bananaboat11 Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Yeah, I was looking on FB. She never shared her profile, but RANDOMLY.. she's sharing a single photo album with the NEW boyfriend she jumped into in January I take it. she never got back with her ex. She's not vegan anymore.. which is interesting... but it's nice to see... he's just an artist (which isn't a bad thing), but she comes from money... he doesn't. He's shorter... fatter... I don't know how he compares sexually, but the sex was the one thing my ex complimented me on after she said some HARSH **** over text and facebook (when she dumped me)... INTERESTING. Still... I do not expect her to contact me again. She looks good, but I'm not missing her the way I used to. Link to post Share on other sites
Fouts Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Good to hear your moving on, memories fade and someone better will replace the ex. I'd have to say that it would be natural to feel somewhat good about an ex downgrading appearance wise, anyone saying different is just showing false bravado. But in the end it's all about the priorities one has in a relationship. The new s/o is providing something the old did not, be it sex, money, rock 'n roll or just someone that they feel comfortable around and can have a good conversation with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Share Posted March 23, 2010 It's interesting though... Unblocked me from FB 2 months ago. Began posting on my friend's FB walls. Now sharing a single photo album of her new beau. (If they work, good for them! Clearly she's not my type.. it was just a sexual relationship...) anyhow... although closure comes from within.. I just got my FINAL closure and I feel even better Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Share Posted March 23, 2010 Good to hear your moving on, memories fade and someone better will replace the ex. I'd have to say that it would be natural to feel somewhat good about an ex downgrading appearance wise, anyone saying different is just showing false bravado. But in the end it's all about the priorities one has in a relationship. The new s/o is providing something the old did not, be it sex, money, rock 'n roll or just someone that they feel comfortable around and can have a good conversation with. i think it's personality. Nicole (my ex) and I had a VERY physical relationship... 4.5 months fo nothing but sex, sex, sex... she tried to be 'educated'... I'm an academic... trying to be something she wasn't. She seems to finallybe herself... artsy type... party girl... Clearly not me, but if he can give her that.. good for her. and NO way am I breaking no contact now. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 he's just an artist (which isn't a bad thing), Then why do you say "just?" (Good) artists are awesome. I'd much rather date an artist than some bloke who makes bank but is boring as crap. Also, coming from money means nothing. Again I'd rather be with somebody who earns his own living rather than leaching off his parents. All of the traits you listed are superficial. For all you know she actually upgraded. For one thing, maybe he's less vapid than you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Fouts Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Sex is the easy part in a relationship, most couples that are attracted to each other can learn to be good lovers. Personality traits never change. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Share Posted March 23, 2010 Then why do you say "just?" (Good) artists are awesome. I'd much rather date an artist than some bloke who makes bank but is boring as crap. Also, coming from money means nothing. Again I'd rather be with somebody who earns his own living rather than leaching off his parents. All of the traits you listed are superficial. For all you know she actually upgraded. For one thing, maybe he's less vapid than you are. She has ALWAYS lived the lavish, lustful, opulent lifestyle... JUST an artist is not her way. I am a DJ... I don't lead a boring life... but through academia.. a lot of my time is consumed with work... so the when the nightlife begins... oh hell yeah. Anyhow... just got offered a gig for 1000+ people.. club type atmosphere... if you're in the new england region... you should come! but thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Rearden Metal Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 She has ALWAYS lived the lavish, lustful, opulent lifestyle... JUST an artist is not her way. I am a DJ... I don't lead a boring life... but through academia.. a lot of my time is consumed with work... so the when the nightlife begins... oh hell yeah. Anyhow... just got offered a gig for 1000+ people.. club type atmosphere... if you're in the new england region... you should come! but thanks! Whoooah whoah WAIT, where are you? I'm south of Boston 45 mins or so. I wanna come! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Share Posted March 23, 2010 Whoooah whoah WAIT, where are you? I'm south of Boston 45 mins or so. I wanna come! Pm me And ill hit you up with details later. It isn't til may Link to post Share on other sites
Rearden Metal Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 No idea how to PM. Do I have to enable it? Sorry to hijack. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 No idea how to PM. Do I have to enable it? Sorry to hijack. You haven't gotten the privilege to PM yet, Rearden. Maybe in a month or so. Link to post Share on other sites
Rearden Metal Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 You haven't gotten the privilege to PM yet, Rearden. Maybe in a month or so. Fair enough... Thanks. On topic: Three cheers for our exes dating shorter, fatter trolls!!! Huzzah! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Seriously, Rob...? We're still on this...? I fully intend to slap the crap out of you when I'm up there this weekend...I will bring two boat paddles when the first one breaks... And shadowplay makes a good point...you don't know this new guy...he could be better, he could be worse...but in the end, it doesn't matter who he is, because ultimately you will have moved on and should not care what she's doing...but if this is what it takes for you to take those final steps, then so be it... Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Rob, take a chill pill. I know this is YOUR way of getting over it so it's cool. I won't diss the guy though cos you just never know. Seriously, Rob...? We're still on this...? I fully intend to slap the crap out of you when I'm up there this weekend...I will bring two boat paddles when the first one breaks... Where are we going this weekend? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Share Posted March 23, 2010 I'm definitely going to bask in this moment Leia... why do I recognize you from somewhere else... Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Where are we going this weekend? Going up to the Boston area to hang out with Rob...because we're going to be hetero-life-partners... Link to post Share on other sites
thepulse27 Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Going up to the Boston area to hang out with Rob...because we're going to be hetero-life-partners... nice. Not hard to work out which is the silent one! But seriously, no. I hate that my ex downgraded. If she had upgraded it would have been a reason, and when the sting of it wore off it might give me something to aspire to. As in 'hey, obviously I just need some self improvement'. As it is you get stuck thinking 'just what the f**k is it you people want? Being halfway decent, never mind being f**king amazing, is clearly just a waste of time'. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Leia... why do I recognize you from somewhere else... I don't know .... why? Going up to the Boston area to hang out with Rob...because we're going to be hetero-life-partners... Need a bisexual girl? Have fun, guys. A good time to bond and execute some Barney moves Link to post Share on other sites
Rearden Metal Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 If any of you fu**ers are actually in Boston and want to drink and hit on girls, let me know! Link to post Share on other sites
spriggig Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Personality traits never change. This is just plain wrong. My FIL, a retired marine and cop changed from gruff and anti-social to a social butterfly a few years after he retired. The idea that personality traits exist in a vacuum and are unchanging is just plain wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 If any of you fu**ers are actually in Boston and want to drink and hit on girls, let me know! Very good. You'd better get your damn PM rights soon... Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Rearden should be getting his PM rights within the next five days. His join date was Feb. 24, so it usually takes a month and somewhere between 50 to 100 posts (can't remember the exact details), to get those rights. But he has to turn those rights on, in his user profile, so he should start checking this tomorrow and onwards. bananaboat, while I can see where you're coming from, I'm the polar opposite of you. When an ex downgrades, where the downgrade is internal, such as morals, values, etc., it disgusts me. If it's a superficial downgrade or upgrade, I don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
bluz73 Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 I just saw sum pics of my ex and his new 18 yr old gf...haha all i can say is downgraded from a classy sexy hot blonde to a drunkin foolish teen. Im not saying looks is everything but this girl is bigger than me short dark hair and facial piercings and partys alot..Me on the otherhand Im reserved . I have long blonde hair which he begged me not to cut.My ex is quiet and reserved. Here he stood in the background of these pics all alone with a beer can in hand not lookin too happy..well i hope he is happy with his new social life..(he didnt have one before he was a homebody) maybe now trying to be a teen again. Most of these people in the pic are atleast 10 yrs younger than him and I cant wait for spring break pics when he really feels comfy in that croowd..I am happy today that I AM A BOMBSHELL NO DOUBT!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 Humm... how do you know he's not a great lover... he could be intellectually a lot more challenging than you. Who says she's downgrading? YOU... do you honestly think she cares what you think... Move on.. stop obsessing about her.. she obviously has moved on.. and it p*sses you off... Link to post Share on other sites
bluz73 Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 Ok he NOT she is my ex a guy get it straight! Um yes HE was a great lover and you dont know whats goin on in my mind so dont throw accusations at me thanks! Of coursed Im angry he moved on but from what i hear he isnt happy and BTW its not your concern thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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