Ilovecake Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 anyone else with me on this? I despiae attending weddings and usually can't wait to get the heck out of there. I was invited to a very new friend's wedding this summer. I do not know anyone that will be there and I'm not allowed to bring a guest. I'm hoping to get extremely ill that weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 anyone else with me on this? I despiae attending weddings and usually can't wait to get the heck out of there. I was invited to a very new friend's wedding this summer. I do not know anyone that will be there and I'm not allowed to bring a guest. I'm hoping to get extremely ill that weekend. Weddings are expensive I have to say..we are forking out major bucks for ours and we aren't even paying for most of it!!! That being said, it's your right to hate weddings. I would ask your friend if he/she could introduce you to some people who will be there prior to the wedding and have you sit with them there. I have to say though, my fiance was the best man at a wedding where I knew absolutely nobody. He had to sit at the head table and he was the only person I knew there. The bride and groom sat me next to some very sweet people who were very open to talking to me and not making me feel ackward or alone. Talk to your friend, tell her you understand that you can't bring a guest because of cost but would like to be seating with other single people or outgoing people who will be willing to talk to you. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Weddings are places where everyone is generally open to meeting everyone else...just be friendly and you'll be amazed at how many new people you meet...I personally love weddings because they're usually a lot of fun for me, whether I go alone or with someone... But it is what you make of it... Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I dont know how you can hate weddings unless you are just in general adverse to large social gatherings. A solo guest could be seated with other solo guests. Even when other "solo" guests have been accompanied by a date they dug up (not a SO) they are solo in life. A solo guest could be seated with a couple who are professionally connected in the same field as the solo person. Etc Etc. It is the hosts responsibility to ensure that unaccompanied guests are seated well to be sure they have a great time. As a solo guest you might meet someone who can connect you professionally. You might meet potential dates, even if its the son of someone you were seated with who just graduated from med school and hasnt had time to date. Traditionally, a wedding was/should be a great place to meet other single people in a friendly atmosphere. The "recently divorced" table is always the most fun. If all else fails, hit the bar after dinner then thank the couple and leave : "Congrats. Gotta Run. By the way , your Aunt Mable was fascinating until she fell asleep. Thanks" Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I love weddings!! I do think it's rude of the bride & groom to not invite you + a guest if they KNOW that you won't know anyone else. I think that just sets you up to be bored & uncomfortable if you're not a naturally social/outgoing person. (Which I'm not, so I'd be horribly uncomfortable in your situation.) Hope for some nice people and an open bar. Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 As long as there's an open bar I'm happy. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I know!!!! I cannot imagine a better invitation than one with an open bar where I dont know anyone.And no one knows me. Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 And no one knows me. This is key. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I usually won't attend a wedding, w/o an open bar!! Unless it's close family. I do sometimes get roped into being a "Groomsman", and have been "best Man", at a couple, but by and large, I avoid them like an IED. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 As long as there's an open bar I'm happy. + And no one knows me. = By the end of the reception, somehow everyone knows me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovecake Posted March 23, 2010 Author Share Posted March 23, 2010 Weddings just don't feel like a party to me it's like going to someone else’s family dinner. The food always sucks, you're usually stuck talking to some old aunt who barely speaks English and smells like moth balls. Truthfully not counting my mother who’s been married a few times, I’ve only been to three weddings and all I wanted to do was go home and get out of the horribly uncomfortable clothes. The open bar is no incentive since I’m not a big drinker. I do not believe the wedding I'm going to has an open bar anyways. Wow I really didn't think it was that unusual to dislike going to weddings. Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 If the experience is really that bad for you, why don't you just politely decline? I understand it's a good friend, but instead of RSVPing yes and then hoping you get sick that weekend so you can avoid it, why don't you just send your congratulations and regrets that you can't go? Or say that you can only make it to the ceremony but not the reception? Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 anyone else with me on this? I despiae attending weddings and usually can't wait to get the heck out of there. I was invited to a very new friend's wedding this summer. I do not know anyone that will be there and I'm not allowed to bring a guest. I'm hoping to get extremely ill that weekend. Lol, you know what I'm a big romantic at heart and I love all that is involved in planning a wedding, but I actually hate going to them. The only thing I like about attending a wedding is seeing the bride's dress and eating the wedding cake. Other than that I actually hate going to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 The reason I never go to weddings is because they represent the one goal I will likely never attain. I may get rich, famous, and wise... but no woman will ever call me husband. I once wanted to be happily married... but then somehow I ended up being born on the wrong planet. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 I have been a bridesmaid 7 times- and a bride once. I am at that age where I am now attending some of my friends second weddings! I don't mind weddings- but I enjoy being social with people. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Lol, you know what I'm a big romantic at heart and I love all that is involved in planning a wedding, but I actually hate going to them. The only thing I like about attending a wedding is seeing the bride's dress and eating the wedding cake. Other than that I actually hate going to them. Same here!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Stung Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 I'm with you, OP. I attend weddings out of obligation, not because I think I'm going to have a good time. I'm happy for the couple and honored to be part of the event if I am in the wedding party, I have even helped plan beautiful formal weddings for my closest friends, but the only wedding I ever really enjoyed being at was my own...and mine was an extremely intimate, casual, un-wedding-y wedding. As you said, they usually feel like somebody else's formal family dinner (or worse-- tacky 2nd prom), almost always slightly awkward and kind of boring, usually with mediocre entertainment at best, although I have been to some weddings with really good food and even good cake. I have also fidgeted through some loooooong ceremonies so I made sure mine was simple, heartfelt, had some gravitas but only took about five minutes from start to finish. The best part for me is generally seeing my friends beam with happiness, getting some free wine out of the deal, and then getting to call it a night. If it's not a wedding of an extremely close friend or relative, I will usually wiggle out of it and send a congratulatory note and gift. All that being said, I'm attending a wedding this winter that I'm actually looking forward to. It's going to be in Vegas and the bride is a good friend and a wild, creative, and original personality, so I have faith that the wedding will be unique but a lot of fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovecake Posted March 24, 2010 Author Share Posted March 24, 2010 I will go because I do want to celebrate the union of two very cool people. They have been there for me beyond the call of frindship duty but an exit strategy will be devised. I'm an introvert, not to be confused with being shy which I'm not. I just don't get hiped up about large gatherings. I always prefer just a few close friends around and I do not like to get dressed up. I do however LOOOOOVE CAKE. Link to post Share on other sites
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