentful towards her. I have questioned whether or not I was being used and if she ever did really care. Why is my subconscience bringing this up? Friends have suggested some of these things to me and perhaps I am letting them get to me. Of course, they (my friends) are expressing opinions on what they know and have been told about and not because they lived the relationship. I am confused, because I Love this girl so much and know still in my heart I want to be with her and her only. I have been approached by several good looking ladies who want to go out on dates with me, but I am not ready for that yet, but feel I need to just to boost my own self confidence.

 

I know I am asking alot, but any help or opinions are appreciated.

 

Your Friend,

Steve

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

Steve2usa, anger can to some people be the first sign of moving on despite your feelings,

 

lucky you that nice chicks are approaching you, i know you aren't ready but just be civil and nice and try and enjoy their company as this is the best you can hope for right now...

 

who says you need to be immediately involved with somebody again, it is not natural

 

good luck

[BklynGuy]

Anger after a breakup is natural. I too resented me ex gf after our breakup! I would wake up & feel the anger brewing deep inside of me..... I felt liks she did me wrong (She Cheated). I just accepted the way things worked out and slowly let go of the feelings I had. Today makes 6 months, and a few feelings are still w/me. In time, you too will let go and move on. Whatever your friends are or were telling you may have actually been to your benefit. They may have been speaking truthfully & you just didn't want to see or agree with what you were being told? In my case, friends & family warned me time and time again. I didn't listen & got burned! No matter what, hold on & you will pull through.

[moimeme]

It's one of the five stages of grief a person goes through on suffering loss.

 

1. Denial – The "No, not me" stage.

 

2.Anger/Resentment – The "Why me?" stage.

 

3. Bargaining – The "If I do this, you’ll do that" stage.

 

4. Depression- The "It's really happened" stage.

 

5. Acceptance – The "This is what happened" stage.

 

http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=145

[mandrews1119]

Anger is normal, nothing wrong. sometimes it will help you see things you didn't before. People use anger in different ways, see what is working for you. in any case it will let you express some of what is going on inside you, just do it in a decently healthy manner that causes no harm to anything except a few inanimate objects. Anger also helps you see the other person's point of view. How it works for you is up to you, believe it or not, you are STILL in control.

[Steve2usa]

Ok, I met this beatiful attractive woman and we went out on a couple dates and she ended up seducing me. So why do I feel guilty for sleeping with her? Any other time in my life I would have died to be with a woman like this, but now I feel like I cheated on my own heart.

 

She really like me and my heart is somewhere else, and I feel like I should tell her this. I know it will chase her away and that could be the biggest mistake I ever make in my life. I am still madly in love with my ex and I don't feel right being with someone else.

 

So what do I do? I am more confused than ever.....Please any advice.

 

Steve of the broken hearts club!

[BklynGuy]

Maybe it's too soon for you to be with another woman. It takes time to heal and be ready to let go of the emotions felt for the ex. If being alone is right for you at this time...so be it. Just do what's best for yourself.