OWoman Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 A: All adulterers are liars. B: All liars are adulterers. Those are different statements. A seems obvious to me. B is not necessarily true. Which was exactly my point! You'd said: His sex life could be amazing for all you know' date=' remember MM in affairs are liars [b']that is why he is with you![/b] ie, he's only with you (that is, in an A) because he is a liar. Thus, being a liar makes him "cheat".... a non-sequitur, I'd say. Link to post Share on other sites
Wileygirl Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 This is interesting. I agree with Owl and FA. When you're in a RELATIONSHIP it's only natural to want to share your life with another, no matter what the situation may be. I've been very hesitant to post about my relationship, as it is truly complicated and would seem absolutely absurd to anyone outside of it. I am 5 years into an EMR with an amazing MM. I'm going to leave a lot of the details out, so bear with me. After losing his job, and problems with my own home that could not be fixed, he built me an apartment attached to his house. And I moved in about a year and a half ago. W knows I am his best friend and is accepting of that. She doesn't not "know" the intimate side of the relationship, although both MM and I know she's fully aware. We keep it veiled and as hipocritcal as it sounds, respectful. However, the kids, young adults still at home, are aware of our friendship and intimacy, and after getting to know me, understand and accept the relationship. W is also deteriorating mentally (genetic issue) which adds somewhat to the understanding. The reason for this explanation...this family all shares their life with me and they are all excited to do so, good or bad. MM tells me all the time that he loves be able to share all of himself with me. When I think you are truly in love with someone, that's what you do. Especially when there are no expectations. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I may be over analyzing, but I'm (respectfully) not so much interested in Lizzie's reaction to being shown the pics, as I am interested in what she think's the MM's reasons for showing them are. My MW has her own APPT. in Dallas, and she has always been at great pains to make sure that there is nothing of her H or his family in it. No pictures, no clothing, no "gifts", nothing. There are pictures of HER family, and pics and things of us, but nothing about the H. She also has made sure that I know that H isn't allowed to go there, while I have a key, and that she paid for it from her own money. I'm guessing that in all affairs there is a certain amount of "overlap", between the marriage and the A. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Thanks to everyone on this thread, who tried to help. I've gotten the info I need. Really interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
SouthernSunshine Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 My former BF, (also MM) from my previous A showed me a pic of his W the first day we met up for sex. I thought it was strange how he said, "Please don't laugh" just before he showed me her picture. That wasn't very nice.. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueeyedJonesy Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 My former BF, (also MM) from my previous A showed me a pic of his W the first day we met up for sex. I thought it was strange how he said, "Please don't laugh" just before he showed me her picture. That wasn't very nice.. I think its strange that you've mentioned this more than once.. sounds like an ego feed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 My former BF, (also MM) from my previous A showed me a pic of his W the first day we met up for sex. I thought it was strange how he said, "Please don't laugh" just before he showed me her picture. That wasn't very nice.. No it wasn't... My MMs (all of them) are very respectful of their Ws... he didn't say one word about her.. but he commented on his kids.. Link to post Share on other sites
SavannahSmiles Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 No it wasn't... My MMs (all of them) are very respectful of their Ws... he didn't say one word about her.. but he commented on his kids.. I know I'm new here but something doesn't sound right about a MM being very respectful of their Ws. Respectful in one way maybe, but not another. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Respectful, while cheating on them?....um, no. I call bull**** on that one. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 (edited) No it wasn't... My MMs (all of them) are very respectful of their Ws... he didn't say one word about her.. but he commented on his kids.. It was just as nice as you when you say that a MM's BW looks like a horse or is "chubby" and isn't a good match for her H. I know you are making the point that you are better looking than these BW, but it really isn't very nice is it? And BTW, how is a MM being respectful to his wife when he is showing a woman, that he is having sex with, a picture of her and their kids? You and I have very different definitions of respect. But I do respect your right to your opinion. As far as who is better looking, I find that the most beautiful and sexy women are the ones who never comment on their own beauty or sexuality. They just are. Edited April 13, 2010 by herenow Link to post Share on other sites
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