bannister Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Okay. So, I've been dating this guy for about a year, blah blah blah, I won't bore you with our extended history together. And everything has been going fine... despite me not feeling very secure in the relationship. I personally have been hurt before and he has the kind of wandering eye an epileptic would envy. However, lately, things have been getting progressively worse. He's been spending a lot of time looking for old friends from highschool lately, specifically his ex girlfriend. Said ex girlfriend lives across two state borders, but that hasn't really been stopping me from feeling uneasy about her. One night after listening to him rhapsodise about her for damn near an hour, I picked up his phone (out of pure boredom) and went through the texts... the background on his phone was her. Strike one, but I ignored it and looked in his texts. Two or three weeks' worth. Well, they exchanged pictures... nothing dirty, but he did gush some more, calling her 'gorgeous' and 'beautiful'. She replied 'Thanks, sweetie.' So, this would result in a nice big argument between myself and him. He denied anything and everything, then went on to say that he took her virginity and they had broken up but still remained good friends, and that she meant a lot to him, and that they hadn't seen each other in ten years. Blah blah blah. Oh, yeah, and the 'gorgeous' part? His explanation was that he flirts with ALL of his female friends. At which point he decides the explanation is sufficient and expects me to shut up about everything. Since I have no backbone, I did, but I'm still absolutely fuming. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Uh, yeah, my advice is for you to dump this loser. He has a 'wandering eye,' keeps a picture of his ex as the background on his phone, texts her about how beautiful she is (after actively searching her out), and admits that he flirts with all of his female friends? My guess is that he does a lot more than just "flirting" with some of these women, or at the very least he would if they were willing. Grow a freaking backbone and get rid of this jerk!!! He is NEVER going to change. I would be shocked if he hasn't physically cheated on you yet. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Any guy that keeps his ex gf as the background on his phone when he is dating you, isn't someone you should be wasting your time on. How much more evidence do you need? And he actually gushes about her infront of you? I agree that you need to develop a backbone and simply walk away. I wouldn't even give him any explanation- if he can't understand why having his first love as his wallpaper on his phone wouldn't send most girls out the door... You have two choices- stick around and allow him to walk all over you, or show him you have self respect and walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
JustLooking123 Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 Are you masochistic? Wait, don't respond to that; the answer is obvious. Dump him or continue to deal with his cheating, lying BS. Pretty simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovehim Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 WOW!! Are you SERIUOSLY undecisive about what to do?? I would have broken up with him in a heartbeat. You deserve way more respect than that. If a man did ANY of those things to me, I would be done with him. My happiness comes first. Link to post Share on other sites
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