monkeymaid Posted March 31, 2010 Share Posted March 31, 2010 lmao!!! this thread has turned into a comedy!! as for gc, i agree. but then hes slapped me around as well ....get your fun but be upfront about it. ...theres nothing wrong with a little sump'n as long as shes well aware that thats it. you sound in good place, and you know what to do. ..so do it already! than tell us the story! even if you end up hurting more after this spring break, just come back here, and well help sort out the lessons. hell, ive learned more reading about everyone else than what ive written!! so do it up, and we can all learn! itll be a party! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rearden Metal Posted April 1, 2010 Author Share Posted April 1, 2010 UPDATE: Ex texted me two hours ago: "Do you need some more product?" (she means facewash, moisturizer and exfoliant. Yeah, I take care of my good looks Seriously. What. The. F@ck? I'm staying quiet. I don't know what to expect, whether she'll disappear or continue with this ridiculous quasi-probing contact. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 UPDATE: Ex texted me two hours ago: "Do you need some more product?" (she means facewash, moisturizer and exfoliant. Yeah, I take care of my good looks Seriously. What. The. F@ck? I'm staying quiet. I don't know what to expect, whether she'll disappear or continue with this ridiculous quasi-probing contact. She will continue. do yourself a favor and block her # Link to post Share on other sites
justaguy123 Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 UPDATE: Ex texted me two hours ago: "Do you need some more product?" (she means facewash, moisturizer and exfoliant. Yeah, I take care of my good looks Seriously. What. The. F@ck? I'm staying quiet. I don't know what to expect, whether she'll disappear or continue with this ridiculous quasi-probing contact. Good stay quiet. Only when she truly comes back on her knee's should you even consider talking to her. Even then maybe not. All these little crumbs are just to make her feel better. (to be honest Im a little jealous though, my ex hasn't contacted me in a month and a half) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rearden Metal Posted April 1, 2010 Author Share Posted April 1, 2010 Good stay quiet. Only when she truly comes back on her knee's should you even consider talking to her. Even then maybe not. All these little crumbs are just to make her feel better. (to be honest Im a little jealous though, my ex hasn't contacted me in a month and a half) Don't be jealous. It's very frustrating knowing she just wants me to stroke her ego, and doesn't want to have a meaningful conversation with me. We literally haven't had one of those in over 3 months. It's just a ginormous tease. I am ignoring this bullskitty. Link to post Share on other sites
justaguy123 Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 Yeah your right, but her needing you to stroke her ego means she isn't doing so hot. At least that's a plus to her trying to feed you crumbs. Pity her for her weakness is what I'm saying. Link to post Share on other sites
monkeymaid Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 metal, right now, you are my idol! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rearden Metal Posted April 1, 2010 Author Share Posted April 1, 2010 Yeah your right, but her needing you to stroke her ego means she isn't doing so hot. At least that's a plus to her trying to feed you crumbs. Pity her for her weakness is what I'm saying. It's not a plus. I would prefer her to be happy and healthy, whether single or attached. And then, if she wants to contact me, I'd like it to be on healthy terms. Her not doing hot means we've gotten nowhere. Link to post Share on other sites
justaguy123 Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 It's not a plus. I would prefer her to be happy and healthy, whether single or attached. And then, if she wants to contact me, I'd like it to be on healthy terms. Her not doing hot means we've gotten nowhere. You're right again. I'm in the anger stage right now so I guess I was just projecting onto your situation. Sorry bout that. Be strong man and don't give into those crumbs. Link to post Share on other sites
paperchase Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 Don't be jealous. It's very frustrating knowing she just wants me to stroke her ego, and doesn't want to have a meaningful conversation with me. We literally haven't had one of those in over 3 months. It's just a ginormous tease. I am ignoring this bullskitty. Crumbs cut both ways. If you truly want to reconcile, crumbs are a good initial sign provided they come soon after NC and they increase with regularity and size. Many people get complete silence from their ex which lets them know things are truly over. I posted each crumb I was tossed a year or so ago in a very long thread that for some reason has been deleted. But they started like yours and escalated to outright begging for contact until one day she literally came banging on my door (well, actually she showed up and called...anyway). Now if you truly want her to move on, then crumbs are bad. In my case, however, getting crumbs made NC easier. I would look forward to receiving them each day as a sign that I was not pining alone and to the extent they were meaningless, they strengthened my resolve. Crumbs were stroking my ego in a sense the same way you contacting your ex would stroke hers. So just be strong and pay attention to the messages without reading too much into them. The next step my be crumbs that express how she feels from time to time. Stuff like "I love you", "I miss you so much", "I'm miserable without you". Things that are all about HER! None of that means anything with respect to reconciling. You want something that apologizes for what she did and acknowledges she made a mistake. Even then, you have to be guarded against the very real possibility that she is just saying this to manipulate you into breaking the silence. But I'm sure you know all this. Link to post Share on other sites
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