harmony Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 i want to be supportive of my boyfriend but i find it very hard to do. do you think if there is build up anger or hurts from over the course of the relationship but none now that that could have an impact on it? i want to be supportive of him when he does things or when he asks me for my help, or when he laughs i want to laugh with him, etc. instead i find myself holding back and hearing myself saying that why should i help him after the way he has treated me in the past? i know this is a horrible grounds for a relationship but i seem so unable to stop myself and when i stop and hear my words it is already too late becuse the seeds of thoughts have already been planted in my head. i feel that he is going to be better off without me because i seem to just drag him down. like this morning he tells me that i never smile in the mornings, and i thougth how ironic after months and months of watching you grouse around in the mornings and zap my happiness out of me each time, you have a lot of nerve to say you want me to smile in the mornings now! i felt slapped in the face because i am such a morning person and i always did smile in the mornings, i was always happy and in a good mood in the morning till he got up then forget it after that. so now i feel stuck. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 Perhaps you should go have a chat with a counsellor who could help you get your perspective back. Link to post Share on other sites
spencer Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 Sounds like he is a negative person. (WARNING:..... projecting from personal experience) Is he sucking all the positive energy from you and not giving any back? Link to post Share on other sites
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