Very confused about what to do next.

[Kanuk]

Just cutting and pasting this from the Second chances forum, probably more appropriate to have it here.

 

I know a lot of you have followed my storey, and I know most think, as do I, that I'm never going to hear from the ex ever again, let alone get back together with her.

 

SO here's my new problem (Maybe this should be in the dating forum, but it could apply here).

 

I was at the bar last night with my buddies, and i noticed a kinda cute girl. Nothing really special, i was thinking about the ex all night long anyways, so i campared her to the ex and the physical comparison was nothing at least. The ex seems to be far superior to any women in that way, at least to me.

 

Anyways, we made eye contact a couple of times thru the night and she was eventually alone at her table, I'm assuming her friends went for a smoke. Well, i got some liquid courage in me and then got up and went to talk to her. IT was akeward at first, cause i'm really shy, but we eventually got to talking and chatted for quite a while. Her friends came back and mine wanted to leave, so we ended going our ways, but i akwardly asked for her number and got it (don'tknow if it's real or not yet).

 

Anyways, after i left the bar, i realized... i have no iterest really. She's kind of cute, but i'm always thinking of the ex. But i asked for HER number... so what do i do now? Should i try a date or 2 anyways and se what happens? Or not bother her again. And what effect could this have with the ex? Could it upset her if she hears about it (I don't know how this could be possible with the ex over 200km away and no contact in 3 months) but you never know.

 

I just don't know what to do.

 

And another reaaaaaaaaaaaaly odd twist to this whole thing is that i've been praying (if that's your thing) for guidance and strength in this whole thing to get me thru. I even went as far as to pray for a vision int he form of a dream as to what would happen, or what i should do. And odd as it sounds, i actually had a wierd dream where i was spending the wholedream talking to some women i did not know. This was about a week or so ago.

 

Sure enough, i realized before i went to bed last night, i s*** you not, the girl i met last night was the girl in the dream. Looked just like her. How is this possible that i could have a dream about someone I've never met before? What does it all mean?

[Arabess]

I personally believe 'With God....ALL things are possible'.

 

You seem like such a great guy Kanuk....some girl is going to get real lucky....and snatch you right up!

[flyswatter04]

well first off it will take a while to get over your ex. belive me its happend to me before. anyways. God (or who ever you might pray to) might be trying to tell you something. He does communate through dreams. all ican tell you really is take your dreams and belive in them, and even though you see a girl who doen not really look like the girl you saw in your dreams dont be afarid to tak to her. You never know that the one you were ment to marry could be her friend, sister..... Anyways Good luck with everthing.

[Kanuk]

But what should i do about the girl from last night?

I'm not really sure if I'm interested in anythign with her, but I did ask HER for her number and she gave one (still don't know if it's real or not, i hear some people do that).

 

So it would be mean and rude of me not to at least call right? Maybe i could just take a friendship approach with her? I just don't know what to do.

 

Thanks for any and all advice.

[flyswatter04]

ok then. Prsonally, i think that you should call up the girl. give her another chance. at least who knows you might change your mind about her. if not well just be thankful that you to are not dating yet. at the least try to be her friend.