Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 :lmao::lmao: HAHAHA you would be surprised who goes to strip clubs,actually i don't think there is a type,from janitors to judges,your 18 old son to your grandfather. Why would i not use my line of work to judge men,im surrounded by them.they have no reason to lie to me about being married or have a girlfriend because in my line of work it does not matter,they do not have to sugar talk me and say "honey im leaving my wife/girlfriend for you in due time" So if you were a crack dealer would you also assume everyone does crack just because you have a clientele? You may know your job, I won't take that away from you but you don't know all men, sorry. Just as we don't. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Exactly.. I have used the same thing before, as have all guys.. "Honey, you know Joe cheated on his wife, how could he?" "Aww, he is a bad man, she is so sweet" "I agree honey,, I hate cheaters" Anyway, this question is for the ladies.. I make the world a better place as I have no interest in sleeping with a married woman.. I do my part..I also do not want the vagina that another man has been using for years.. I can give SOOOO much anecdotal evidence, by why aren't women the same? They LINE UP to sleep with another woman's man.. The idea that"they didn't know he is married" is just a ridiculous excuse, as most of the time the women set their eyes on married men intentionally.. So we can ask men to reverse thousands of generations of their behavior, and their natural biological urges, or perhaps women should stop being such sluts that try to sleep with married men? Seems like the latter is more effective and easier.. This is true I know alot of women and not just dancers who like to go after men who are already taken. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 So if you were a crack dealer would you also assume everyone does crack just because you have a clientele? You may know your job, I won't take that away from you but you don't know all men, sorry. Just as we don't. I never said every guy that goes to the strip club is a cheater;) Link to post Share on other sites
calizaggy Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 So if you were a crack dealer would you also assume everyone does crack just because you have a clientele? You may know your job, I won't take that away from you but you don't know all men, sorry. Just as we don't. I think most men have been to strip clubs.. Actually in many nations they do not have strip clubs, but places where men actually go to have sex.. USA kind of has the watered down version.. Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I never said every guy that goes to the strip club is a cheater;) No, you are saying "men" act a certain way because of what you see at work. Yeah sure the men at your work are there to get a job done, no one is disputing that but your example is like saying fat people at McDonalds are not going to order salad. Well duhhhhhhhhhhhh! Link to post Share on other sites
calizaggy Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 No, you are saying "men" act a certain way because of what you see at work. Yeah sure the men at your work are there to get a job done, no one is disputing that but your example is like saying fat people at McDonalds are not going to order salad. Well duhhhhhhhhhhhh! Well of course.. And you are assuming many of these same men act a different way because you see them in a different element.. At work, school etc.. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 No, you are saying "men" act a certain way because of what you see at work. Yeah sure the men at your work are there to get a job done, no one is disputing that but your example is like saying fat people at McDonalds are not going to order salad. Well duhhhhhhhhhhhh! I never said that every man that goes is there for the same thing,sure alot are,but i also said there are some who go that appear uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Um, I've been to see male strippers, and I know guys who have been to a strip club once in a blue moon, but the type YOU are talking about who you probably see day after day after day stuffing dollar bills in your - ahem - uniform - are the ones who carry on the way you describe. Yeah. In your limited and very specialized knowledge of men, you know them sooooo well. Once again I know men very well:D Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Well of course.. And you are assuming many of these same men act a different way because you see them in a different element.. At work, school etc.. No no, that's is where you are completely wrong and where you fail to see the distinction, it is not many of the same men it is not the same men at all! Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I never said that every man that goes is there for the same thing,sure alot are,but i also said there are some who go that appear uncomfortable. You sound like calizaggy, you change your stance each time you post. I know exactly what you said, and the reason some men feel uncomfortable is because they simply don't want to be there. I speak for them because this is what THEY have told me, I am not trying to put words in guy's mouths. So consider a good chunk of the male population not interested in being at a strip joint. I can see why, it is quite a depressing atmosphere for the most part, sure it can be fun in a big group like a bachelor party but day to day it's a pretty seedy scene. You know, you work there, it must get pretty depressing for you too. I know a lot of guys who have gone, but never return, there is a reason why they never go back and it's not because someone is forcing them not to, it's simply because they have no interest. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 No. She's saying do NOT use an example of how all men act from the guys you see in a strip joint. There are LOTS of guys who NEVER go to strips joints. I know plenty of them. I know some that have gone a few times, and I know some that go ALLLL the time, and the latter is probably the type the dancer in this thread is using as an example. Knowing that they go and actually seeing them there as i do are two different things,just because a guy goes 6 times a week does not mean he's a dirt bag and just because a guy has gone only once does not mean he is innocent and didn't do anything. example,There is a guy who goes often about 3-5 times a week and he has never even got a lap dance,he sits there enjoys the company talks to me and enjoys his drink tips me well and leave. Lets call him "Joe" he comes in never seen him before first time there says he has been stressed and a lil nerveous because it's his first time going to a strip club and he leaves a happy customer,but never comes back. My point a guy does not have to be a regular,and he does not even have to be a dirt bag. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 You sound like calizaggy, you change your stance each time you post. I know exactly what you said, and the reason some men feel uncomfortable is because they simply don't want to be there. I speak for them because this is what THEY have told me, I am not trying to put words in guy's mouths. So consider a good chunk of the male population not interested in being at a strip joint. I can see why, it is quite a depressing atmosphere for the most part, sure it can be fun in a big group like a bachelor party but day to day it's a pretty seedy scene. You know, you work there, it must get pretty depressing for you too. I know a lot of guys who have gone, but never return, there is a reason why they never go back and it's not because someone is forcing them not to, it's simply because they have no interest. Honey that is what i meant when i said they look uncomfortable,didn't know I had to go into such detailed detail,and those men should stand up to the buddies and tell them no,atleast make up a lie and say "I need to pick up my kids" instead of actually going.Men are a HUGE influence on each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Once again I know men very well:D I beg to differ I think you don't know "men" very well, you know the types of men who go to see you at work, well. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I beg to differ I think you don't know "men" very well, you know the types of men who go to see you at work, well. There is no type. Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Honey that is what i meant when i said they look uncomfortable,didn't know I had to go into such detailed detail,and those men should stand up to the buddies and tell them no,atleast make up a lie and say "I need to pick up my kids" instead of actually going.Men are a HUGE influence on each other. Well I think those guys don't make up a lie because they are curious, they WANt to be there, as much as it makes them uncomfortable they are curious and choose to be there. They use the peer pressure thing as an excuse "oh it's business and good for my career, I have to go there after work with colleagues" but maybe next time they will just flat out say no. Can I ask you something? Do you actually enjoy your work? I am curious to know if dancers actually like doing what they do, or they do it out of necessity. I hope you don't mind me asking.... Link to post Share on other sites
Maxxx Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Where do you draw the line with that thinking? I mean we're constantly told that all men cheat. I read it on this forum all the time, I've heard it from a man who cheated on me and an inordinate amount of women I know have been cheated on. By all kinds of men. The sensitive geek might be just as likely to cheat as the "bad boy". More, if he's not used to getting sexual opportunities and some woman suddenly hands it to him on a plate because she's feeling competitive against his girlfriend. So what's the sensible response to all this overwhelming evidence of the majority of men cheating the moment they get half a chance? Just avoid getting into serious relationships with men full stop? Stick to fairly meaningless f*ck buddy relationships with men you don't care about, and have your emotional needs met by family and female friends? Wow those are some pretty strong words I kind of take offense to... ALL men do not cheat I would say the high majority of posts about men cheating on here are because this is where everyone comes when the want answers as to why their man cheated on them. And just because "A" man cheated on you don't discount the rest of us by saying we all do it. Because we don't all do it I know many that would never think of cheating on their wife and I would never do such a thing. And I disagree that the "sensitive" geek (as you call it) would be as likely to cheat as the "bad boy" Because fact is if the guy cares about his wife's feelings he would never cheat on her. You can argue this point all you want but fact is if a man is cheating on you he only cares about him self not you. And really if he's cheating he does not care about the one his cheating with on you either. As I said I don't think the posts on here are a good example of the gen population! as far as overwhelming evidence Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 There is no type. I dunnow...call me naive but when I look at people who work in the adult industry or in any sort of line of work where they are exposed to the darker sides of society, I see a lot of lassitude being projected at what the rest of us view as the more normal aspects of society. Much like for example cops, who are being exposed to a subculture of people who live on the fringe, they tend to operate or view life influenced by an occupational bias. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Wow those are some pretty strong words I kind of take offense to... ALL men do not cheat I would say the high majority of posts about men cheating on here are because this is where everyone comes when the want answers as to why their man cheated on them. And just because "A" man cheated on you don't discount the rest of us by saying we all do it. Because we don't all do it I know many that would never think of cheating on their wife and I would never do such a thing. And I disagree that the "sensitive" geek (as you call it) would be as likely to cheat as the "bad boy" Because fact is if the guy cares about his wife's feelings he would never cheat on her. You can argue this point all you want but fact is if a man is cheating on you he only cares about him self not you. And really if he's cheating he does not care about the one his cheating with on you either. As I said I don't think the posts on here are a good example of the gen population! as far as overwhelming evidence If you went to the bother of reading the entire thread (and I know it's a pain, but it's preferable to just diving in) you would see that my post is a response to the constant barrage of "all men cheat...you will never be able to trust any man...you women who think it's possible to find a faithful man are kidding yourselves..." posts we get on this forum. In fact, you don't even need to read the entire thread. Just the last couple of pages. Being cheated on or screwed over in any kind of way shakes people's trust. Of course it does. The process of rebuilding your ability to place trust in others can be difficult...and this site is often more destructive than helpful in that respect. If you feel strongly about this issue, you can carry on ranting at people who've been burned and who find it difficult to trust as a result of being burned. Or you can take it to those men and women who derive glee from discouraging others to place any trust and faith in the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 As evidenced by this...? Ah HA HA HA HAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes I think I do know men very well,which is why I know that there is NO type,some women say well my husband/boyfriend does not fit the type to cheat or go to strip clubs,that is naive to say. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I know a lot of guys who never go to strip clubs and find them lame Most good looking, successful guys would rather conqueor other repsectable professional women I think there is some miscommunication here never did i write that all men go to strip clubs,my argument is you do not have to be a dirty pervert to frequent them,there is no type. Never did i say that all men who go enjoy it. Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 It's sad that there are people who think "all women this" or "all men that" because they will NEVER find a good partner. They will settle for whatever they can get since they "know" all men "cheat, lie, go to strip clubs, etc. etc. etc." Show me where I said ALL men cheat and ALL men lie and ALL men go to strip clubs:bunny:ALOT of men cheat,ALOT of men lie,ALOT of men go to strip clubs and I stand by that. Alot of women do the above as well:p Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I think there is some miscommunication here never did i write that all men go to strip clubs,my argument is you do not have to be a dirty pervert to frequent them,there is no type. Never did i say that all men who go enjoy it. No you dont have to be a pervert by any means, but most of the guys who go to strip clubs are lonley for some reason Ive frequented strip clubs during really depressing periods in the past What Im saying is if a guy has game and half a brain hes going to try his chances out on other women in his league, even if hes married and just looking for an affair. Maybe said guy would have sex with a stripper at a friend's bachelor party , but Im not sure thats really cheating. Its more like getting too personal with the domestic staff Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 First you say this: To me that says you think all men cheat and go to strip clubs. Then you say this: Can't have it both ways. :lmao::lmao: hahahaha couldn't find it,so you come with that,ok honey think what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Maxxx Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 It's sad that there are people who think "all women this" or "all men that" because they will NEVER find a good partner. They will settle for whatever they can get since they "know" all men "cheat, lie, go to strip clubs, etc. etc. etc." I Agree! with this Link to post Share on other sites
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 No you dont have to be a pervert by any means, but most of the guys who go to strip clubs are lonley for some reason Ive frequented strip clubs during really depressing periods in the past What Im saying is if a guy has game and half a brain hes going to try his chances out on other women in his league, even if hes married and just looking for an affair. Maybe said guy would have sex with a stripper at a friend's bachelor party , but Im not sure thats really cheating. Its more like getting too personal with the domestic staff The only depressing time was last year when the economy was worse:p Link to post Share on other sites
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