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Basically, I am a 22 y/o male and have never really had a serious relationship mainly because I see through people. Ie I know if I could ever be emotionally attracted to them. It sounds strange but it's true. In fact I tried creating something serious with several girls with which I didn't feel connected to in the first place. And it didn't work out.

The thing is I do want to have a real relationship and i feel that i need it, however I am unsure whether to take what there is or try to hold my self off for now, for something that I absolutely want.

 

Thank you people in advance.

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Would you date somebody for the sake of dating to be committed?

 

No Never

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Basically, I am a 22 y/o male and have never really had a serious relationship mainly because I see through people. Ie I know if I could ever be emotionally attracted to them. It sounds strange but it's true. In fact I tried creating something serious with several girls with which I didn't feel connected to in the first place. And it didn't work out.

The thing is I do want to have a real relationship and i feel that i need it, however I am unsure whether to take what there is or try to hold my self off for now, for something that I absolutely want.

 

Thank you people in advance.

 

Don't get into a committed relationship just to have one. It will come to you sooner or later you will know when it happens. Learn to be happy by your self first taking dates as they come. It may take years for the right person to come along. ie. I did not find mis "right" until about 2.5 years ago and I am now 40. I had relationships up to that point but they were nothing worth keeping..... One good thing with being unattached (at least for me) was I had more time and energy to put into things I wanted to do I owed my own home by the time I was 22 and done some traveling......

 

And now that I have settled down I am ready to do MORE only this time with my gf / soon to be wife.

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I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm a 25 r old girl, and I was going out with a guy for about 4 months. I felt it was going no-where. He seemed into me, but I just didn't really wanna be with him, so I did the mature thing and I ended it. Previous to him, the last guy was a 3.5 year relationship.

Anyway, three weeks have passed since the 4 month guy and all of a sudden, I find myself terribly lonely, terribly bored and wanting a relationship. I'm starting to doubt that I made the right decision. There is one guy who I reeeeeeeeally like, but he has a girlfriend. I just feel like crap.

I think people are right when they say there's no point in being in a relationship unless you wanna be. But still, when I'm with someone I love life is in multicolour high-definition. Sunny days are beautiful, a cup of tea is wonderfully relaxing, and a film in the cinema is exciting to go see. When I'm alone and I have no one to love, life is in black and white. Sunny days are irritating cos I've nthing to do n no where to go, everything is just bland and boring and sad. I've been away on outings with my friends and all, but I have this sadness inside me the whole time.

I need a partner. :(

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