Broski37 Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 I've known this girl for about 3months now. Met her randomly through a friend during a vacation trip. We live about 2,000 miles away. It was great the first 2.5 months...talking everyday, texting and chatting online throughout the day. We visited each other twice and this girl was everything I ever wanted in a partner and fell in love and I thought she did as well. A week after the 2nd visit she stated that she realized that she is not ready for a LDR and a serious commitment. WTF? Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 It happens, but that's life. Sorry to sound so blunt, but it's true. All you can do is move on with your life and hope to find someone else who wants to be with you in the type of relationship you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Broski37 Posted April 4, 2010 Author Share Posted April 4, 2010 I was thinking that and that is what I generally do. But for some reason this situation, this girl is just too important to me. Let me elaborate a little. It can be said that we moved way too fast, way too quick. One of her reasons for putting on the breaks. What I don't understand and I might never is that she was the one pushing it all the way. At first I was a little apprehensive but getting to know her on a different level...talking every night and what not...I came to realize that this girl is the one for me. She makes me see all the wrong things that I am doing with my life and makes me want to change them and become a better person. Furthermore she has had a couple of long distance boyfriends before and they didn't work out. She says that by being with them she's learned that there is an obligation/requirement to talk every night, pretty much every free sec you have you should devote to your SO, and what not...and she felt really pressured. I communicated that she should just do want she wants and never feel obligated to do anything for me. She started balling and stated that she feels that there is something wrong with her and she is shutting herself off. All of this happened about a couple of weeks after the last time I saw her. There were no indications that she was feeling this way. She just wrote am email saying that she is not ready for a serious commitment b/c she just got out of a relationship, that she need to figure herself out more and is content on being single for now. We still talk a couple of days out of the week...nothing about this drama anymore...just talking like friends. I guess my question is how should I go about fighting for her. I also don't want to push her further away or put too much pressure on her. I really do love her and just want her to be happy. But I also truly want to be with her. And I am seriously considering moving over there in a few months. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I felt the same way about my ex whom I was in a LDR with. I'd do anything for him possible, and I too felt in my heart he was the "one". He actually was the first guy I'd ever been with who made me think the idea of having a soulmate was even possible. So from experience I'd say the best thing to do is let her go. If she says she can't be in a relationship now, just let her go. If she really loves you and wants to be with you, she'll find a way to come back someday. Link to post Share on other sites
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