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Mutant Debutante Established Member

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Nevermind. Not gonna fan this fire.

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Woggle Established Member

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What's wrong with you? The fact that there she chooses you without an external motivator such as needing your money is an excellent indicator that she's not in it to rip you off.

 

You canceled cooking for her on her birthday so you don't "kill off the attraction". You married this woman, why are you playing silly games like this?

 

In order to keep a woman a man has to play silly games. If I could do it all over I would have married some stepford who depended on me.

Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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In order to keep a woman a man has to play silly games. If I could do it all over I would have married some stepford who depended on me.

 

Way to throw your wife under the bus. What a betrayer. I hope she never reads this. Please take my advice and go for the sex doll. I think you'd finally be satisfied.

xxoo Established Member

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I think this site is a microcosm of society

 

Good god, no. This is not a random slice of society. People are overwhelmingly here because they have relationship issues.

 

Woggle, I know lots of people with satisfying relationships. I bet you do, too, if you open your eyes and heart to the idea.

 

In order to keep a woman a man has to play silly games.

 

Ridiculous. Nothing would make me run screaming faster than a partner who plays mind games.

xxoo Established Member

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If I could do it all over I would have married some stepford who depended on me.

 

What exactly is your wife doing wrong???

 

Woggle, the problem is you, not your wife. A different wife wouldn't fix your issues.

Pyro Established Member

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Woggle why don't you go back and acknowledge Trimmers and Blind Otters last posts?

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Woggle Established Member

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What exactly is your wife doing wrong???

 

Woggle, the problem is you, not your wife. A different wife wouldn't fix your issues.

 

Nothing yet or nothing that I know about.

 

A woman who was under my thumb would make a difference because then I would know she could not leave me. I don't believe any woman truly just loves a man so my wife must have some ulterior motive but I can't figure it out.

lordWilhelm Established Member

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You need to get off LS because it's not doing any good for you.

And you need to go to Individual Counseling. Now.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Woggle's playing the poor me over-inflated ego card.

He's acting all injured demoralised and pessimistic because - guess what?

it gets him noticed.

Like a petulant child that gets a smack, he just craves attention, and bad attention is better than no attention at all.

If i could have just one wish for my birthday, it would be to have his wife's mobile number to text her and say "Do you realise what a jerk your H is? Take a look at this thread...."

 

Then let him wiggle-woggle out of this one.

 

Woggle?

 

If you push your wife away enough to leave you, it will still be too good for you.

Just quit this now, and get some psychiatric counselling.

I think it's way past due.

No, really, I do.

I've never seen anything like this.

Professor Henry Higgins ain't got nothing on you, has he?

shadowplay Established Member

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I think this site is a microcosm of society and how often do you see women on here who actually respond to being treated well. How many women on here are in truly happy relationships with good me and don't think about leaving on a regular basis?

 

Take a look at this thread, Woggle. I know it won't make a dent, but I'm mildly curious to know how you'll rationalize it.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217870/

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Woggle Established Member

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Take a look at this thread, Woggle. I know it won't make a dent, but I'm mildly curious to know how you'll rationalize it.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217870/

 

Most of them are new relationships. I would love to know where they will be in a few years.

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Woggle Established Member

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Also I fail to realize how I abuse my wife. What exactly do I do that can be considered abuse?

shadowplay Established Member

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Why do you guys try so hard to help Woggle? I've been guilty of it before, but it's useless and draining. He's locked in an endless loop, and LS is locked in that loop with him. The same arguments and rebuttals are made over and over. It's depressing. Whenever he comes around briefly it's because he decides to, not because of what people on here have told him. I get the sense he barely hears anything that we write. He's trapped in this bubble and the only comment that occasionally pierces through is one that either affirms his negative beliefs or is an easy target for them.

 

I've noticed on message boards in general that people like this draw the biggest responses? Why is that? It's like we're all addicted to trying to change somebody who's unchangeable. Is it the same drive that keeps people in drama-filled relationships, trying to change a "project" SO?

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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If I could do it all over I would have married some stepford who depended on me.

 

Woggle, I sure feel sorry for your wife. Does she know that you regret having married her? Since you are so unhappy and dissatisfied with the traits of the woman you married, please do the honorable thing and divorce her.

 

How about NOT acting the way that you deplore women for acting? At least live by your OWN standards, for heaven's sake. If you were to come here to find a post from a married woman that said:

 

"If I could do it all over I would have married some millionaire who could have bought me all the material things that I crave,"

 

or

 

"If I could do it all over I would have married a guy with a much more gigantic wiener who could rock my world a lot better than my husband does with his average sized schlong"

 

or

 

"If I could do it all over I would have married Joe instead, because he ended up with a much more status - worthy position"

 

etc, etc, etc,

 

Imagine the woman - bashing field day you'd have?

 

Pot! Meet Kettle!

xxoo Established Member

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Nothing yet or nothing that I know about.

 

A woman who was under my thumb would make a difference because then I would know she could not leave me. I don't believe any woman truly just loves a man so my wife must have some ulterior motive but I can't figure it out.

 

Under your thumb???

 

How would you intend to keep her there?

 

Again, "stepford wives" don't actually exist. Even a dependent wife will grow, and could become independent. Listen to the lyrics of "Landslide".

 

You'll never feel secure until you fix you.

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Woggle Established Member

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Woggle, I sure feel sorry for your wife. Does she know that you regret having married her? Since you are so unhappy and dissatisfied with the traits of the woman you married, please do the honorable thing and divorce her.

 

How about NOT acting the way that you deplore women for acting? At least live by your OWN standards, for heaven's sake. If you were to come here to find a post from a married woman that said:

 

"If I could do it all over I would have married some millionaire who could have bought me all the material things that I crave,"

 

or

 

"If I could do it all over I would have married a guy with a much more gigantic wiener who could rock my world a lot better than my husband does with his average sized schlong"

 

or

 

"If I could do it all over I would have married Joe instead, because he ended up with a much more status - worthy position"

 

etc, etc, etc,

 

Imagine the woman - bashing field day you'd have?

 

Pot! Meet Kettle!

 

Most of the women here bashing me would say you go girl.

Pyro Established Member

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Woggle you are just like the type of women that you dispise. You crave drama. You can't live without it. You don't start these threads for help or to vent. If you did you would read every response. You are here on LS to get your drama fix.

xxoo Established Member

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Also I fail to realize how I abuse my wife. What exactly do I do that can be considered abuse?

 

I don't know that you do.

 

But if you are telling your wife that she does not deserve trust because "all women" are untrustworthy, when she has done NOTHING to earn your distrust, that is emotional abuse. If you are telling her you wish you'd married someone else, that is emotional abuse. She deserves love, trust, and appreciation.

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Woggle Established Member

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I don't know that you do.

 

But if you are telling your wife that she does not deserve trust because "all women" are untrustworthy, when she has done NOTHING to earn your distrust, that is emotional abuse. If you are telling her you wish you'd married someone else, that is emotional abuse. She deserves love, trust, and appreciation.

 

Do men deserve this as well in your world and if the genders were reversed would you feel it was abuse?

Pyro Established Member

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Do men deserve this as well in your world and if the genders were reversed would you feel it was abuse?

 

Broken record here.:rolleyes:

 

You continue to ask the same damn questions over and over.

 

Divorce her or see a professional. No one here can help you.

xxoo Established Member

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Do men deserve this as well in your world and if the genders were reversed would you feel it was abuse?

 

Yes! Yes! YES!!!

CLC2008 Established Member

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Why do you guys try so hard to help Woggle? I've been guilty of it before, but it's useless and draining. He's locked in an endless loop, and LS is locked in that loop with him. The same arguments and rebuttals are made over and over. It's depressing. Whenever he comes around briefly it's because he decides to, not because of what people on here have told him. I get the sense he barely hears anything that we write. He's trapped in this bubble and the only comment that occasionally pierces through is one that either affirms his negative beliefs or is an easy target for them.

 

I've noticed on message boards in general that people like this draw the biggest responses? Why is that? It's like we're all addicted to trying to change somebody who's unchangeable. Is it the same drive that keeps people in drama-filled relationships, trying to change a "project" SO?

 

My concern is public first, woggle is secondary. When the OP has good and optimistic moments, I commend him and I feel happy for him.

 

I do not, however, take kindly to someone who pushes their own personal agenda on a public forum from a view that is distorted towards society as a whole. Especially when it starts to leak over to other peoples lives (i.e. his wife) and/or members of a forum who come here to seek help and/or guidance.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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La la la la la... what the hell is that irritating little buzz....?

 

You can't hear us......

I can't hear you.......:rolleyes:

shadowplay Established Member

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My concern is public first, woggle is secondary. When the OP has good and optimistic moments, I commend him and I feel happy for him.

 

I do not, however, take kindly to someone who pushes their own personal agenda on a public forum from a view that is distorted towards society as a whole. Especially when it starts to leak over to other peoples lives (i.e. his wife) and/or members of a forum who come here to seek help and/or guidance.

 

But don't you see that responding to his threads is just feeding the problem? He would have no prominence on this board if people didn't hand it to him. LS is enabling the unhealthy cycle.

CLC2008 Established Member

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But don't you see that responding to his threads is just feeding the problem? He would have no prominence on this board if people didn't hand it to him. LS is enabling the unhealthy cycle.

 

You're right.

 

Signing off this thread...

 

Thank you Shadowplay.

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