Ilovecake Posted April 1, 2010 Share Posted April 1, 2010 AoU 30 days is great that’s the hardest time for NC because they’re still fresh in your mind. Just wait in 3 months you're going to be saying "I can't believe how fast 3 months went by". I promise you the longer you go NC the easier it will get. Whenever you have an incredible urge to talk to your ex just tell yourself it's just an urge, your brain is just playing tricks. Talking to your ex is something you can live without. Find stuff to help you pass the time. Since my breakup I've become pretty antisocial but I've been catching up on reading and watching movies and doing stuff around the house. Every time I had that strong urge to talk to him or Google him I would clean the bathroom. I hate cleaning the bathroom but now I associate one with the other and don’t really want to do either. Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted April 2, 2010 Share Posted April 2, 2010 10 months, well apart from bumping into each other in november. catch up chat and all that for a few minutes. i've no intention to contact my ex even though it seems the easiest thing to do. NC was for me to move on and i thought if it is to work out then it would have to come from her. if i break NC i know i will be in a mess and nothing good will come of it. she knows how to get hold of me if she wanted to. i just dont want to put my life on hold and want to move on asap. Also now my head is a little clearer i would have a lot to get of my chest to her! the tempation to text or email is so strong but i am stronger! Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted April 2, 2010 Share Posted April 2, 2010 5 months............. Link to post Share on other sites
ingridh Posted April 2, 2010 Share Posted April 2, 2010 In fact that's it. It's the fact that HE dumped ME. I guess I'm just angry and ex-bashing now, but he was a totally different and less confident person when I met him. Now it's like I changed him, gave him loads of confidence in himself, and he went off running... ... running to chase after (successfully) a much younger girl way out of his league. We could have well been dating and dumped by the same guy Link to post Share on other sites
Melrapuo Posted April 2, 2010 Share Posted April 2, 2010 Around a year and a half for me. Should hit 2 years by August. Put in NC myself, let her know. She wasn't too happy, but she didn't really fight it. I had to do it, or else I would've gone nuts. Great decision on my part, because I found someone 4 months later. Link to post Share on other sites
andy2009 Posted April 2, 2010 Share Posted April 2, 2010 It just reminds me of Caliguy, who always telling us to stick to NC. NC always give us win/win situation. Because (1) If your EX wanna reconcile with you, you will have power to say yes or no. (you'r winner) (2) If your ex does not back then you have healed already (you'r winner) If you dont stick to NC then it is loss/loss situation. I dont think i need to explain this ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
nomad0792 Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 4.5 months for me...with a lot of suspect contacts. Weird stuff, like butt-dials, blocked call hang-ups, and other weird things. Whatever...if it is her doing it, I will need a stronger reach than that. I'm reaching the point where I am about 50/50...still have a ways to go. I think I'm beginning to realize that the hope of her contacting me is fading and now it's just accepting it. Link to post Share on other sites
lunar_rabbit Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 It was five weeks, then I cracked...now it's back to two weeks... Link to post Share on other sites
prayingshecomesback Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 August 1st. 8 months for me. Complete NC. I still miss her, but I am doing much better because of NC. It was a big, gushing, bloody wound but now it is healed and the scar is there. Some days I pick at it, but I think in about 4 months it will be hardly noticeable My heart goes out to all of you experiencing heartbreak. I do not wish it on anybody, not even my worst enemy. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 thanks man........ Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 2 days... (ARGGHH) He contacts me all the time I need an EX-orcism Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I really haven't figured out the no contact thing... although Ive recommended it to others when the SO seemed like a total a$$ My issue is that I like him as a person he's really cool and I don't want to be rude... I don't know how to go about telling him I am going NC or if I just go NC Link to post Share on other sites
onewillburn Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I really haven't figured out the no contact thing... although Ive recommended it to others when the SO seemed like a total a$$ My issue is that I like him as a person he's really cool and I don't want to be rude... I don't know how to go about telling him I am going NC or if I just go NC If you want to tell him about NC, just briefly explain it in a short email or text. No need for a conversation about it or anything. It's up to you whether or not you tell him. It might be easier to tell him if he's constantly contacting you. If he respects you he will stop when you ask him to. Anyway, I just counted for the first time in a while and today I am 117 days NC. Link to post Share on other sites
romer Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Almost a month...when I found out about the other woman I sent him a text message telling him that I knew...haven't heard a damn thing from him. F**ker. Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My issue is that I like him as a person he's really cool and I don't want to be rude... I don't know how to go about telling him I am going NC or if I just go NC It will change when you start caring more about yourself and your feelings than you do about him and his. Link to post Share on other sites
sao2 Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 8 months no contact. Neither one of us reached out but we both consider the other the dumper which is strange. I doubt NC will be breached. We broke up 3 years ago but kept in casual contact for two more years. This last time it was either time to really try or time to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
SadKitty78 Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 7 whole days!!!!!!! Then relapse!!!! Last night after a couple of beers, I suddenly felt the urge to text the ex!!!!! SK aka Yours Truly:“so how was the trip?" Ex: “Boring as hell!" SK: "It was fun when we went together!" Ex: I miss hanging out with you! I remember all the good times". SK: "Good times? We drove each other nuts!" Ex: "But I just remember the good times. Didn't we have so much fun?" SK: "Yes, you're right, we did!" Then he asked why we broke up and I said, "honestly, don't know!" That is BS alcohol talk! I know why we broke up! We had problems! Back to square one, sigh!!!! NO CONTACT!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 It will change when you start caring more about yourself and your feelings than you do about him and his. You're right... I need to start caring more about me... I don't need to be hurt anymore 4 days NC and counting I really want to do it this time! Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 5 days NC and he called... It was Friday night of course he called I was busy.... didn't even notice, but when I did it was soooo crazy how weak I felt Here I have been feeling soo strong trying to remember to care about myself and just as I am getting good at hating him and ignoring him he calls He will call again I know it and what do I do if I hear the phone?? I know don't pick it up BUT I will get shaky and I will wonder if I am making a mistake Holy F*(K NC is hard Link to post Share on other sites
cp3_panda Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 its been 18 days of NC. Even though I had a relapse of 14 days before that because we had planned a trip (airplane ticket bought), long story -_-. After a 4 year relationship where she cheated and tried to play it off as if we broke up naturally, I feel that I have moved on. I do not think about her almost ever anymore (~once a day sometimes). I do not think of her romantically, and feel detached about what she is doing and the other guy that is still in her picture. I still get those moments sometimes where i feel a little Hhq:whelkqhwe(because i dont know how to describe it). But otherwise, I am much better. And i feel the relationship ending has allowed me to grow a lot. In a way, I love NC . Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 7 days NC and I am feeling much much stronger. I will make NC work because I am choosing to make decisions that honor me! Link to post Share on other sites
sphx26 Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 (edited) 5th Day of NC and I intend to keep it. I just got fed up of all the crap she has to put me through! Edited April 27, 2010 by sphx26 Link to post Share on other sites
lullaby Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 I started my contact rule on April 13th, we had talked over the phone and he said "yeah, we will meet again to talk things over, I'm destroyed too, and let me finish with this upcoming exam and we'll". I was devastated, so I took on the NC rule. It lasted 10 days because last Friday he called me home, and then sent me a message. I was out and he may have thought I was with some guy. Anyway, I called him on saturday and he said it was ok, that he just wanted to thank me for a letter I had sent him, and that was all. I wish I could stay strong and not break it, because he did!!!!!!! grrrrr it makes me so hundry!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
In-The-Wheat Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 19 days without contacting her... I've walked past her once or twice on the way to class (opposite sidewalks though) and actually saw her stopped at a light while jogging today (didn't even look at the car as I passed) - but I haven't done anything to initiate contact in 19 days!! Still a little rough tho. Link to post Share on other sites
deux ex machina Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 (edited) LC prior to around Thanksgiving. After the Thanksgiving-ish thing, I knew No Contact was going to have to happen, so I enacted it. NC after that, until we spoke around the turn of the year -- I did respond...so I had to restart the clock. A flurry of communication from him that I didn't respond to happened after that, I'm strict in how I personally count "what is No Contact" for myself -- so even though I did not respond I had to say, "Absolutely NO more." Blocked, and got on. That happened around Valentine's Day-ish. So, I have been incommunicado since around VDay, with no more coming! It has been about 2.5 months now. Feeling lots better lately. It is unlikely I will ever be so indecisive in putting an end to relationships again. Edited April 28, 2010 by deux ex machina Because 2.5 months, isn't 6 weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
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