juju Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 ok so i met this guy who i hit on, he sounded and acted a little gay but he got my phone number, so i was surprised. He called me and left a message saying that he has a crush on me and was thinking about me, when i called back he said he had company in town so he couldnt hang out right away. I told him to call me when he got the chance and its been about 12 days and i havent heard from him at all!! IM so confused. he sounded like he liked me and was interested but....im getting the feeling he was gay afterall. but i dont know why hed say that stuff ..what do u think>>>? do u think ill ever hear from him again? Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 This rabbit doesn't jump as high as your conclusions! Sure he might be gay. He might be bi. He might be straight. His company could be in town for two weeks. he could have lost your number. he could have met someone else. he could have moved away. he could have been hit by a truck. it could be anything! Don't sit and wait for him -- if he calls you sometime then you can decide if you want to meet up with him, but 12 days! Don't wait. Link to post Share on other sites
advicegirl Posted January 14, 2004 Share Posted January 14, 2004 That is strange. Maybe he is just confused. Sometimes they think they are ready to date and then they aren't. He could be gay, but some guys act like that and you think they are but they aren't. Hope I helped you. advicegirl Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Gay men are attracted to men. They romantically pursue men. This man was attracted to a female, and is pursuing you. While I'm very impressed with your ability to determine sexual orientation by the sound of one's voice, I don't buy that he's gay. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 wtf?? you guys are jumping to conclusions... based on what you see and what happened you assume someone is bi or gaY? wtf? eh what he did happens all the time, guys do this all the time...ehehe...hell there are tons of girls that doo this too, u didnt know? hell there are even some with manly voices... and i have a friend who has a gay voice, but he is gay? Nooo siree Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I don't think anyone who replied jumped to any conclusions, the consensus seemed to be that there was inconclusive evidence to determine his sexuality, at least that's what I read. Link to post Share on other sites
juju Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 NO its not based on what i see. i was thinking it was an option that he could be gay, lets not lie here and say that there are no signs someone is gay, it was just a possibilty, i am just wondering why he wouldnt call if he liked me like he said he did. im just bummed cuz i kinda liked what i knew of him. and i would have liked to see him again, thats all. I want to call him but if he liked me he would have called by now. I am not used to dating older guys and i dont know what the cut off is for when ur completely done calling someone? i dont think that anyone can answer that.... ya know?? do u guys usually wait weeks or is it over?? he said he wanted to see me again. SOMEONE JUST BE HONEST PLEASE? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Whatever you do, don't call him and accuse him of being gay! (har har snicker snicker) Seriously though, why not just give him a light and breezy call and ask how he's been? Link to post Share on other sites
juju Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I would like to give him a call but im scared i will bug him..I know there is nothing more annoying then someone calling you who you dont like.....thanks tho Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Maybe he's married or has an 'out of town' girlfriend who was visiting.....either way.....gay, bi, straight.....OBVIOUSLY he isn't someone you can depend on to meet what you want from a relationship. Maybe it's a good idea to dump the idea.....and meet someone esle....someone who WILL CALL and make you feel special and wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
juju Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 I've gotten that advice before, but, u know, its hard when you really like someone and cant stop thinking about him. thanks though! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 A great many people in here....including myself.....have had to walk away from relationships with people they loved with all their heart. Sometimes.....you have to smell the coffee.....take the high road.....and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
lostforwords Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 its so easy when your rejected to feel compelled to start thinking "Well maybe hes gay? that explains why he hasnt called me or got in touch with me." rejection does funny things to a person......... hunny he is not gay.... he just may very well be busy with the holidays just happening and stuff.... perhaps he actually DID lose your number.... and doesnt subscribe to caller id.... not everyone does..... its quite possible.... I know i dont.... and i get a lot of flack from people who tell me....well i tried calling you didnt you see my damn number on your phone...... UH NO I DIDNT SO BITE ME LOLOLOL relax..... he'll get in touch with you. Link to post Share on other sites
juju Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 yea i guess i do feel a little rejected, but even when he was calling me i feared he could have been gay. I really do hope he gets in touch with me eventually. or i will call him, just to say hello. Id rather know if he doesnt like me then not know at all. so i will call him, im scared...hahah but i will just do it. He was very busy with the holidays, but i just cant help but feel like he could have taken five minutes to call. oh well its worth a shot again. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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