juju Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Hi Everyone! I need your advice and honesty! I had a really good friend, whose boyfriend treated her really badly. I was always there to listen to her cry or complain about him. It started to get on my nerves because she'd ask my opinion, which was, of course that she deserved better and needed to get rid of this jerk, but never took it. Recently, he began to be rude to me by not returning my calls, or by not showing up or doing the things he said he'd do. I am really angry that my friend not only allows him to treat her badly, but now she's making excuses for how rude he's been treating me and our other girlfriends. It hurts because it feels like she's chosen him over me!! Am I right to tell her that I don't want to be around her as long as she's with him, or am I wrong to force her to choose between a friend and a boy? Thanks MUCH! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Honestly JuJu.....friendships rarely win out over 'love and harmones'. Maybe it would be best to step away awhile....and let her realize her own feelings of LOSS...when her friends aren't around to always pick up the pieces. Maybe then, she will realize what an A$$ he is. Link to post Share on other sites
juju Posted January 15, 2004 Share Posted January 15, 2004 Thank you, that is what I intend to do. I guess its my fear that she wont miss me, and I will her! But thanks for your response! Link to post Share on other sites
advicegirl Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Honestly I don't think people should be making there friends chose between other people. But if you don't want to hang around her when she is with him then thats ok, you have a right to say it. advicegirl Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Am I right to tell her that I don't want to be around her as long as she's with him, or am I wrong to force her to choose between a friend and a boy? I would recommend softening it...don't turn it into an accusation. How about, "Please call me when you'd like to do something that's just the two of us." Or even, "I know Josh is a great guy, but I sometimes feel that he and I just don't click well. How about you get a hold of me when he is at work, and we can do something together?" Link to post Share on other sites
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