Law8 Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 I know girls like confidence in guys and stuff and I'm working on it, I'm just wondering what are some good ways to show you have confidence. I'm a bit shy on the inside, but I'm also a really good actor and I can overcome my shyness, so what do I do to show I have confidence when I'm around girls? Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 I know girls like confidence in guys and stuff and I'm working on it, I'm just wondering what are some good ways to show you have confidence. I'm a bit shy on the inside, but I'm also a really good actor and I can overcome my shyness, so what do I do to show I have confidence when I'm around girls? I think you might be a little confused here...to me, confidence isn't a behavior that you exhibit...it's an attitude that is reflected by everything you do and say...an attitude that you are comfortable with yourself and that you believe you are a great person... You don't act confident, you are confident...once that happens, you don't need to worry about acting a part around girls, since your confidence will naturally be reflected in your behavior...that being said, work on becoming as happy with yourself in as many aspects of your life as you can (I know we all can't be perfect)...the rest will fall neatly in place... Link to post Share on other sites
ledzepp Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 If you want to come across as confident, you have to be positive, and just act like yourself. Be yourself is a big cliche I know, but I used try too hard, try to be "cool" in front of women, and the second I just let loose and let the "me" come out dorky or not it's made my interactions a lot better. Just be nice/social, let loose about holding up an "image" that lots of other guys do, and think positive. If you begin loving yourself you'll become confident. Hope that helps. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 I think you might be a little confused here...to me, confidence isn't a behavior that you exhibit...it's an attitude that is reflected by everything you do and say...an attitude that you are comfortable with yourself and that you believe you are a great person... You don't act confident, you are confident...once that happens, you don't need to worry about acting a part around girls, since your confidence will naturally be reflected in your behavior...that being said, work on becoming as happy with yourself in as many aspects of your life as you can (I know we all can't be perfect)...the rest will fall neatly in place... Courage is also different than confidence. Its possible to have alot of courage and no confidence and vice versa. Confidence is demonstrated in the aura of one's personality; courage is demonstrated in one's actions. Women put a premium on a man's confidence whereas we guys put a premium on our own sexes courage. Ever meet a kinda quiet, shy guy whose done something courageous or an assertive guy afraid to be bold? Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 I think men have been way oversold on this confidence thing. Sure, having confidence is great. But it can't get you everything you want, and no one can be confident all the time. Anyone who struts around acting eternally confident is just posturing. Frankly, this is something women would do well to learn. Link to post Share on other sites
saltnpepper Posted March 29, 2010 Share Posted March 29, 2010 The best way to show non-confidence is to attempt to "act" confident. I suggesting simply being yourself. Anything else is sort of lying anyway. I don't believe confidence comes in a day or week. Often even the most confidently acting folks continuously bypass doubts and uncertainties. They evaluate, choose, and commit. That's all it takes. Link to post Share on other sites
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