Why can't the MM tell the truth? *spin off*

[OWoman]

So why is it that the ow believe everything the mm says?

 

Some OWs do, just as some BWs do.

 

I don't believe anything that ANYBODY says, unless I've verified it independently first

[greengoddess]

Yea but the wives have years invested knowing him as an honest man whereas the ow met him lying from the beginning knowing he lies and lies and lies to his wife.

[OWoman]

Yea but the wives have years invested knowing him as an honest man whereas the ow met him lying from the beginning knowing he lies and lies and lies to his wife.

 

Ah - but the OW recognises that there's a structural imperative for the MM to lie to the BW (to avoid a DDay) whereas there is no structural imperative for him to lie to her, since she already knows the W exists.

[donnamaybe]

Ah - but the OW recognises that there's a structural imperative for the MM to lie to the BW (to avoid a DDay) whereas there is no structural imperative for him to lie to her, since she already knows the W exists.

 

But of course there's a reason to lie! To keep the OW at his beck and call! I knew there are some who would, but VERY few women would hang around if a guy said, "Yeah, baby. I'm married, and I NEVER intend to change that. You'll forever be my extra variety sex partner." MOST - please note I said most - people think their MM/MW intends to eventually leave the M for them.

[donnamaybe]

I'd agree with this. And I would guess OW's in it for fun wouldn't care if the MM lied to them, since there's no expectation of more.

 

Well, for an OW/OM who doesn't want an exclusive relationship, I would agree there would be no reason for an MM/MW to lie to them. However, at least from what I read on LS, this type of A is rarely the case. Therefore, I would say in most instances the MM/MW is lying to both the BS and the AP.

[tiffy123]

Nobody deserves being cheated!! Lies or no lies, betrayal is an offense. Flirting or dating a married man is already an offense, how much more getting into a relationship?

 

 

I have seen singles having an illicit relationship and it's horrible how a family is torn apart because of it.

[OWoman]

I would guess OW's in it for fun wouldn't care if the MM lied to them, since there's no expectation of more.

 

OTC - Honesty has always been a bottom line issue for me. If a MM had ever lied to me, he'd have been dumped faster than he'd have known.

 

Never needed to, though. They had no need to lie to me - I wasn't their BW - and none of them ever did.

[OWoman]

Flirting or dating a married man is already an offense, how much more getting into a relationship?

 

Really? I've never seen a law against this. I've heard that some Arab states and some US states have some pretty prehistoric laws on stuff like not having sex with someone who's married to someone else, but most of the world is a lot more modern on such issues.

 

I'd be interested to see which countries have laws against flirting or dating a MP... I'd guess they'd be hectic religious countries, where freedoms in general are pretty curtailed.

[MizzBlue72]

So why is it that the ow believe everything the mm says?

 

This is interesting. MM told me day one that he would not lie to me. he told me that 'I may not LIKE what he has to say, but he will not lie'.

Gotta tell you - maybe I am a sucker, but he hasn't lied to my knowledge.

 

I asked him early on if he loved me- and he told me no. Killed me - broke my heart. I cried for two weeks straight. I was a mess. If I didn't want the trush - then I should never have asked.

 

He is now here, in the same state that I live. He is D his W. This is not because of us.

 

He also told me that all I would have had to do was ask for him to be here with me - and he would hae left everything - I never would have. I could never have done it.

 

Ok - so - funny thing? When I want an HONEST opnion? I ask him. He doesn't kiss my ass. At ALL. We love each other - but I can not walk on him - and he does not blow smoke to me either.

[Lauriebell82]

This is a spin off of the text received from BS.

Everyone talks about the OW telling the truth.

What about the MM or MW telling the truth??

It's OK for them to continue to lie, but the OM/OW should be the bigger person?

 

 

I don't think it's okay for anyone to lie...but I think both parties lie. The MM/MW lies to pretty much everyone and the OM/OW lies to themselves that there their AP will leave their M. It's a viscous cycle.