Lap Dancing is not really cheating

[Art_Critic]

fantasy2000.. Good Luck..

There aren't many men that would have done what you just did, it sounds like you are a pretty good guy..

Learning from ones mistakes is all that can be asked of us..

 

Hope all is well and I hope you and your wife work through this little bump in the road

[Jersey Shortie]

I discussed my visit to the strip bar with my SO and she was hurt and disappointed that I had gone. It was a quiet conversation but she made me promise not to go anymore. I have changed my attitude towards these bars now that my eyes have been opened to what lap dancing really is. It was selfish of me to think that it was innocent fantasy. Thanks for all the feedback in this my last post to the thread.

 

Fantasy, it takes a big man to do what you did. I sincerely mean that.

[Dexter Morgan]

Many male friends have told me that their wives were upset when they heard we went to Strip Bars together. One guy confessed to his wife that he had a lap dance and she told him he was unfaithful and was damaging their relationship. I think this is a bit of an exaggeration. Men are confronted by sexual images everyday on billboards selling products. It is natural for men to fantasize about those billboard girls. Lap dancing happens in a fantasy arena. It ends at the door when you leave.

 

while it may not EXACTLY be cheating, its highly disrespectful to the spouse.

 

fantasy stays in the mind. getting a lapdance is semi-acting out a fantasy with real contact. ever heard of the phrase, "look but dont touch"?

 

Only time I have been to a strip joint was once when single. Otherwise, I have no reason to go if I'm in a committed relationship...unless I could care less about my significant other's feelings and didn't respect her.

[Dexter Morgan]

I think it depends on how open minded she is. What about an actor who does love scenes for a movie? Does his wife not need to be open minded about that?

 

uh....is there physical contact being made with the person on screen?