nicka Posted March 29, 2010 Share Posted March 29, 2010 Brief history: I have ED, did nothing, wife had an EA ( I think it was PA), she hasn't touched me in 11 months. I tried in Nov but she pulled away. I am in counselling, we have been, but it ended in same argument - that I 'could never get an erection' from her. I don't trust her. Married 2 years 1 4 yr old girl. We get on but not physical. Seperate beds. Kiss goodbye in morning only. Will the attraction come back ? I know I should be positive and use the 180 but it's hard when the woman you love says she is not attracted to you and never has been and that as a couple you are a 'mistake'. Any ideas ? Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted March 29, 2010 Share Posted March 29, 2010 hello, may i ask how long the ED has been for? does it coinside with her EA/PA? its great you are trying to sort it as if will influence your whole life wether with her or not. In my experiance and its only mine, my ex withdrew sexualy but im not sure if it was because he had prem ejaculation and was embarrassed or because he didnt fancy me or even just had no sex drive. He had affaires too and therefore i dont know if they had an impact either. All I know is how it hurt me. Being found not sexually desireable can have such an impact on you inner happiness and self esteam. you need try to keep the communication going as you have a child to think about. BOTH of you. You both owe it to your child to do you utmost to get back on track. remind her of this. keep posting x Link to post Share on other sites
Author nicka Posted March 30, 2010 Author Share Posted March 30, 2010 thanks, we were friends who became lovers, she says now that we were friends forced the sex, that it was wrong from the start, she regrets being with me or getting together and apart from our 4 yr old daughter i have cheated her out of 3 years of her life. The ED has been going on since the beginning if you ask her but i think it was good and bad. Everything is fine except no intimacy, no touching, nothing really. This guy she met made her 'feel special' and they had a 'sexual chemistry that we've never had'. I don't know what to do. I want to leave because it is all too much but i stay. Yesterday we went out for a walk with a friend and there was the guy, just standing there, outside next doors house and he turned and stared at me without saying anything and then turned away as if waiting for someone. I asked her why he was there and she says that she hasn't seen him in a year and didn't know. Wierd. Thanks for reading Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 What is ED? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 What is ED? Erectile Dysfunction Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 You need to see a doctor about the ED and you need to file D. She's worthless to you now because of her cheating but also because she lacks understanding and compassion. Don't even try to compete with her new fella, it's a no win situation. Let those 2 losers be together and you go live life for you and your daughter. Link to post Share on other sites
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